AIBU - my partner wants to watch the football with his mate when I’m having the baby on Tuesday?

[AmiSum]

Please can you help with this because I’m being told I’m being unreasonable? My partner’s best mate wants to go and watch the final on Sunday in Liverpool (we live 45 minutes away). Ive said that’s fine but please can he limit himself to 3 or 4 pints as I’m booked in for a section on Tuesday morning (he normally has 2 day hangovers).
I was so happy a couple of days ago as he’d said he’d booked the Monday off work and we could have a nice day together - I know the nerves will have really kicked in by then. Deep down I’m gutted that he’s even asked to go out on the Sunday in the first place but I’m not prepared to say he can’t go, just that please can he limit himself so that he’s not got a hangover on the Monday, and especially not the Tuesday. Apparently I’m doing his head in by going on about it though. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and to know if I’m just being a pregnant crank! X

Yeah, ask your midwife, you'll likely both need to isolate after your covid test on Sunday morning.

Would he be ok with the pal coming over and watching at home with a few beers? I know its not the same, but its way less risk than going to the pub if you get all the windows and doors open.

And yes, 2 day hangovers are definitely a thing!!!

@Doghead

Stop nagging. It's a one off.

Stop nagging? Are you for real?

Pretty sure the ONE OFF event of having his baby should come way way way above his need to watch a football match with his mates.

He can watch it at home. Not like he has to actually miss the game!

Sorry but prioritizing football with his mates over his partner and risking not being able to be there to support her through the most important and difficult event of her life is just pure selfishness and he needs to grow the hell up. Pronto.

Where I work they ask partners to also do a lateral flow test when they get to the ward. We don't let them in until 30 minutes have passed and a negative result. This is after they have isolated from the pcr test date.

Thanks for the helpful replies, although I’m beyond shocked at a select few of them (each to their own though, I suppose)! In all fairness, I hadn’t even considered re isolating after the covid test (something which we will now be doing even though the hospital haven’t specified)!
@SmallPrawnEnergy he is far from a ‘vile creature’ and would never knowingly put others at risk/lie to the hospital. I guess some find it easy to use such language online though.
To all of the lovely posters - your responses were much appreciated and he has cancelled going to watch it, without me having to mention it again. I suppose it sometimes only makes us realise how ludicrous we’re being when something is pointed out to us. I’ve definitely been guilty of that in my lifetime
Have a lovely weekend everyone and enjoy this beautiful weather x

I get the feeling it won't matter what OP asks to do or not to do;he'll be off to that final on Sunday come hell or high water anyway.He's not going to let a little thing like the birth of his child get in the way.

Unsure whether rules have changed but when I had my c-section last July we were tested 2 days before then told to self isolate until the procedure. We had to get someone else to do a food shop and didn’t leave at all. If the rules are the same he won’t be able to go out.

Glad he’s seen the light op!

Hopefully everything goes well for you on Tuesday and congratulations

Thanks so much x

Glad he's realised - sometimes it just takes a while for the realisation to sink in.

FWIW, my very lovely DH (when I phoned him to tell him I was going into labour) asked if I could hold off for a couple of hours as he had a very important meeting to attend. I was very calm and said he could do what he wanted but I was heading to the hospital in the next 30 mins as the contractions were coming thick and fast. He was home 20 minutes later (he just have driven extremely fast to make it in that time). He said he didn't know what he was thinking when he said that to me and then when he hung up, the penny dropped and he flew out of the office!

I’m due in a couple of weeks and I’d 100% say he could only go if he didn’t drink - the risk of him saying he’d only have 3-4 drinks then getting tipsy and carrying on is too high. I can’t believe he thinks his “right” to get pissed is more important than you having a well rested and supportive birth partner. He sounds a test.

Going to football is fine,

completely unreasonable to get drunk so close to your due date!
Babies don't follow a calendar, being booked for a c-section doesn't mean you won't go in labour earlier,

If he really goes and you think he'll get drunk, find a back-up support asap. Hopefully you won't need it, but you need to prepare.

He's out of order.

and he has cancelled going to watch it, without me having to mention it again.

sorry, cross post!

Good on him, it's fine when people don't think things through but wake up when told.

Good luck with the arrival of your baby!

2 day hangovers are not a thing

If only!

YANBU!!!!!!

Good god yes. It's not as if you're stopping him from watching the football. If only it were going to be shown on TV so that we could watch from home...oh now wait... He's totally be insensitive here. Or, why not watch it locally, invite best mate over? Get a taxi home etc.

Ahh, just realised he sorted himself out. Well done OP, hope all goes well with the birth.

Really glad to see your positive update, @AmiSum Wishing you all the very best for Tuesday and enjoy your last few days together as a couple before your world changes when the baby arrives!

Good luck for Tuesday when you meet your baby.

I doubt in the excitement and euphoria of England being in the finals your dh had even thought about the covid restrictions in place. It all looked so normal.

You have to isolate after a PCR test. That’s the point of them. With infection so high right now, it would have been useful to isolate beforehand as well.

If he socialises with his mate after on Sunday, he needs to stay away and not come to the birth. You have to protect yourself and your baby.

May I suggest you send him to stay with one of the posters, who’ve posted nasty drivel?

My only worry would be the baby arriving early. I was booked in for a c-section and my waters went 5 days prior. Cue emergency c-section!

If it wasn't for covid I'd say it was ok for him to go but not drink......because there's always a chance you go into labour sunday or monday.

But if he has to have a test on sunday he's then meant to isolate. Even if he reckons he isn't meant to isolate why is he taking the risk of possibly getting covid 3 days before your section? He runs the possibility of waking up feeling poorly on Tuesday and missing it or waking up Weds/Thurs feeling poorly and either being unable to bring you back from hospital/feeling too poorly to help look after you and new baby/passing covid on to a brand new baby.

Duh, seen the update! :)

YA very much NBU. DH kept calling me lazy when I was in late pregnancy (lying on the sofa all day drinking milk and water). I was 13 days overdue, it was an extremely hot August, I was huge, the milk was to try and put weight on as I'd lost weight everywhere except the bump. Then when I went to be induced he was out every couple of hours to have a pint while I was feeling abandoned. He still thinks this was OK nearly 10 years on.

@RunningFromInsanity

YABU. (Also how much are you going on about it for him to be pissed off?)

The football is Sunday, your c section is Tuesday. 2 day hangovers are not a thing, it’s just an excuse to be lazy the second day so I’m pretty sure the birth of his child will snap him out of it.

Glad he's changed his mind, OP. I'm normally all for DH going somewhere else to watch football but I have to say if I were in your shoes I'd want him to stick close to home between now and the c-section. I get how important this match will be for many people (can you sense my indifference, lol) but the birth of his child needs to take priority, glad he's seen that. Good luck!

@Husbandno5

I think YABU. -It’s 2 whole days before. -He’s already said he won’t drink more than 4 pints. -England have not been in a final of a major tournament for 55 years!!!! -If you’re having an elective section and it’s your first kid it’s unlikely (but not impossible) to come early. How many weeks are you?

• If he does have a hangover - he has the whole of Monday to get over it! He’s just gonna have to man up about this.
• it’s coming home!!!

England might not have been in the final for 55 years but his partner has never ever given birth to his child before. Somewhat fucking more important.

I hope it doesn't come home 😘