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'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 12/07/2021 14:06

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

OP posts:
KateTheEighth · 13/07/2021 19:13

Is 'iCod' on Twitter Cod from here?
If so then her typing there is a lot better than it was here

Yes, that's her

PropertyFlipper · 13/07/2021 19:16

Oh god, David and Caroline. I watched that thread unfold in slow motion, in disbelief at the number of gullible posters lining up to express their sympathy....

And the poor fishtank husband lady....he sounded absolutely brutal.

checkoutchick22 · 13/07/2021 19:18

Twittlebee Woods...
I think it was. The op had inherited some woodland and the neighbours had put up a fence and tried to land grab it.
I think she had a personal loss and disappeared.
I often think of her and hope she's OK and camping in her Woodland with her family.

DartmoorDoughnut · 13/07/2021 19:31

Oh the other one was the girls trip holiday and the OP was paying for them all and one of the husbands decided he wanted in and booked a flight and everything, was insane

MyFartWillGoOn · 13/07/2021 19:36

@DartmoorDoughnut

Oh the other one was the girls trip holiday and the OP was paying for them all and one of the husbands decided he wanted in and booked a flight and everything, was insane
Oh gosh yes. And I think the OP was paying for her friends as it was her treat and her friend invited her husband without asking, but expected her friend to also pay for him.

I do think it was resolved and she put her foot down but the friend was incredulous and didn't think she'd done anything wrong.

MyFartWillGoOn · 13/07/2021 19:41

People have mentioned the David and Caroline thread a lot and I understand sits all been deleted.

Could anyone summarise for me or would that be too close to a TAAT?

x2boys · 13/07/2021 19:47

@MyFartWillGoOn

People have mentioned the David and Caroline thread a lot and I understand sits all been deleted.

Could anyone summarise for me or would that be too close to a TAAT?

I think there is a long thread about it on mumsnet subreddit, I didn't follow it so I'm not really certain of the details, but I think the subreddit was set up because of David and Caroline
catinboots21 · 13/07/2021 19:53

Other people can probably summarise better - but David started a thread about his dying wife Caroline and their small DS. MNers falling over themselves with offers of support (financial and all sorts)

He posted a voice clip of Caroline apparently on her deathbed thanking Mumsnet. All the while he was sending dodgy PMs to various posters asking for nudes and the like.

All got a bit weird because an apparent colleague of Caroline came on and confirmed she had died. It seemed she was actually a real person. There was stuff online to confirm this.

Lots of people invested and upset. Lots of us knew he was a troll from the first post. MNHQ got involved and it all went poof - could never be mentioned again.

Fucking bizarre. Hence people went to Reddit so they could discuss it without being shut down.

Alipali29 · 13/07/2021 20:11

@Alipali29

I remember the one where the op found out her husband was taking money from their savings to buy class A drugs and she said she was going to divorce him. She'd been having a rough time with him for ages as they had been doing counselling before she found out about the drugs. Anyway, a few months later some posters were having a go at her as they felt she hadn't left him (maybe from reading other posts of hers), she then became defenceless and said she had left him but still calls him dh on mumsnet 🤔 I always wonder if she actually really did leave him!
Please does anyone remember this one?
Bollockstothat · 13/07/2021 20:32

Oh the other one was the girls trip holiday and the OP was paying for them all and one of the husbands decided he wanted in and booked a flight and everything, was insane

That was a troll, wasn't it like 90% of the other threads mentioned on here?

SingToTheSky, was it MrsDeVere that had the neighbour/shed problem? I remember her for other reasons to, obvs, but that was infuriating to read about so I can only imagine what it was like to live it.

chafingstraightjacket · 13/07/2021 20:59

Never ending story

I think I am the poster you referred to. Smile
You're very kind to think of me.

Yes my now ex husband was having an affair with one of the TA staff who looked after my disabled son.**

I'm divorced now, he fought tooth and nail through the whole thing and tried to make me out to be the bad guy.

They have a child who's around 18 months. I haven't met the child but my other children have.

He left her around last Xmas and is living with yet another woman. I did feel a bit sorry for OW because I know she had fallen for a lot of lies when they started seeing each other. We'll never be friends but I think we were both treated badly by him.

I'm fine thanks, life is quite difficult because I don't really get any breaks from caring but we get by.

