To not invite step child to Disneyworld next year?

[Ohanaa]

We have 1 DSC (13) and 2 DC together. (7&10)

We go away most years on some sort of holiday... Weekend U.K. break, abroad, U.K. theme parks etc. We Always invite DSC but they have never wanted to be away from their mum or their mum has said no.

We are looking to book 3 weeks in Florida & universal for next year.

Aibu not to invite DSC this time? I can see her mum saying yes and then saying no at the last moment (she had done this once before).

I don’t want to waste money to be honest.

Dsc is already going to Orlando next year for 5 days with her mum & nan.

@Getyourarseofffthequattro haha I didn’t miss it AT ALL. It’s a saying. She is the second one, always will be. Shame

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro haha I didn’t miss it AT ALL. It’s a saying. She is the second one, always will be. Shame[/quote]
But... She's not because he wasn't married. You can't be a second wife to someone who didn't have a first one.

Dear me you're bitter about something aren't you.

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro I’d argue a damn sight better than someone on the internet encouraging such vile behaviour towards a child[/quote]
There's nothing vile about asking a child's parent to essentially put a deposit down on a trip.

@Getyourarseofffthequattro

Not bitter at all, just grown in my co parenting relationship and would NEVER do this to either other parent OR child.

It’s hardly a deposit, 3 weeks in Disney world plus tickets…. For a trip she didn’t book or won’t be going on. As I said, if she doesn’t have it, then DC will be upset, and it’s on mum. When it’s not really is it? It’s on OP for being so bitter and can’t think of the child before her issues

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro I’ve read the thread thank you and all I can see is a bitter second wife who is inconvenienced by her step child.[/quote]
Why would the ‘second wife’ be bitter, out of interest? She got the man.

haha I didn’t miss it AT ALL. It’s a saying. She is the second one, always will be. Shame

You say that like she’s actually bothered .

I’m sure after 10+ years the first one has paled in to existence 🤷🏼‍♀️

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro

Not bitter at all, just grown in my co parenting relationship and would NEVER do this to either other parent OR child.

It’s hardly a deposit, 3 weeks in Disney world plus tickets…. For a trip she didn’t book or won’t be going on. As I said, if she doesn’t have it, then DC will be upset, and it’s on mum. When it’s not really is it? It’s on OP for being so bitter and can’t think of the child before her issues[/quote]
But she’ll get it back.

@tallduckandhandsome how can you get something back that you dont have to start with

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro haha I didn’t miss it AT ALL. It’s a saying. She is the second one, always will be. Shame[/quote]
This reveals so much about your own feelings about your ex’s shiny new wife. Moved on quickly did he?

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro

Not bitter at all, just grown in my co parenting relationship and would NEVER do this to either other parent OR child.

It’s hardly a deposit, 3 weeks in Disney world plus tickets…. For a trip she didn’t book or won’t be going on. As I said, if she doesn’t have it, then DC will be upset, and it’s on mum. When it’s not really is it? It’s on OP for being so bitter and can’t think of the child before her issues[/quote]
Presumably you've never had to deal with someone who's goal is to literally ruin your life and catch the child in the crossfire? I have an yes you have to make hard decisions. You can't co parent with an arsehole no matter how hard you try.

She will get the money back. Put it on a credit card? That's what I'd do.

[quote Hppymum123]@tallduckandhandsome how can you get something back that you dont have to start with[/quote]
How can OP throw thousands of pounds away?

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro I’ve read the thread thank you and all I can see is a bitter second wife who is inconvenienced by her step child.[/quote]
I’m not even a second wife.

You clearly haven’t read the thread.

It’s on OP for being so bitter and can’t think of the child before her issues

Bitter about potentially wasting £2,000 and having to book DSD on “just in case”? Too bloody right! I would be too.

She wants to book a holiday for everyone, OP clearly wants DSD to come. But she does not want to throw 2 grand away.

[quote Hppymum123]@Getyourarseofffthequattro haha I didn’t miss it AT ALL. It’s a saying. She is the second one, always will be. Shame[/quote]
Not that I care but DSC was no more then a fuck when my husband was bored.

Why would I be bitter about being that.

@tallduckandhandsome sorry to say but no… We all co parent well and there are NO negative feelings there at all. It’s the single most important thing you need to do for your children when their parents aren’t together… for their sake.

DSC MUM*

[quote Hppymum123]@tallduckandhandsome how can you get something back that you dont have to start with[/quote]
She can find the money. It’s her problem.

Shouldn’t of fuxked everyone around to start with.

That’s an absolutely grim way of describing your step child

@Ohanaa that’s fine, but be prepared for DSC to hate you in the long run, and good luck to her dad dealing with that too. What a shame

[quote Hppymum123]@tallduckandhandsome sorry to say but no… We all co parent well and there are NO negative feelings there at all. It’s the single most important thing you need to do for your children when their parents aren’t together… for their sake.[/quote]
That's what you think I'd like to hear his new wife's pov.

@Hppymum123

That’s an absolutely grim way of describing your step child

I already said it was meant to have mum in.

It describes DSC MUM.

NOT THE CHILD CLEARLY

[quote Hppymum123]@Ohanaa that’s fine, but be prepared for DSC to hate you in the long run, and good luck to her dad dealing with that too. What a shame[/quote]
Why would she hate op? Op is inviting her on a holiday she otherwise wouldn't have a chance to go on? It's literally because of op (and her relative) that she's getting invited at all...

[quote Hppymum123]@Ohanaa that’s fine, but be prepared for DSC to hate you in the long run, and good luck to her dad dealing with that too. What a shame[/quote]
I will just tell her about her vindictive mum. As a adult she may realise how horrible her own mum
Was when she was a child to us

that’s fine, but be prepared for DSC to hate you in the long run, and good luck to her dad dealing with that too. What a shame

How hysterical are some of these comments.

I’m an RP. If I fucked about with my ex’s holidays with the kids then I have to accept that in the future he may well not take them. That would be on me.

Same with this mum. Dsd can hate the OP all she wants but she needs to look closer to home.

@Hppymum123 if you believe that then it's the mums turn to take some accountability right ? She won't lose anything if she doesn't mess around and puts DC first. Since she's not being asked to pay for the holiday, just being held to account. Win win unless drum roll "it wasn't about DC" but about control.

If she messes around then the blame is exactly where it should be and DC will see it as such too.

Op I think the best solution given situation.
It's what's best for the child and she gets to go win win