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'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 12/07/2021 14:06

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

OP posts:
Whatwouldscullydo · 12/07/2021 16:53

There was one from a woman who was planning to go on holiday with like a week.old baby or something but the baby hadn't even been born and so the date was a guess from the due date and not the actual age of the baby and all hinged in everything with with birth going perfectly There were something like 6 or 7 other kids ajd a complete deadbeat of an ex partner who didn't do much and she was debating whether to take him back or not I think too.

Can't remember everything. I hope she ajd the kids are OK and the deadbeat gone once and for all.

RogueMnerHidesUnderABigHat · 12/07/2021 16:54

@RuggerHug

Did the fajita Friday woman actually give birth to the second coming of Christ in the end?
Who could ever forget Phyllis!!!!

Was it PhyllisNights?

I often think of her too

BlackberrySky · 12/07/2021 16:58

I'd love to know what happened to the woman who posted in disgust about men stripping off in front of her child in the swimming pool changing room, only to drip feed that she had in fact chosen to sit in the men's changing room for half an hour!

BattineBlooms · 12/07/2021 17:03

@bargelights

So. Many. Trolls.
Oh, no, I refuse to believe that! There are real people behind these posts. Calling them trolls is very not in the spirit! It could be very hurtful to them.
Kanaloa · 12/07/2021 17:03

I realise this is totally different to what you’ve really asked, but I constantly wonder about the Bob Dylan troll. I’d love to know who the person really is. Like sometimes I’ll be sitting in a train station and look at someone opposite and think ‘that could be the Bob Dylan weirdo from mumsnet.’

Other than that, I often think of the ones whose husbands are just fuckwads. Like someone will post aibu that DH has never done any household chores although I work 70 hours a week. I actually find myself thinking why do you value yourself so little. It seems to affect me much more than very abusive ones.

DrSbaitso · 12/07/2021 17:04

@BlackberrySky

I'd love to know what happened to the woman who posted in disgust about men stripping off in front of her child in the swimming pool changing room, only to drip feed that she had in fact chosen to sit in the men's changing room for half an hour!
I'd forgotten that one!

I seem to recall it had a "thanks for the reports but she's actually genuine" message from MNHQ...

x2boys · 12/07/2021 17:04

@silvergoldstars

Out of interest why does everybody remember and want to know about ESD?

I don’t understand it at all.

The four week old baby woman was a scamming troll.

I don't know it's interesting isn't on every, who is your favourite poster thread/where are they now etc thread ESD is mentioned within a few posts
EmmalineC · 12/07/2021 17:05

Clairindespair was a troll, there was no baby, she was just in it for the money and apparently she got given a fair few quid from posters trying to help her out. She posted again a few weeks after the 'I hate my baby' saga, saying she was desperately ill in hospital and needed a handhold, and NOBODY responded. I think that says everything.

SunshineCake · 12/07/2021 17:05

There are lots of posters I still think about. I won't name them but the situation where one lady had a husband who had his big fancy car but she had to use an unsafe washing machine. He was controlling, of course. Another poster who wanted to leave her husband and found a fabulous job in another country, with posters willing to help, but she stayed and had two more kids with him. Another was a lady married to a man of a different nationality, living in his country, also controlling her but she got away with him visiting and making demands. I'd love to know how she and her children are doing as she sounded so strong and free.

BattineBlooms · 12/07/2021 17:06

@Winterfellismyhome

I often think about the lady who packed up her car and left with her baby whilst her husband was at work. I think DV was involved. She had horses too. I hope shes okay
Aw, yes, her name was DorothyDinosaur or similar. Posters were so nice, offering hand holds and support, even volunteering to look after her horses! Thankfully I think everything wrapped up so nicely for her after her threads were moved to the Other Place.
RonObvious · 12/07/2021 17:08

@Fiercestcalm

I want to know where the ironing board went to in the woman’s flat…
Me too! That one really bugs me.
bargelights · 12/07/2021 17:09

Oh, no, I refuse to believe that! There are real people behind these posts. Calling them trolls is very not in the spirit! It could be very hurtful to them.

Poor little trolls. Sad

BattineBlooms · 12/07/2021 17:10

ESD was mentioned by Jo Brand, in The Guardian, if I remember correctly. I think that makes her quite famous! She was quite different to the typical Mumsnet userbase. No wonder people remember her!

Chicchicchicchiclana · 12/07/2021 17:10

I think of the woman in her 40s whose early 20s daughter with severe mental health problems, was living in a filthy house with her drug addict boyfriend and pregnant. The thread was 90% encouraging her to give up her new child-free life and support her daughter in having this baby and how it was all going to be great and pull the family together and maybe make the daughter grow up hmm.

The other 10% of us were saying "what about abortion? it would seem to be the best option in these particular circumstances" and we all got shouted at for being mean and disgusting.

I'd like to know if that baby was born and how everything is going now.

DadOnIce · 12/07/2021 17:10

The mysterious bathroom with the noise like a night clicking on and off from the other side of the wall just after the light in the bathroom itself went on -- was that ever solved?

Maireas · 12/07/2021 17:11

Remember the £40 per head BBQ, where the hostess had a panic attack and they left without eating? I still can't fathom why they paid £80 to an aquintance for a back garden BBQ. I do wonder what happened, though.

Shitfuckcommaetc · 12/07/2021 17:13

There was a lady who was being extremely controlled and abused by her husband. Not being allowed a job out of the house, and him waking her at 5am when he got up as she wasn't allowed to lay in.

I think about her often, and wish I could help her

AngusThermopyle · 12/07/2021 17:13

I have one from years ago that I always wonder about.
It was titled something like ‘oh no, not my lovely DH’.
The dh was playing with kids in the garden and she’d just found out (from on his phone I think) that he had been cheating.
Can not for the life of me remember the name or what happened but I’ve often wondered.

BattineBlooms · 12/07/2021 17:14

@EmmalineC

Clairindespair was a troll, there was no baby, she was just in it for the money and apparently she got given a fair few quid from posters trying to help her out. She posted again a few weeks after the 'I hate my baby' saga, saying she was desperately ill in hospital and needed a handhold, and NOBODY responded. I think that says everything.
No, surely not? Who could possibly lie about something so terrible?
babbaloushka · 12/07/2021 17:15

My memory is terrible, I never seem to remember threads. One I do was by a mum who's little girl became really tired and apathetic, out of the blue. I don't know if she ever came back, or we found out what happened.

Who is ESD?

CloudPop · 12/07/2021 17:16

@BattineBlooms

ESD was mentioned by Jo Brand, in The Guardian, if I remember correctly. I think that makes her quite famous! She was quite different to the typical Mumsnet userbase. No wonder people remember her!
What's ESD?
Booksandwine80 · 12/07/2021 17:17

@EmmalineC

Oh FFS, I didn’t realise that. Blush

Reallyhadenough · 12/07/2021 17:18

@whatwouldscullydo how long ago was that one?

AryaStarkWolf · 12/07/2021 17:19

Oh the one I think about a lot is the woman who was in a school mom friendship group and 1 of the women told the others that she'd made a pass at her husband and most of the group took the other woman's side even though she was able to prove it wasn't true by confronting the husband himself

SmidgenofaPigeon · 12/07/2021 17:19

I wouldn’t be worrying about the poster with the small baby saying she hated her life.

That was fake.

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