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AIBU to have wanted to eat my cakes?

133 replies

IWantedTheCake · 11/07/2021 17:20

NC in case anyone from work recognises this.

I've had a pretty full-on time at work the last few months, and was over the moon to find out I'd been put forward for one of the annual staff awards. It's really nice to have that recognition! Normally they'd have a big ceremony with a lunch, but what with covid it's online instead. As a congratulations for being nominated and in place of the lunch, the directors sent out a box of really nice cakes to everyone nominated. I'm up against a lot of senior and important people so know I won't get the award, but it was nice to be nominated and really nice to be sent these cakes.

I was real chuffed so obviously told DH, who said to save a slice for him. Which is fine, of course I'm going to share with him!

But there were 6 slices, I have had 1 already, and was hoping to have one with a cuppa while we have the online ceremony. But 5 minutes after DH came in today I heard him giving some to DD. I got a bit annoyed as they have a lot of sugar, she's only 2, and she'd already shared an ice cream with me at the park this afternoon, but I thought its not worth getting into an argument over.

Then I saw the empty box in the recycling. Went to double check in the fridge, and yep, they're all gone. I had 1 slice out of the 6. He and DD (but mainly him) have scoffed the rest. I know it's probably petty, but it feels like such a kick in the teeth. I worked really hard, taken on lots of extra responsibilities, and was just really looking forward to enjoying those cakes as a reward.

I told him I was annoyed, explained that 1. DD has already had enough sugar today 2. I was planning on saving a slice for the ceremony and 3. They were my bloody cakes! He's got all defensive, said I should've told him not to touch them, and is now in a huff saying he'll go to the shops and get me another cake if it's that big a deal, all passive-aggressive like. AIBU here?

OP posts:
Whataroyalannoyance · 11/07/2021 17:22

He is a greedy fucker

TooWicked · 11/07/2021 17:22

YANBU. The fucking greedy pig.

freeandfierce · 11/07/2021 17:23

Wow! I'd be seriously pissed off. Rude man!

RandomMess · 11/07/2021 17:23

DH is a hoover when it comes to food but even he wouldn't need to be told not to eat it all without checking with me!!!

He's been a greedy fucker.

MimiSunshine · 11/07/2021 17:23

So he ate 5 slices of cake? Were they minuscule?

Regardless that’s really selfish behaviour from him and yes he absolutely should go and get you a really nice cake to make up for it.

bdd2017 · 11/07/2021 17:23

So he essentially ate 4 of your cakes - finishing them in the process. Im fuming for you!

Iamthewombat · 11/07/2021 17:24

No, you are not BU.

I’d take him up on the replacement cake offer, but I’d make him get them from Betty’s or Konditor, somewhere good! Otherwise you’ll be fobbed off with a box of Mr Kipling.

If it is any consolation I suspect that it is a case of greedy guts rather than deliberate disrespect.

MimiSunshine · 11/07/2021 17:24

Oh and he shouldn’t need to be told not to do that.

notanotherguitar · 11/07/2021 17:25

Oh my god I’d be so angry OP. Like a PP said, my DH is also a hoover with food and eats any shopping the minute I put it in the fridge. But he would never do something like that! He ate five slices?

Congratulations on your nomination OP. Flowers

endofthelinefinally · 11/07/2021 17:25

That is really greedy and selfish. Does he behave like this generally?

Sunbird24 · 11/07/2021 17:25

He asked you to save him a slice and then ate 4, (assuming DD wouldn’t have managed more than one at her age)?
Too right he’s getting you a new one! I’d probably have got over him helping himself and DD to a slice each but not polishing off the whole thing, that’s incredibly thoughtless.

SerendipitySunshine · 11/07/2021 17:25

When did they arrive? That's crazy!

OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 11/07/2021 17:25

YANBU, this would piss me off, greedy selfish git.

Make sure he does go out and buy you even better cake 🍰 and eat it all in front of him.

Does he get at all why he was BU?

Sunbird24 · 11/07/2021 17:26

Oh, and congratulations!

IWantedTheCake · 11/07/2021 17:27

I mean, usually if we have any cake in we of course share. Hes just making me feel like I'm the selfish one for saying they were my cakes and I didn't want to share. Which to be fair, I did say he could have a slice, so its not like I was expecting to keep them all to myself.

He is a bit of a hoover when it comes to food though.

OP posts:
MummBraTheEverLeaking · 11/07/2021 17:27

YANBU, and yes it is a big deal so he can take his passive agressive greedy arse to the shops and bloody well replace them. Which no, he won't be allowed to touch, seeing as he needs explicit instructions to not be a knob about it Wink

Sorry I hate it when people act like complete shits then have the nerve to twist it around like it's someone else's fault Angry

Waspsarearseholes · 11/07/2021 17:28

What a greedy pig. Does he honestly think that he needs to be told by you to not eat four slices of a celebratory cake you had been given and that he believes you'd want him to eat it all? I really can't believe that. Fucking gutsy twat. I'd be really annoyed by this. He's seriously trying to say it's your fault that he ate four pieces of cake, finishing every last slice in the box? And no, he shouldn't just run out to the nearest shop open to replace it with a shit cake, he should stop by a bakery tomorrow and replace it with something of a similar quality. Greedy twat.

Lemons1571 · 11/07/2021 17:28

I experienced this once, with unique and really nice chocolate brought back from a particular country by a person special to me. Wasn’t like I could just pop to Tesco and get some more. I went fucking nuclear, and now make a point of keeping any special food in my bedroom (in full view). He just “didn’t think”. It wasn’t like he would even have savoured the chocolate, just gobbled it down without even thinking.

OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 11/07/2021 17:29

Ooops and yes congratulations on your nomination! Sorry, posted in outrage a hurry Blush

Does anywhere around you do nice afternoon tea and cakes? Book yourself in on his credit card!

CoolCatTaco · 11/07/2021 17:30

Really greedy and inconsiderate of him. I'd be annoyed too.

LtDansleg · 11/07/2021 17:30

Yanbu. Even if they were regular cakes bought with the weekly shop he shouldn’t have been so greedy to scoff the entire box, bar one. But these were special given to you as a gift. He should have asked permission to have one, you shouldn’t have to tell him to leave them alone. And you obviously didn’t tell him to leave them alone as you wouldn’t have minded him having one, not the whole fucking box though. It’s not the same him going out and getting a random replacement from the shop

Lemons1571 · 11/07/2021 17:31

Can you find out where the cakes were bought from? He needs to order an identical box for you. He really does.

OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 11/07/2021 17:31

And take a taxi.
And have champagne 🍾

SameToo · 11/07/2021 17:31

So rude! If someone wins/ is gifted/ awarded something you always ask before you take any, EACH time you take some. He’s rude and selfish.

TrashKitten10 · 11/07/2021 17:31

I'm raging on your behalf. DD won't have managed much at that age so he's probably eaten at least 4 slices in, what, a few hours?! It's rude and it's greedy and he must have had some thought process whilst he was scoffing them that those were YOUR cakes, gifted to YOU, for YOUR hard work. What a pig.