Wedding Favours

[JaneSparrow13]

As a guest at a wedding, would you appreciate a favour that is something like a wine glass with the couples name and the date on it?

I feel like it would make a good gift for the couple actually getting married, but it's a little self-indulgent to expect guests to take home and keep something like that.

AIBU?

You couldn't even give it to a charity shop could you? Eve assuming you didn't smash it getting home. Would definitely be left by me.

No, I wouldn't want anything with dates or names on it. Especially not a glass. Straight in the bin. Your wedding date might be really important to you, means nothing to your guests.

The best favours are something really simple. We have been given fudge or chocolate in little bags, a miniature bottle of whisky, lottery tickets or a scratchcard.

Maybe a nice little chocolate box or a cupcake per guest, if you must. I’ve also had a packet of seeds, which was nice. Also appreciated taking home a spare bottle of wine when the couple over ordered and had loads left.

Otherwise, wedding favours are a bit tacky and feel very 80s. We didn’t have any.

@Opinion4321

Terrible idea!

I do love the coaster idea that a PP mentioned.

We had personalised biscuits with people’s names on so they doubled as place settings.

I agree the coasters sound good. Having something that doubles up as a placecard is great idea.

So naff!! Like lollipop displays, sweetie carts, glitter encrusted “crystal” glasses, or anything personalised.

Please tell her nicely it’s a bad idea.

Consumables are a MUCH better idea.

I wouldn't take it home if I was a guest. If I had a way of carrying it home safely it would go straight into the recycling! Favours that are edible are always good because unless there's a buffet I've always been starving at weddings!!

Sorry yes terrible, terrible idea. I think I’d probably leave it on the table. Yes I’d definitely tell her but be gentle and say they’re too big to be easily taken home and people might accidentally smash them. Wedding favours that you can eat or drink then and there are ok but I think you’d be best skipping them altogether and putting the money saved behind the bar.

Honestly I’d ever leave it behind or charity shop it 🙈

If she wants something personalised, we went to a wedding where the favours were biscuits with the bride and groom’s initials on. Seemed to go down well. We just did little jam jars filled with jelly beans, and I think only 5/80 were left on the tables, which I was pleasantly surprised by.

And yes, a personalised glass I would definitely ‘accidentally’ leave behind.

I wouldn't want that wine glass at all. I probably wouldn't even take it home. Generally I can't see the point of wedding favours and would far rather the bride and groom saved their money and didn't bother!

Even if I "accidentally" left mine behind or smashed it, she's going to have 50 odd also left behind to replace it with!

Oh, balls.

I wouldn't want one either, you'd never use it beyond the wedding, so effectively its Cupboard clutter.

I also think they'd be quite expensive to have made.

No, I didnt even want an engraved glass of my own wedding date! In my opinion, the only half decent favours are consumable (gin, sweeties etc) or charity (RSPB or dogs trust badges etc)

Wedding favours are ludicrous, end of.

Wedding favours are completely unnecessary. I'm convinced that they're a comparative recent invention of the wedding industry to screw more money out of the future bride and groom.

Permanent mementoes will either be left on the table (maybe cunningly transferred to a different table if a guest doesn't want to be identified as the ungrateful recipient), shoved in the back of a cupboard or donated to a charity shop.

If your friend is insistent on favours, try to persuade her to get something edible or drinkable.

I agree with everyone else. Favours need to be edible/consumable at the time to be taken. Otherwise it's just something to try to find a place for/remember. The glasses will cost her a fortune as well. I'd suggest a wee edible something and a token for a drink at the bar - that would probably cost the same amount and be better received. Surely a good friend would appreciate an honest comment rather than being told that it's a great idea when it will be obvious that it isn't the morning after? I know I would.

We did cookies. A friend did scratch cards which I think is awesome.

A glass with theirnwedding date would be rubbish, no one feels the need to remember the date of every wedding they went to.

No I don't think most people would want them

Better something people can use or eat or drink

To be honest with you, I would never take home a tacky wineglass with the names of the couple and date of nuptials. It’s just clutter. It would be preferable to have a miniature bottle of alcohol or some sweets. Anything else will end up in the bottom of somebody’s drawer for a year before it’s thrown out.

Last wedding before lockdown I got a mason jar sort of thing with jelly beans in it. Couples names on it.

Ate the sweets and put the jar in the bag for the charity shop the next day.

Plus, loads of our cookies got left behind and friend had scratchcards left behind. We were both quite happy about it!

I also buy chocolate Christmas crackers for when the guests leave them behind.

I would like something tiny I can put in my handbag so I don't forget it and the forever have to oretend I loved it🙈

Something you can eat or drink is best! Saying that, we did Mason jars to drink out of. They fit our venue and weren't personalised, well other than a loosely tied tag with their name that doubled as a name place card. Cost us 60p per cup and we'd have needed to hire glasses if we hadn't had these too. We only had a few left over too so I think people liked them!

I would not want that. Who wants personalised wine glasses with other people’s details on them? What about single guests or children? A single wine glass that matches nothing in my kitchen would certainly look naff.

I love favours such as nice small soaps or hand creams, chocolates or cakes. I once got some lovely woodwork inspired by the venue’s logo and location. Tiny things you can put in your bag and then to good use when you get home, or shove in the bin without feeling like you’re wasting lots of money or expensive material by doing so.

@Faranth

In the nicest possible way... No one wants that.

It's an odd glass with someone else's name on it. They'll probably be left behind on the day, which will just make your friend sad.

How about a scratch card each? Cheap and a bit exciting!

It's only exciting until a guest wins a million quid at your wedding and jets off to the Maldives while you get a coach to Skegness for your honeymoon 😂