I had deregistered from Mumsnet for a few weeks as I had a bit of a scare with a data leak but have still been browsing. I thought I would rejoin to post this.

So that's an update for you. Wink

Alipali29 · 13/07/2021 21:07

I guess no one remembers her but I really don't think she was a troll! It didn't drag on. She just mentioned by chance a divorce and having to use vouchers she got from Amazon after taking out new life insurance. Although then there were posters who claimed she still was calling him dh in other posts hmm

itcouldhave · 13/07/2021 22:12

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

also the gardener story the poster has just come on to say it was true

But that doesn't mean it was true. I'm not saying it isn't - I didn't read the original thread and have no opinion of whether it was real or fake - but in principle. MNHQ has extremely limited tools in working out whether someone's story is real, so "it hasn't been deleted and the poster says it's true" doesn't mean a thing.

Indeed. On numerous threads, MNHQ have deleted posts for troll hunting, issued a warning about not troll hunting, then later had to delete the thread for being a troll.

Having previously moderated forums, you will always get fantasists, troublemakers and the stubborn. IIRC, Mumsnet is one of the most trolled forums anywhere, largely because it has one of the biggest gatherings of women talking about stuff which is always a threat to the very fabric of civilisation. Hence why I find the stance of troll hunting inconsistent and unreasonable.

For example, a thread was posted earlier today which was very clearly a troll thread. Numerous posters recognised it as such and reported it, but there were also a LOT of troll hunting posts on it. None of those people were penalised for troll hunting, yet others apparently are. So does MN ban troll hunting or not? Or only when it suits them?

Gemma2019 · 13/07/2021 22:21

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Sparklingbrook · 13/07/2021 22:23

ESD was not neglectful to her DC.

Amandasummers · 13/07/2021 22:29

Was there ever an explanation to the one where the DW and DC visited DH at work and the rep came in like she owned the place and nobody said anything at the time and all that business???

ahola · 13/07/2021 23:18

Oh no, why did you remind me of "clock bus Canada"?

ahola · 13/07/2021 23:21

But seeing the story about the page boy with green hair, reminds me of another wedding thread which was possibly my favourite MN thread ever:

OP is getting married, and asks her sister (I think, possibly niece) to be a ring bearer. Sister then starts going on about outfits...rather than dresses... turns out that she was thinking of ring bearer as in LOTR. Lovely OP lets her dress as an hobbit anyway Smile

OP reported it much better than I!

BadgerWatch · 13/07/2021 23:30

I always remember one from a few years back from a woman who's DD had met a really controlling partner at university and was going to move in with him when she finished. He was increasingly isolating the DD from the everyone and the poor family was so stressed. I hope they helped her get away from him.

Moulesvinrouge1 · 13/07/2021 23:31

Does anyone remember a poster called LaQueen? She was very eloquent, but started revealing some not so nice behaviours then was outed in real life, was that correct?

Veronika13 · 13/07/2021 23:34

Whoever said OpheliaRose was a troll because she has LIAR in her name - I hope you're right. The story of her husband leaving her and the twins for a gorgeous work colleague - touched me a bit.

And also I wanted to call my kid Ophelia rose but now it's been ruined for me 😂

Trudij123 · 13/07/2021 23:35

Oh! I’ve just remembered another one - I’m going to go and look, but what happened with the recent one about the neighbours wanting to build on the poster’s garden and swap the top good bit for their bottom scrappy useless bit?

CinnamonCurls · 13/07/2021 23:44

Not sure if anyone has mentioned this but remember Whiskeychaser and the CF friend and the lifts to the kids clubs as a favour and she was incredulous at the suggestion of her walking to friends house to save her some time? I was so invested in that 😂

Also one recently where a FIL was moving into the back garden of his daughter and son in law and was selling up his property and giving them the money to buy a bigger house that he'd live in the back garden of? Desperate to know what happened there! Think it was @ThornAmongstRoses?

CinnamonCurls · 13/07/2021 23:46

@ThornAmongstRoses Oops, sorry just seen your update! Such a relief he pulled out!

HollaHolla · 13/07/2021 23:56

@RuggerHug

The one where the OP kept finding hair that wasn't hers or her DSs in the bathroom. That took a bad turn and every now and then I wonder if they're OK.
Oh my word. I missed that one. What happened? I hope they were/are ok. 🤞🏻