Page 10 | Piercing a 2yr olds ears..

Thelogicescapesme · 2021-07-09T22:29:34+00:00

It's not a cultural thing in this case, more so the toddler is being treat like a fashion accessory. Mum had it done because mum thinks it's "pretty and girly" As an adult whom has had to have two piercings surgically removed and antibiotics for complications post procedure I think it's fucking bonkers that anybody would inflict it on a small child. AIBU and what are your thoughts?

Maharajah20 · 10/07/2021 11:34

Meh.
Had my daughters ears pierced as a toddler. 🤷‍♀️
No issues at all.
No regrets from her or me.

Now what I really don’t like though is the trend of “wildling” children.
Bare footed in all weather, snotty noses and unbrushed, long, wild hair hanging in their eyes and faces.
But that is entirely up to their parents.
Not for me to decide.

Each to their own.

OhWhyNot · 10/07/2021 11:34

As you pointed out the intention....

Hirewiredays · 10/07/2021 11:37

I think it should be made illegal to piece or mark a child's body. It's just so wrong.

OhWhyNot · 10/07/2021 11:37

“wildling” well we know that this would be viewed differently depending on you social background

I don’t get it either

Mrstamborineman · 10/07/2021 12:13

This has been done to death on mn. What strikes me about it on here is people’s ability to judge others. Which is often done to make themselves look superior.
If it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Move on.

LST · 10/07/2021 12:17

@Mrstamborineman

This has been done to death on mn. What strikes me about it on here is people’s ability to judge others. Which is often done to make themselves look superior. If it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Move on.

Bit different though. I aren't a judgey person but I judge pierced ears on kids because it's vile

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Thelogicescapesme · 10/07/2021 12:29

I judge people for inflicting unnecessary harm on small children absolutely.

I think anybody who takes a hard line against hurting children is a better person than those who don't.

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SheABitSpicyToday · 10/07/2021 12:36

I think once they’re over five and can understand that it’s going to hurt and still want it anyway it’s not too bad. They’re getting a payoff.

My daughter does loads of things that hurt because she’s getting something out of it. Falling off her skateboard hurt but she wanted to master dropping in so she kept going. Falling off her bike hurt a lot but she wanted to go out riding with her friends so she kept going. Learning to sew hurt and she would get very enraged stabbing her self with a needle but she kept doing it because the payoff of learning to stitch was more important to her. She knew getting her ears pierced would hurt, but she wanted the earrings. So there we go. She’s got them, they’re cute, she looked after them.

OhWhyNot · 10/07/2021 12:46

Right so by your judgement op is that the parents here in the UK and wherever else parents are so disgusted by young children having ears pierced who take a hard line on not having their children’s ears pierced are better people than all those parents not only in the UK but in india, Middle East, South America, Spain and the many other countries that young girls (sometimes boys) routinely get their ears pierced

Ok

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Thelogicescapesme · 10/07/2021 12:48

@OhWhyNot

Right so by your judgement op is that the parents here in the UK and wherever else parents are so disgusted by young children having ears pierced who take a hard line on not having their children’s ears pierced are better people than all those parents not only in the UK but in india, Middle East, South America, Spain and the many other countries that young girls (sometimes boys) routinely get their ears pierced

Ok

You can replace 'harming children' with 'piercing ears' but it still equates to the same thing, so yes.

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TheGumption · 10/07/2021 12:50

@Maharajah20

Meh. Had my daughters ears pierced as a toddler. 🤷‍♀️ No issues at all. No regrets from her or me.

Now what I really don’t like though is the trend of “wildling” children.
Bare footed in all weather, snotty noses and unbrushed, long, wild hair hanging in their eyes and faces.
But that is entirely up to their parents.
Not for me to decide.

Each to their own.

I think that's called neglect...

OhWhyNot · 10/07/2021 12:52

So yes those that don’t are better people

Ok I get it

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Thelogicescapesme · 10/07/2021 13:00

@OhWhyNot

So yes those that don’t are better people

Ok I get it

Yes, like how people who don't hit their children are better people/parents than those who do.

HTH

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OhWhyNot · 10/07/2021 13:03

Yes it’s very clear

Intention is how I personally judge people

Mistressofnone · 10/07/2021 13:08

My ears were pierced at 3 months old. Do I remember it? No. Do I dislike earrings? No.

That said, I now have a 7 month old DD. Seeing her usually joyful face erupt into tears when she had her vaccines broke my heart, and that was for a good cause. There's no way I could put her through getting her ears pierced for vanity.

If she asks when she's older we will make a day of it.

Maharajah20 · 10/07/2021 13:14

@Thelogicescapesme

I judge people for inflicting unnecessary harm on small children absolutely.

I think anybody who takes a hard line against hurting children is a better person than those who don't.

I guess your child would be one of those that goes around with the messy, unkempt hair... Or snotty nose...

Just incase you inflict unnecessary harm on her/him. 🙄

LST · 10/07/2021 13:16

Genuine question. What is the point of it? Like the actual point of getting a baby or toddlers ears pierced?

grey12 · 10/07/2021 13:16

My group of friends had their ears pierced between 11-25 years old there's plenty of time to make that decision

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Thelogicescapesme · 10/07/2021 13:18

I guess your child would be one of those that goes around with the messy, unkempt hair...Or snotty nose...Just incase you inflict unnecessary harm on her/him.

You think wiping a child's snotty nose and tidying their hair is comparable to pushing metal into their skin?

Fail.

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OhWhyNot · 10/07/2021 13:24

For some it’s a coming of age, others cultural identity, others simply its cultural our culture does this and we like it

Hankunamatata · 10/07/2021 13:26

Not something I can get worked up about. Better toddler I suppose than when they are in school.

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Thelogicescapesme · 10/07/2021 13:26

@Hankunamatata

Not something I can get worked up about. Better toddler I suppose than when they are in school.

Why?

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Grenlei · 10/07/2021 13:30

@Mrstamborineman

This has been done to death on mn. What strikes me about it on here is people’s ability to judge others. Which is often done to make themselves look superior. If it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Move on.

Spot on.

This is live and let live. I don't care if anyone pierces their baby's ears or not. Their baby, their decision. Just like it would be my decision for my own children.

What does irritate is the supreme judginess of certain posters like the OP, whose smug self righteousness is frankly nauseating.

LST · 10/07/2021 13:32

@OhWhyNot

For some it’s a coming of age, others cultural identity, others simply its cultural our culture does this and we like it

But why? What's the point? Coming of age as a baby or toddler?

SirenSays · 10/07/2021 13:32

My body hates piercings, I can't heal them. No matter how they're done, how careful I am about hygiene and infection control, no matter what jewellery is chosen; gold, silver, titanium, gorilla glass..
I had my ear lobes done as a kid. The lady used a gun, gave my parents terrible advice and insisted on butterfly backs. Which then migrated into my ear and left me sobbing on my mums leg as she tried to remove it with sharp tweezers. Even now I can squeeze out gunk as they half healed but not all the way. Annoying and unnecessary.
I have plenty of pretty fakes that I wear instead.