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'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 12/07/2021 14:06

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

OP posts:
x2boys · 14/07/2021 00:30

@ahola

But seeing the story about the page boy with green hair, reminds me of another wedding thread which was possibly my favourite MN thread ever:

OP is getting married, and asks her sister (I think, possibly niece) to be a ring bearer. Sister then starts going on about outfits...rather than dresses... turns out that she was thinking of ring bearer as in LOTR. Lovely OP lets her dress as an hobbit anyway Smile

OP reported it much better than I!

I think think the sister had learning disabilities possibly Down syndrome, I vaguely remember photos it was very sweet
ShirleyDab · 14/07/2021 01:11

@Amandasummers

Was there ever an explanation to the one where the DW and DC visited DH at work and the rep came in like she owned the place and nobody said anything at the time and all that business???
That was a strange one, I wondered what the upshot of it was.
bumblenbean · 14/07/2021 01:42

A couple of years ago there was a poster whose baby had accidentally fallen (off the sofa I think) and hit its head - she was asking what to do and was in a total panic and there was a huge pile on- everyone was telling her she was neglectful and why wasn’t she at the hospital etc. It was awful. I sent her a message to ask if she was ok but I think she deleted her account and I’ve never seen her post since. I think her name was MrsStrowger or MrsStrowman or something

SecretKeeper1 · 14/07/2021 02:00

@ahola

Oh no, why did you remind me of "clock bus Canada"?
Speaking of buses… anyone remember the fly space saga? Y’know, the FLY space, on the bus? Grin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2927932-AIBU-about-the-man-on-the-bus

MitzyMooo · 14/07/2021 02:57

I often wonder what happened to Greenberet, she usually posted when very angry with Stbxh who left her for OW.

FayeFayeFayeFayeFaye · 14/07/2021 06:38

I always remember the wedding ones, and they never get updated.

The one where the nephew (I think it was) didn’t invite the OP who was the aunt and her family to his wedding despite him and his soon to be wife visiting every weekend for Sunday dinner. Caused a lot of upset in the family.

The one where the OP was in a group of friends and the bride handed out bridesmaid invitations to all of them, on an evening out, but not the OP.

The one where the OP was out with her bf’s family and wedding invitations were being handed out in front of her, (think possibly the bf’s sister) and the OP’s name wasn’t on the invitation.

The one where the OP worked on reception with the bride to be, heard all about the wedding prep, got on really well with the bride, then when it came to it everyone got an invitation apart from her.

And of course can’t get forget Tidydancer’s classic threads. But we know the ending to those!

Don’t know why I remember the wedding ones!

LuaDipa · 14/07/2021 06:47

@cabingirl

And there was one which had to be taken down to protect the OP I think who had bought a house in a small village and was being harassed by neighbours or locals who wanted the house themselves. Every now and then I hope she's okay.
I often think of this one and hope things worked out.
Covidwoes · 14/07/2021 06:54

I often wonder if Sistine Chapel woman has been similarly overcome with emotion since. 😂 I so hope she was genuine...

AncientandFabulous · 14/07/2021 07:35

@BadgerWatch

I always remember one from a few years back from a woman who's DD had met a really controlling partner at university and was going to move in with him when she finished. He was increasingly isolating the DD from the everyone and the poor family was so stressed. I hope they helped her get away from him.
I remember this to. It’s stayed with me unlike other threads.
Gh0stontoast · 14/07/2021 07:50

Sadly no badgerwatch and ancientandfabulous.

Two DCs, another on the way and he wants to relocate to another country, and home educate. Very sad.

PinkTonic · 14/07/2021 07:52

Indeed. On numerous threads, MNHQ have deleted posts for troll hunting, issued a warning about not troll hunting, then later had to delete the thread for being a troll

Having previously moderated forums, you will always get fantasists, troublemakers and the stubborn. IIRC, Mumsnet is one of the most trolled forums anywhere, largely because it has one of the biggest gatherings of women talking about stuff which is always a threat to the very fabric of civilisation. Hence why I find the stance of troll hunting inconsistent and unreasonable

There was a multi thread saga a few years ago where the woman suspected her DH of cheating. It stunk from the get go, but she quickly gathered a group of cheerleaders and anyone who asked for clarification was attacked. They were egging her on to ‘guess’ his phone password which turned out to be the dog’s birthday iirc. She was deleted, banned, reinstated and continued the saga for many threads. Eventually she actually went to a meet up and was properly outed as having made the whole thing up. I think it even involved another family, but I’m not sure as I lost interest when she was allowed back when it was so glaringly obvious she was a troll. Very odd and potentially somewhat sad that someone behaved that way, but also weird that she was given the benefit of the doubt in the face of massive inconsistencies. I assume it’s all about traffic.

