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AIBU - my partner wants to watch the football with his mate when I’m having the baby on Tuesday?

184 replies

AmiSum · 08/07/2021 21:50

Please can you help with this because I’m being told I’m being unreasonable? My partner’s best mate wants to go and watch the final on Sunday in Liverpool (we live 45 minutes away). Ive said that’s fine but please can he limit himself to 3 or 4 pints as I’m booked in for a section on Tuesday morning (he normally has 2 day hangovers).
I was so happy a couple of days ago as he’d said he’d booked the Monday off work and we could have a nice day together - I know the nerves will have really kicked in by then. Deep down I’m gutted that he’s even asked to go out on the Sunday in the first place but I’m not prepared to say he can’t go, just that please can he limit himself so that he’s not got a hangover on the Monday, and especially not the Tuesday. Apparently I’m doing his head in by going on about it though. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and to know if I’m just being a pregnant crank! X

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FaceyRomford · 08/07/2021 23:54

@RunningFromInsanity

YABU. (Also how much are you going on about it for him to be pissed off?)

The football is Sunday, your c section is Tuesday. 2 day hangovers are not a thing, it’s just an excuse to be lazy the second day so I’m pretty sure the birth of his child will snap him out of it.

2 day hangovers are not a thing,

Oh God, if only that were true.

bridgetreilly · 09/07/2021 00:01

He can’t go out on Sunday and still be with you for surgery on Tuesday. He has to do the test on Sunday morning and then isolate.

So, either he goes out from when you have the test and leaves you alone until you get back home with the baby, or he grows up, realises that being a parent is about taking responsibility, and watches the football at hime.

SheilaWilcox · 09/07/2021 00:24

@RunningFromInsanity

YABU. (Also how much are you going on about it for him to be pissed off?)

The football is Sunday, your c section is Tuesday. 2 day hangovers are not a thing, it’s just an excuse to be lazy the second day so I’m pretty sure the birth of his child will snap him out of it.

Hahahahahaha

2 day hangovers are a thing, in fact the last hangover I had lasted about 4 days.
I'm pretty much tee-total now because I just can't face the thought of it again.

Habitualhonesty · 09/07/2021 00:28

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beigebrownblue · 09/07/2021 00:54

Fucking hell kid, now I've seriously heard it all.

You are seriously doubting the whole future of your baby because the person who impregnated you wants to watch the footie.

Fucking hell kid. Grow up.

Please.

MrsEricBana · 09/07/2021 01:17

Madness. It's not like you're asking him not to watch it at all. He watches it at home or he can't attend the birth as he won't have been isolating. Sorry you're having to contend with this op. Hope it goes well for you Flowers

Saoirse82 · 09/07/2021 01:36

2 day hangovers are a thing and have been since I hit 30! YANBU and I think he's being a selfish prick!

PrincessNutella · 09/07/2021 01:38

What a fucking manchild.

timeisnotaline · 09/07/2021 01:49

I would also call the hospital and check the isolating rules. And I’d tell him I won’t nag anymore but if you are drunk and I go into labour Monday or you are not allowed to be there to support me for the birth of our baby or give us COVID from your trip, then I may never get past this. It’s the one time I am supposed to be your absolute priority, so don’t expect our marriage to ever be the same if you make other choices.

MouseholeCat · 09/07/2021 02:11

Purely for the fact he's planning on doing his PCR test and then going to watch the football in a city 45 mins away when he should presumably be isolating, he's being a giant arse and YANBU.

Just going to watch the football with his friend wouldn't bother me. This is a rare enough thing that I wouldn't begrudge the hangover on a day off in NORMAL circumstances. But these aren't normal circumstances because you're having major abdominal surgery in 2 days in the middle of a global pandemic.

FoxVillage · 09/07/2021 02:14

He's a selfish arse. Sorry, OP.

Lisamonwesaa · 09/07/2021 02:15

YANBU he needs to grow up

Itsprobablynotcominghome · 09/07/2021 05:45

Good luck with the rest of your life.

BastardMonkfish · 09/07/2021 06:10

He probably doesn't realise what an insufferable prick he's likely to be on Monday and Tuesday. Tell him he's not going and the reason why is because he's been such a useless fucker for 2 days after drinking on previous occasions.

Crowsandshivers · 09/07/2021 06:16

Yeah, if he takes covid test Sunday morning he needs to isolate. I would go mental if my DH had suggested this btw. What if you go into labour early?

CanofCant · 09/07/2021 07:09

@beigebrownblue

Fucking hell kid, now I've seriously heard it all.

You are seriously doubting the whole future of your baby because the person who impregnated you wants to watch the footie.

Fucking hell kid. Grow up.

Please.

It's not the OP that needs to grow up.
MissChanandlerBong90 · 09/07/2021 07:16

YANBU - clearly he has to isolate after his PCR, not go to an environment where Covid will be flying about. I can’t believe anyone would think YABU unless they had incredibly low standards for their partner’s behaviour.

Dinosaurballoon · 09/07/2021 07:17

Yanbu to be annoyed no; I would also be.

Even in normal times without testing etc I would have hoped he isn’t a complete waste of space and actually managed the oh so hard task of ‘just having one or two’ so he can be a responsible adult before and during your delivery! It seems this may not be the case though. Wishing you all the luck op Flowers

Roselilly36 · 09/07/2021 07:21

YANBU OP, 3-4 pints? Come off it, that’s never going to happen if he is with his mates watching football is it.

Doghead · 09/07/2021 07:23

Stop nagging. It's a one off.

Backhills · 09/07/2021 07:25

I think if you've asked and he's agreed, there's no need to keep "going on about it" and that would irritate me too.

I'm not sure about the attendance. For a football fan, it is quite literally the biggest game in their lifetime. People here will dismiss it as something unimportant, but think of something that's important to you and then think of it being a one off, never to be repeated event.

However, if he needs to isolate from Sunday there's no choice, which is quite sad.

Mummadeze · 09/07/2021 07:27

Don’t want to freak you out but I had to have an emergency caesarean before my caesarean due date. I think I would prefer him to be somewhere close by if he was going out for the football in case.

M0rT · 09/07/2021 07:28

I am so sorry you have such a selfish DH, are you close to your DM or sisters or have a best friend who could be your birthing partner and help when the babies born?

Menora · 09/07/2021 07:28

RTFT

this guy should be isolating before her csection and wants to go watch football instead

theDudesmummy · 09/07/2021 07:31

It's not like he can't see the football unless he travels...I hear they even have the technology these days to beam the match right into your home...

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