AIBU - my partner wants to watch the football with his mate when I’m having the baby on Tuesday?

[AmiSum]

Please can you help with this because I’m being told I’m being unreasonable? My partner’s best mate wants to go and watch the final on Sunday in Liverpool (we live 45 minutes away). Ive said that’s fine but please can he limit himself to 3 or 4 pints as I’m booked in for a section on Tuesday morning (he normally has 2 day hangovers).
I was so happy a couple of days ago as he’d said he’d booked the Monday off work and we could have a nice day together - I know the nerves will have really kicked in by then. Deep down I’m gutted that he’s even asked to go out on the Sunday in the first place but I’m not prepared to say he can’t go, just that please can he limit himself so that he’s not got a hangover on the Monday, and especially not the Tuesday. Apparently I’m doing his head in by going on about it though. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and to know if I’m just being a pregnant crank! X

@AmiSum

Thanks for the helpful replies, although I’m beyond shocked at a select few of them (each to their own though, I suppose)! In all fairness, I hadn’t even considered re isolating after the covid test (something which we will now be doing even though the hospital haven’t specified)! *@SmallPrawnEnergy* he is far from a ‘vile creature’ and would never knowingly put others at risk/lie to the hospital. I guess some find it easy to use such language online though. To all of the lovely posters - your responses were much appreciated and he has cancelled going to watch it, without me having to mention it again. I suppose it sometimes only makes us realise how ludicrous we’re being when something is pointed out to us. I’ve definitely been guilty of that in my lifetime Have a lovely weekend everyone and enjoy this beautiful weather x

Good luck with the birth @AmiSum. I wouldn't blame him for getting carried away this is a big thing for a lot of people and he probably didn't think things few properly. I would try and make Sunday as fun as you can for him and pretend to be excited for the game even if it isnt your thing.

Glad to hear he has seen the light! He can still enjoy the match on telly.

He's going to be a father soon:. Time to grow up!

I'd be completely unimpressed. The very least he can do is limit his drinking in case you go into labour and to keep himself un-hungover.

a baby trumps the bloody match!

Not for this particular DP it doesn't, or for a siginficant % of the voters apparently

But then that's football for you ...

Urgh, sorry. Should've read the updates... Glad to hear he's changed his plans!

Also just seen the latest update, but unfortunately I can't take back what I said

A rational man wouldn't even have suggested this in the first place, far less criticised OP for raising very valid concerns

@OnlyCans

Your covid tests are booked for Sunday because you will have to self isolate with you from Sunday until Tuesday. You have to self isolate three days prior to surgery now. He can't go or you will have to cancel your surgery/not have him there.

This ^^

He won't be allowed in to elective section surgery or be at birth of his baby if he goes out instead of self isolating after COVID test Sunday morning

Your DH hasn't listened to the rules has he?

I get it that it's a hugely important match, a once in a lifetime final & a national event . But he and you are having a baby!!! That's even more life changing. Will he look back and say I missed my child's birth and the first few days of his newborn baby ( as he won't be able to visit you or meet your baby on ward as you recover) or will he rather miss seeing a match with his friends, no matter how big a match it is.

It's not your fault baby is due then

He needs to stay at home and not drink. Not strictly following the rules but I’d allow a mate or two over.

Would absolutely not allow drinking or letting him go into a crowded pub 2 days before having a baby

Ah seen update, neither of you realise you'd have to isolate after Covid test before c section surgery!

Glad he's cancelled plans. The two of you can have lovely memories of being in watching match of Final on TV together with baby bump before she / he arrived!!
That's great.

Good luck with birth of little one!

I've just been in for surgery this week and had to isolate in the 3 days between COVID test and going in, I think it's even longer for some trusts. Hope all goes well on Tuesday for you

@goddessofmischief

PCR covid test? He'd have to isolate afterwards then anyway. Tell him not to take the piss. It's fucking football. You're having a baby. He needs to put on his adult pants and have a serious reality check. 2 day hangover? He'll have to knock that on its head pretty quick.

yup that was what screamed at me.....what kind of adult-enough-to-have a-child-person factors a two day hangover into their social plans?

I’d be fuming too. You’re in no way unreasonable.

If that’s where his priorities are then tell him to get to fuck.

It does sound very unreasonable on his part.

If he's a massive football fan, I can see him asking for a single friend to come over and watch it with him as reasonable. But going anywhere near a pub is a recipe for catching covid 2 days before your baby's birth - which he might miss whilst intoxicated and 45min away from home.

Really not a risk worth taking...

@notalwaysalondoner

I’m due in a couple of weeks and I’d 100% say he could only go if he didn’t drink - the risk of him saying he’d only have 3-4 drinks then getting tipsy and carrying on is too high. I can’t believe he thinks his “right” to get pissed is more important than you having a well rested and supportive birth partner. He sounds a test.

I would hope if you are due in a couple of weeks and are having a birth partner that you and they will be isolating after your PCR test.

If he had tickets for Wembley I might answer differently but he's only watching it on TV. The location of the TV may vary (in a pub in Liverpool, in a pub local to you or in your own home) but he's still watching it on TV. You are being more than reasonable, he is being an idiot.

The idea that he has to 'ask' you if he can go out is a bit but you're not BU. If he gets pinged by track and trace then he'll miss the birth and you'll have to have your baby without its father there. He shouldn't go.

@Frazzled2207

He needs to stay at home and not drink. Not strictly following the rules but I’d allow a mate or two over.

Would absolutely not allow drinking or letting him go into a crowded pub 2 days before having a baby

So, allow a mate or two over to potentially infect OP, her husband and any medical staff they are in contact with over the following days after theyhave done the PCR tests for going into hospital. The vast majority of tranmission happens in the home.

Solid plan that is.

Noyt strictly following the rules is exactly why we have the some of the worst outcomes in the world re covid.

'Thanks for the helpful replies, although I’m beyond shocked at a select few of them'

Come back in a few years and see if you're still beyond shocked!

@ILoveAllRainbowsx

Why did you get pregnant by someone who has 2 day hangovers?

I assume you knew this before you decided to have a baby with him?

What?!

@ILoveAllRainbowsx

Why did you get pregnant by someone who has 2 day hangovers?

I assume you knew this before you decided to have a baby with him?

What fresh hell is this comment?

he is far from a ‘vile creature’ and would never knowingly put others at risk/lie to the hospital. I guess some find it easy to use such language online though.
I’d tell him to his face pet, nowt to do with being online. He was happy to take his pcr then not isolate as per the rules, potentially spreading infection to very vulnerable people and your own baby. I’m glad he’s changed his mind he can’t be arsed to argue anymore and you don’t have to “do his head in” about it anymore. True colours though sweetheart, just remember what his first priority was. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@ILoveAllRainbowsx

Why did you get pregnant by someone who has 2 day hangovers?

I assume you knew this before you decided to have a baby with him?

Why did you decide to waste brain cells a) thinking of this and b) typing it?

MN is quite mad.