Sickened by PDA

[Inni632]

BIL and SIL are constantly kissing and stroking one another. Now that she is pregnant there's a lot of bump kisses and bump strokes. DH once told them to keep things private and we were told by BIL that they do much more in private 🤢

It's really becoming sickening. AIBU to not want to spend time with them

Oh, dear! Up late for a reason. I read the title and thought it mean 'Pathological Demand Avoidance', a form of autism. Thought this was going to be about neurodivergence.

The next time it starts fall to the floor screaming My Eyes!! My Eyes!!!
I think this is my favourite so far.

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Feeling queasy sound like an extreme reaction. You could all just ignore them. Or commentate like a football game

@AnxiousWeirdo

Ew yeah, snogging in front of someone is weird, especially as they keep being told not to 🤢 it'll pass when the baby gets here though and they're shattered and covered in various fluids

Yep, she's not going to want hands all over her when she's got stitches round her arsehole and leaky boobs. And he'll be up to his elbows in shitty nappies anyway. And when baby grows up a bit when they're snogging they'll quickly be interrupted by 'MUM! I WANT JUICE! DAD! I NEED A SNAAAACK!'

@powershowerforanhour

After the PIL have left, straddle your DH and start engaging in some PDAs of you own. It's a competition! More effective to get FIL to dry hump MIL from behind over the kitchen table I would have thought, whilst you get on your knees and mime giving DH a blowjob and other SIL fetches a cucumber out the fridge and pretends to pleasure herself with it whilst giving it the full When Harry Met Sally. All to the strains of Je t'aime as suggested.

Failing that, remark loudly to MIL that the local vets are having a discount neutering week and would she like you to get the pair of them booked in.

This might just make them stop

@MrsMercury

sorry if u have mentioned but is the woman your husbands sister?

The BIL and SIL is DHs brother and his brother's wife. And the other SIL is DHs sister

Why haven't you simply stopped inviting them round? Or decline their invitations?

If both your DH and you share the same opinion then it's easily solved.

Out of interest do they do this in public - restaurants and cafés etc? Meet them there if not and be blunt as to why. "Your behaviour is sexually inappropriate for the setting"

My BIL and SIL used to be like this. Full on snogging all the time, hands all over each other etc. Only ever saw them in my MIL house, so it was just a really awkward place to be doing it, all family there and they're full on snogging. I have no issue with PDA but there are limits, surely?

Anyway, it all stopped after they had their first child who was (and still is, at age 5) a terrible sleeper. So I don't think you'll need to put up with it for much longer 😆

Could you go over and start stroking whichever boob is not getting any attention?

@BlueCupOrangeCup

Why haven't you simply stopped inviting them round? Or decline their invitations?

If both your DH and you share the same opinion then it's easily solved.

Out of interest do they do this in public - restaurants and cafés etc? Meet them there if not and be blunt as to why. "Your behaviour is sexually inappropriate for the setting"

We meet at MILS mostly - usually Sunday roast or BBQ. Think I've only invited them around twice.

@NamiSwan

My BIL and SIL used to be like this. Full on snogging all the time, hands all over each other etc. Only ever saw them in my MIL house, so it was just a really awkward place to be doing it, all family there and they're full on snogging. I have no issue with PDA but there are limits, surely?

Anyway, it all stopped after they had their first child who was (and still is, at age 5) a terrible sleeper. So I don't think you'll need to put up with it for much longer 😆

So the end is near ☺️ I'm so glad

@Kanaloa

So weird that you didn’t include the public dry humping in your op. I’d say that was more unusual than kissing and stroking his wife’s belly, which is what you originally mentioned.

This. Op described stroking a pregnant belly but forgot to mention dry humping...

Couldn't you all take a leaf out of PP's book and watch? All stop talking and stare at them...maybe add some commentary "your hand needs to go a bit higher...more tongue in there!" Etc

Ignore those telling you to chill. It is seriously out of order. They need to be pulled up about this everytime abd told to stop or leave. You just don't do this in a room full of family. Very disrespectful.

Personally I’d take it as a challenge to one-up them with my partner. They’re snogging? You’re snogging AND your DP is getting a boob squeeze.

Scary?

@Sweetchocolatecandy

Why should they keep their love private? If a bit of hugging and kissing makes you feel uncomfortable then that’s your problem, not theirs.

On a side note, I find it weird if I’m sitting with couples that don’t show any love or affection towards each other and just act as ‘friends’. Lighten up OP.

Ewww Physical/sexual contact should be private. Imposing it on others is gross and selfish. Or creepy.

people that do that are generally trying to convince everyone how much in love they are all very 'look at us over here all in love and that', and everyone is

As PPs have said the baby should throw a huge spanner in the PDA plan. Although she could sit in the living room with you all breastfeeding while he helpfully strokes her breasts I guess?

Are your BIL and SIL Travis Barker and Kourtney Kardashian? Saw some photos of them this morning that made me a bit sick in my mouth and i’m usually not that bothered by people who are into PDA’s!

@marshmallowmilk

sounds like my sister and her fiancé. went for a dog walk on the beach a few weeks ago and someone was busking, they froze on the spot and began ballroom dancing on the beach walkway. proper weird behaviour imo my fiancé and i just kept walking

This sounds lovely!

I am old and my snogging days with DH are far behind me but I'm finding this widespread revulsion at a young couple being affectionate with one another very odd. I think it's nice they are in love and excited. Presumably you have the power of movement so if necessary you could move your neck or eyes 10 degrees to the right or left so as to avoid this hideous sight. No one is forcing you to watch it.

Busking? On the beach? So the sounds of nature and the crashing of the waves aren't enough?

And noooo to ballroom dancing. I'd be walking away fast too.

@Confusedandshaken

I am old and my snogging days with DH are far behind me but I'm finding this widespread revulsion at a young couple being affectionate with one another very odd. I think it's nice they are in love and excited. Presumably you have the power of movement so if necessary you could move your neck or eyes 10 degrees to the right or left so as to avoid this hideous sight. No one is forcing you to watch it.

It's because they are turning each other on in front of their family! Has everyone forgotten what happens when you snog and grope your partner? You get sexually aroused! And they are doing that in front of people! It's grim. It's non consensual sexual behaviour.

young couple being affectionate with one another

They aren't particularly young are they? They are proper adults with a baby on the way.
Difficult to avoid if they are doing it in the same room as you, even if you avert your gaze it's still happening before you.