Wedding Favours

[JaneSparrow13]

As a guest at a wedding, would you appreciate a favour that is something like a wine glass with the couples name and the date on it?

I feel like it would make a good gift for the couple actually getting married, but it's a little self-indulgent to expect guests to take home and keep something like that.

AIBU?

No, why would I want tat commemorating someone else's day in my house ?

I have enough of my own tat to deal with!

It would go straight in the bin for me. Would try to chuck it in the glass recycling if I was passing.

Personally I would think the happy couple were either egoists of the highest order or driven temporarily insane by wedding madness. Favours should be consumable (biscuits, chocs, candles, alcohol etc.). Or no favours at all.

I'd leave it on the table, honestly.
In case they want to redistribute or keep a few themselves as I just wouldn't use it or display it. Or want to carry a glass back to the hotel and in my case home. It would be binned straight away if not left.

I liked getting a little bag of pick n mix sweets at one wedding. And a little bottle of vodka at another. A shot glass filled with m&ms (couple initials). Square glass coaster with my name in and the wedding date that I could easily swop for a picture and we had 4 of them for our family so they made quite a useful set. They are the only good ones I can remember.

IMO wedding favours are a complete waste of money. If your friend must do them perhaps she could do some of something people actually want. Anything with the name of the bride and groom sounds rather self-absorbed and self-important I can’t see a huge uptake on these.

She is far better off putting the money behind the bar, and yes, you do have to tell her. You could show her this thread – if you dare. It would be far more hurtful for her to see tables full of these glasses left behind because no-one wants them.

Don't bother, no terrible idea. Tell her to save her money. Little bags of chocolates, fudge or similar are the only things worth doing

@Simbacatisback

At my SIls wedding she did something similar with a candle 70% left at the end of the night

What did she do with the leftover candles?

@daisyducky

I don't like these. My husband got a glass engraved as a gift for being a best man with the wedding couples names and date on it. They are now separated. I hide it on the shelf.

Plus he was at a wedding last month and got a shot glass with the couples name and wedding date on it. I'm wondering how long is acceptable to put it in a charity shop....

About 10 seconds.

Something consumable is always good. Or if a gift, something small. Otherwise favours may just get left behind and will just be wasted money. Personalised glasses will not really be used. We got married at a zoo and had favours of cuddly zoo animal toys. Not huge, and we weren't upset if people didn't keep them - though I know lots of people have kept them. At least if not wanted, they could be passed on / charity shopped. A friend did scratch card, party popper and small box of petit fours. Not too expensive, and kept guests busy for 5 mins whilst everyone getting seated, listened to speeches....

Really weird.
I worked at weddings for a few years as a waitress. Half of the favours get left behind. A further 25% probably get binned within a few weeks.

Honestly, just go for something cheap and probably edible. At least then the waitresses can use the ones that get left behind

Wedding favours I've seen which were popular: scratch cards, pin badges with a picture of the bride and/or groom with the guest (a lot of work though), fudge, biscuits, sweets...

@JaneSparrow13

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At my friend's wedding we were given champagne flutes as favours, but they had our names on and doubled up as place cards. She had decorated them herself. I loved mine and was gutted when I dropped it a couple of years later.

@cariadlet

Wedding favours are completely unnecessary. I'm convinced that they're a comparative recent invention of the wedding industry to screw more money out of the future bride and groom.

Permanent mementoes will either be left on the table (maybe cunningly transferred to a different table if a guest doesn't want to be identified as the ungrateful recipient), shoved in the back of a cupboard or donated to a charity shop.

If your friend is insistent on favours, try to persuade her to get something edible or drinkable.

Not that recent, I remember the traditional sugared almond favours from weddings I went to as a child. I think there were five and they symbolised health, wealth, happiness ... and two other things 😂

I've liked edible favours such as chocolates m&ms, homemade shortbread. One happy couple gave everybody a pen with some sort of appropriate quote. I also liked the small scented tea light in a holder. I've left behind gin (can't stand the stuff) and anything too unwieldy to get home safely. I loved the charity pin and scratchcard at one wedding. DC and partner are having a charity donation and couple of chocolates.

At my SIls wedding she did something similar with a candle
70% left at the end of the night

Ouch what a waste of money

@JaneSparrow13

Hold on.

What is Scottish tablet?!

Its like caramel flavour Kendal mint cake. Not minty, but the same consistency.

I hate sugared almonds! Always disappointed when I get those!

@JaneSparrow13

Hold on.

What is Scottish tablet?!

Food of the Gods.

Googling.

Oh my gosh. Why have I never even heard of this??

Do I make it myself or is it better bought from a professional?

We gave sugared almonds as favours.

I love sugared almonds.

I get the impression she just wants me to say how great they are because her mind is already made up (it's possible she's already ordered them).

I can't now tell her they're naff, can I? It's too late.

So, how do I get out of bringing mine home? I cannot stand personalised tat. I don't have anything from my wedding in my house; I certainly don't want some from someone else's wedding!

Did she ask you to ask on mumsnet? If yes, just send her this thread. If no, just say “sounds great!”

Scottish tablet is AMAZING.

I had a friend who used to make it and it was heavenly.

Actually from your comments it sounds like
She didn’t ask you to ask on here. Just go with sounds great, I mean what does it really
Matter to you?

@JaneSparrow13. Just 'accidentally' drop it. If she ever asks, tell her how devastated you were and pray that she doesn't still have a whole case of leftover ones to offer you.

Imho these are a bit tacky. I once got a glass with 50 on it for my fiftieth. Not really my thing and ended up sending it to the charity shop. Plus who wants to be going around carrying a wine glass while juggling bag kids etc. And I imagine that some women will be given their partners to juggle as well. At our last wedding we all got rubber bath ducks which were a feature of the hotel. If you were staying you got one in your ensuite and could buy them in the gift shop. I keep mine on the end of my bath.