Wedding Favours

[JaneSparrow13]

As a guest at a wedding, would you appreciate a favour that is something like a wine glass with the couples name and the date on it?

I feel like it would make a good gift for the couple actually getting married, but it's a little self-indulgent to expect guests to take home and keep something like that.

AIBU?

Are you at a wedding and complaining about the favours? If.you don't want it don't take it.
Or are you contemplating it for your wedding? If so why, If you don't like the idea?

Pointless post....

I wouldn't take one - I like favours you can eat or drink, or you can easily shove in your evening bag.

I'm not currently at a wedding, no. 🤣

Throwing ideas around with a friend re wedding favours. She's not 100% sold for the reason above.

Not sure how this is pointless. We are gathering opinions.

My kids just had/will have homemade favours.
Costs next to nothing and they don't come much more personalised.
I usually end up helping out as do a few other volunteers.

My sister did this. Must have been pricey. We just did RSPB pin badges.

If I don't talk her out of this I'm going to end up with two of these fucking things!

She will ask about them when she comes over. I can't just not take them home.

Ugh!

Isn’t having a glass with someone elses name and date of marriage on a bit odd?

We didn’t do favours, the only wedding I have been to where people appreciated the favours was one that had little wooden tokens on the tables, you could exchange them for free drinks at the bar.

Depends on if was a momento kind of person or not. Personally, I'm unlikely to have a place for it in my house.

Agree with you OP. Probably quite pricey and would just lurk around at the back of the cupboard.

Something smaller, fun, or edible or a consumable - matches, candles, flower seeds etc etc

Yanbu its practical in theory but it's self-indulgent and a bit naff

We went to one with personalised marble coasters with everyones names, it doubled up as seating place cards. Really decent and a lot of people we know from the wedding (including us) use them still.

'Special people glasses are a bit annoying to have hanging around at home. Nobody's ever going to use it to drink out of and it'll turn into clutter. Maybe you can google up a few better ideas for something either edible or useful?

I had photo insert coasters. Helpful on the day as place cards/menu reminders and most people took them home as relatively useful

Personalised love heart sweets should be the only wedding favours allowed.

Pointless post....

check you @Mumdiva99 bit nasty

In the nicest possible way... No one wants that.

It's an odd glass with someone else's name on it. They'll probably be left behind on the day, which will just make your friend sad.

How about a scratch card each? Cheap and a bit exciting!

Anything permanently personalised I think is a bit indulgent like that. Who would pull that out of a cupboard to drink wine from over their current glasses?

Stick to something small like seeds, food/drinks there and then or charity donations.

We did a cocktail for everyone (their name card doubled as a voucher to exchange at the bar) and some little sweet with our wedding date on.

A glass with their details on? No thanks, it would look like I’d nicked it. Nice for them but not for guests.

We had mini Welsh cakes wrapped up with a ribbon and name on to double as place setting. Most people ate them with their coffee. Cheap. I also liked a friends wedding where they made a load of sloe gin and gave everyone a mini bottle to pour in their fizz for the toast.

Will they come well packaged in a box within a bag? If not they will be a faff to take home.

I went to a wedding once where they gave out mugs that were very subtly personalised with the wedding details. They are beautiful mugs so I didn’t mind.

I would not want it
It would get stuck in the back of the cupboard and never used.
Sweets or something you can use on the day... We had fans because it was hot

I dont think they will be used or kept and they will probably be expensive. One friend had love heart sweets, another had disposable cameras for the kids to play with. I'm not sure people need favours at all?!

Bit over indulgent I think
We made a mini jar of jam for everyone

They're gonna end up broken or left behind.
Possibly used on the night so left dirty
If you don't drink wine it's a pointless item

For the cost, she'd do better to do miniatures of wine!!

YANBU - it's a bit tacky and even if you did take it home you'd want to throw it out. I think favours are a waste of money unless edible! And something you would want to eat and take home - not sugared almonds.

People are not going to use bags of seeds etc either

Wine glasses with someone elses names and wedding date feels a little odd to me personally, does seem more like a gift for the couple. Plus unlikely to be actually used if people have a nice set of wine glasses they prefer to use anyway. If something keepsakey is preferred for the favours, a candle in a nice engraved jar might be better, ideally with a message to the effect of 'thank you for helping to celebrate our special day' on it, as well as names and date. Something that will be nice to have and be useful, but without the obligation to necessarily keep forever.