To think my neighbour is an inconsiderate prick!

[EpsomQ]

Hi. Just a bit of background. Me and my dh had to sell our first home a few years back when dh was unexpectedly made redundant. He found another job eventually and we managed to get out of debt (completely) that we accumulated whist dh was out of work. We weren’t able to get back on to the property ladder so we moved into a lovely private rented house with our 2dc. We’d have happily stayed there as it was a nice albeit small house with lovely neighbours however our landlord had to sell due to her divorce.

After waiting around 3 months and being on the verge of homelessness the council offered us a house. We were so relieved and happy especially since the house didn’t need a lot of work doing to it and it was in walking distance to both of our dd’s schools. We got to work decorating carpeting etc and we made it into a lovely home. The street itself is actually very pretty visually not what you’d usually expect of a council estate. It has lots of greenery a place for kids to play and a community allotment. The neighbours surrounding us on the whole are lovely and the older kids who play out seem well behaved. So you can understand my disappointment considering all this that our only neighbour attached to us is a bloody nightmare.

He spends all day smoking weed to the point we have to keep our windows closed even in the warm weather as I started to lose count of how many times I walked into my living room and smelled it. My 13 year old daughter’s room is next to his and at night she can’t keep her window open as he smokes weed in his room. He usually smoke
It in the back garden and it wafts into our garden but the last few days I’ve come home from work to find him stood on his front door step puffing away as casual as anything. AIBU to think he is an arrogant hard faced prick? I’m currently trying to decide how best to handle it as I’m not sure. Dh said he will go and speak to him but we have no idea how he will react. The other option is phoning the police but I don’t know what they would do. The guy is around
19/20 lives with his mum and dad who clearly don’t mind him smoking it. The mum and dad also have a daughter who is I’d say around 11/12 years old. What would you do in my situation? Fwiw I know there are more serious things to worry about but the smell of weed makes me feel sick and my teenage daughter feels the same.

The op sounds delightful

Stuck up snob springs to mind

I’d recommend googling sanctum consultants and contacting them. They will be able to tell you pronto where you stand re the likelihood of getting a legal stop to what may be considered a nuisance.

Chuck a bucket of water over the boring stoner twat. He'll go and smoke elsewhere.

@EpsomQ

Are you serious? My dd is 13 she’s not stupid. She has smelled weed before when we’ve been around town so she knows the difference. Anyway why should she have to see something like that. It’s far from acceptable behaviour.

But couldn't a none smoker feel exactly the same when they see a smoker chugging away.

I don't see what the difference is from your daughter seeing you smoke and your daughter seeing him smoke.

You are both pumping shit into your lungs.

(PS I'm a smoker, so this isn't an anti smoker post, just think it's hypocritical that you say your daughter shouldn't be subjected to seeing him smoke but it's ok to see you smoke)

@CrinkleCrankle report to social services? Are you being serious?

After waiting around 3 months and being on the verge of homelessness the council offered us a house.

Where are you that you get a council house after a 3 month wait, whilst also not being homeless. I want to move there!

If he's smoking it constantly and there's a child living there , you could report to social services. The phone call to parents might be enough to get them to do something about it. I doubt they would do more than that. Which is a shame by the sounds of it. It's not an ideal situation for the little girl.

@CandyLeBonBon I’ve been thinking the same. We’ve been in temporary accommodation over 3 years. All really fed up of it. I’d love to get a house with a garden. However I wouldn’t like smoke wafting into my rooms, youngest is asthmatic so would set him off. It is a bit thoughtless, I would just say something similar to him and hope he takes it on board,

@Dancingsmile

If he's smoking it constantly and there's a child living there , you could report to social services. The phone call to parents might be enough to get them to do something about it. I doubt they would do more than that. Which is a shame by the sounds of it. It's not an ideal situation for the little girl.

Without even speaking to the neighbour first? Seems a little unreasonable.

The smell may be unpleasant but may easily be reduced simply by talking to the guy. There are much worse neighbour problems to have.

Incidentally, @EpsomQ , your daughters' health is more likely to be affected by your own smoking than by smells coming from next door