bruffin · 14/07/2021 07:56

@TakeMe2Insanity

A few months ago there was a lady who posted that she had just bought a house and was going to leave her husband. She was so excited. She then posted again to say it was days away and then nothing. Lots of advice to wipe history take documents etc. I think about if she made it out.
That was a troll, nothing added up ie completing on a bank holiday. She had NC slip which also didn't make sense ie it was the children that were the problem not the DH. Lots of backpeddling but still nonsense. I think she was probably moving but the dramatics
bruffin · 14/07/2021 07:58

@Covidwoes

I often wonder if Sistine Chapel woman has been similarly overcome with emotion since. 😂 I so hope she was genuine...
That was a rip off from a Alexander McCall Smith book
AncientandFabulous · 14/07/2021 07:58

Gh0stontoast I’m sorry to hear that. It must be very difficult. FlowersFlowers

Gh0stontoast · 14/07/2021 08:01

I’m not the OP, ancientandfabulous.

Cheeseismymiddlename · 14/07/2021 08:15

@Jumpjumpjumper. Was that the one titled I have a secret to spill ?

I’ve wondered about her too . I hope she is settled .

bruffin · 14/07/2021 08:20

[quote Cheeseismymiddlename]@Jumpjumpjumper. Was that the one titled I have a secret to spill ?

I’ve wondered about her too . I hope she is settled .[/quote]
No she was a troll

Clem4579 · 14/07/2021 08:56

One from years ago, OP was called Apple something (possibly AppleCrumble?) I think she was a Civil Servant, and she had been suspended from work. Very long thread/ threads, she got shit loads of free advice, people extremely helpful and supportive.
I would have liked to have known if she managed to keep her job but she never updated her thread.

BadgerWatch · 14/07/2021 08:59

Thank you @Gh0stontoast not the update I would have liked to have heard.

CharityDingle · 14/07/2021 09:28

I remember the green haired page boy! Grin
There was no end to the story though, damn it.

AutistGoth · 14/07/2021 11:15

One thread that I always loved was "How to feel like you're on holiday when you are not." It's in classics and I love to read it every so often to remind myself of the holiday feeling. It was a godsend during lockdown.

I'd love to add to the thread, but I might get in trouble for reviving a zombie thread!

Here it is: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/2886199-How-to-feel-like-youre-on-holiday-when-youre-not?pg=1&order=

PropertyFlipper · 14/07/2021 11:54

There was another poster who was around for years, frequently spoke about her no hoper DH who seemed to be constantly stoned and unwilling to step up work wise. She seemed to carry everything and was unprepared to do anything to change it. It sounded awful. Not sure if she ever did do anything.

ShortBacknSides · 14/07/2021 12:01

The thread that still haunts me was another of the "slowly realising that my husband is controlling and abusive" genre, by a poster called @GettingBig. She then changed her name to GettingStronger. Her husband had forced her into being pregnant by deceit, and they had money, but he wouldn't spend it on making the electrics safe in their kitchen.

It was the same old, same old: husband expecting totally subservient housewife/SAHM and using coercive control & psychological /emotional abuse.

This is a genre, and now I wonder if it was a troll. But I think the reason we believe this genre is because we know it happens. And if the advice is good, even if it's a troll-thread, then someone reading it who is in that situation, may well learn, take courage etc etc.

I think internet trolls think they're so superior to us who believe them. THey're not - they're spineless no-hope bullies. But if someone else learns or gains courage from a troll-created thread, then something good has happened.

MackieMayor · 14/07/2021 12:17

@Moulesvinrouge1

Does anyone remember a poster called LaQueen? She was very eloquent, but started revealing some not so nice behaviours then was outed in real life, was that correct?

@Moulesvinrouge1 yes, I do - what happened to her? She often referred to her very charmed life didn't she?

I wonder about Kateandthegirls too.

And Lavenderrrr!

Is PrincessPeaHead still here?

Alipali29 · 14/07/2021 12:47

@PropertyFlipper
That's similar to the one I remember. Same thing about the no hoper husband who was lazy and never helped out but then she also found out he was taking money from savings to buy class A's. She was adamant she'd leave him when she found out but I do wonder if she ever did!