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Wedding Favours

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JaneSparrow13 · 10/07/2021 17:41

As a guest at a wedding, would you appreciate a favour that is something like a wine glass with the couples name and the date on it?

I feel like it would make a good gift for the couple actually getting married, but it's a little self-indulgent to expect guests to take home and keep something like that.

AIBU?

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JaneSparrow13 · 10/07/2021 17:57

Oh god. Do I tell her?

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Rainbowqueeen · 10/07/2021 17:57

I would not take them home because:

A. I would never use them and
B. I would be worried they would break on the way home. Who wants to transport something breakable home after a night out and a few drinks??

KeyWorker · 10/07/2021 17:57

I agree it needs to be something to eat or drink. The best favours I’ve received at a wedding were single shots of local made flavoured vodka for each guest. At our wedding we put out an empty named jar for each person to fill at the sweets buffet, this was 7 years ago tho. I think it is a bit self indulgent to think your guests would want a glass with your name on, sorry.

miltonj · 10/07/2021 17:58

No unless it was my daughter (looooong way off), I can't imagine wanting that.

Cloudninenine · 10/07/2021 17:58

There are only two wedding favours which aren’t utterly shite:

  1. Scottish tablet

  2. a charity donation

Everything else is self indulgent tat that 76% of guests will leave behind at the end of the night.

bookish83 · 10/07/2021 18:00

No they would just get left at the wedding! Noone will remember them, they will not want to break them even if they did like them. Also even if they are nice they are a real marmite thing

Best idea is sweet treats doubling up as name cards or tiny gins or something

HollowTalk · 10/07/2021 18:00

Scottish tablet is disgusting!

Kimblebee19 · 10/07/2021 18:00

Or if not a message, perhaps just a nice emblem with the couple's initials instead -E&D- etc. and maybe the date or just the year below. Something subtle you could put out in your house without it screaming shrine to someone else's marriage, if you know what I mean.

JorisBonson · 10/07/2021 18:00

Sounds crap.

The only favours I've ever enjoyed were scratch cards.

melonhead · 10/07/2021 18:01

We didn't have any favours at our wedding and I've always thought they're a bit naff and a waste of money.

Ninkanink · 10/07/2021 18:02

Uhh no I wouldn't like that at all.

I tend not to like favours, though - they always seem rather pointless, a bit like the tat out of crackers. And, usually, a huge waste of money.

The only favour I’ve ever actually liked was 3 mini macarons in delicate colours to match the wedding decor.

chocolateorangeinhaler · 10/07/2021 18:03

No. Ridiculous and tacky. Everyone will throw theirs away apart from very close family. Utter waste of money. Ditto bags of sugared almonds in net bags and any other tat like that.

AliasGrape · 10/07/2021 18:03

No I wouldn't want one. I'd take it home out of politeness probably but it would just take up room in a cupboard.

I did food favours- I'm known by friends and family for always bringing a certain sweet treat at Christmas get togethers, it's always popular, a few people asked me if we'd be having it at the wedding. So I had the idea to make a load and put in little bags with a label that doubled as a place card.

I'm not sure I'd have bothered if it wasn't this particular thing that was personal to us and almost like an in joke. It wasn't all that cheap in the end but certainly cheaper than anything bought like the wine glasses. Most were either eaten on the day or taken home, a few were left which was fine we just ate it on the drive down to our honeymoon.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 10/07/2021 18:03

no.
I don't need more clutter and it'd be so weird to have items with other people's names in my house.
not my wedding so I'm not interested in forced commemorative crap.

However, there was one wedding where a lot of the floral decorations were made with potted rose plants and guests were offered to take one home. that was lovely.
We also brought home the nice candle holders with our names on that they used for the seating plan.
That was also a nice touch. After 18 years I still have & use one of the candle holders and it makes me think of them and the amazing day we had - but it's by choice because I want to be reminded!

yikesanotherbooboo · 10/07/2021 18:03

No need for favours.

Warrickdaviesasplates · 10/07/2021 18:04

I would not be taking a wine glass home, surely they'd just get broken and be almost impossible to put in a small clutch bag (or similar, I never see anyone with a big handbag at a wedding)

I think you need something either consumable or small enough to put in a pocket, otherwise they'll get left behind.

Blossomtoes · 10/07/2021 18:04

Wedding favours are a complete waste of money. Don’t bother, put the money towards something sensible like decent champagne.

Lyricallie · 10/07/2021 18:04

I'm getting married in two weeks. I really don't like non-consumable favours. They just end up in the bin. I'm doing mini jars of gin from a local distillery.

KarmaStar · 10/07/2021 18:04

No.awful idea.

awaynboilyurheid · 10/07/2021 18:07

Scottish tablet not to be confused with less superior fudge and miniatures of whisky best favours I’ve had at a wedding! You don’t want anything that you can’t eat/ drink at the table imho

Littleone638 · 10/07/2021 18:08

I think something consumable is the way to go, we did our favourite sweets - love hearts and drum stick lollies in little paper bags to match our colour scheme. Pretty much everyone either took them homeor ate them later in the evening.

Opinion4321 · 10/07/2021 18:08

Terrible idea!

I do love the coaster idea that a PP mentioned.

We had personalised biscuits with people’s names on so they doubled as place settings.

Ninkanink · 10/07/2021 18:08

Mini gins (or other) are fine. I agree it needs to be consumable at the table.

Lollypop701 · 10/07/2021 18:08

Eat favour I ever got was cake pops that looked like the person getting them… personalised and tasty!

VerbenaGirl · 10/07/2021 18:09

I think it’s considerably more cost and effort than it’s worth and possibly a bit confusing (to be used on the day, or not). I also think a good few would get broken or left behind. Small and quirky is the way to go. Like the sloe gin and welsh cake ideas mentioned above. And I personally would use seeds :-)