To wonder what the housewives of yesteryear would have thought of this....

[Comedycook]

I'm a sahm of school age DC so probably more of a housewife than anything else

Thanks to the pandemic, obviously dh is working from home. Ds is isolating. There's is permanently someone under my feet getting in my way when trying to do stuff.

Even during normal times, in school holidays for example, kids are constantly around as it's not the like the old days when they'd play out all day and come in for their tea.

Honestly, I find it really quite unbearable despite loving my family obviously. I wonder how housewives of previous generations would have coped? I reckon having their men home all day whilst they tried to cook and clean would have sent them potty!

A sense definitely makes the heart grow stronger.

I think they took tranquillisers and society took it as proof that women were inherently delicate and unstable.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

A sense definitely makes the heart grow stronger.

DiSTANCE makes the heart grow stronger!!!

You probably won’t get very sympathetic responses here but I really do hear you. I feel dp wfh is ruining our relationship. He never leaves the house, so when he does it is such a novelty I don’t want to leave it either as it feels like such a treat. I feel confined to the bedroom or as if I have to be constantly out. I hate it

I agree, I used to listen to my nan and my great aunties and think 'they did so much' but the sisters all worked with eachother so they could work opposing shifts and the kids would be out on the streets and down the park and the men would be gone, always gone.
I know its not all fun and games but I think they had it spot on!

Yes, definitely. I used to really look forward to my dc coming home from school and dh coming home from work. Now most days I feel like sobbing at the thought of another day with everyone around me...

@imscaredpleasehelp

I agree, I used to listen to my nan and my great aunties and think 'they did so much' but the sisters all worked with eachother so they could work opposing shifts and the kids would be out on the streets and down the park and the men would be gone, always gone. I know its not all fun and games but I think they had it spot on!

Sounds blissful actually.

About 15years ago DH had a job in a pub. The old fashioned local type. Suddenly an older man started coming in every afternoon, stayed about an hour with a pint and a newspaper or book. DH asked him one day why he did it... basically he had just retired and wife told him he had to go out for two hours every afternoon. Didn't care what he did, but she needed the space.

They both enjoyed their quiet time apparently!

@endofjune

Is he working in the main communal area of the house?

Yep. And there’s no way of changing this as he needs access to a phone which is only connected in the dining area.

To be fair you can close the door to the lounge but the problem is on sunny days the lounge is far too bright for ds and god forbid I close the blinds because I always do it on the ‘wrong’ way and have dp fussing like an old lady for ages afterwards so I just have to be out all the time or sat in the bedroom. Bloody wonderful

I don’t want to scare you, but just wait until your DH retires and is around the bloody house all day with no chance that he will be going back to the office in the future.

It’s driving me mad. I go out everyday but never ever get time on my own in the house. It seems most men become boring stay at home people when they retire.

@endofjune

Yep. And there’s no way of changing this as he needs access to a phone which is only connected in the dining area.

To be fair you can close the door to the lounge but the problem is on sunny days the lounge is far too bright for ds and god forbid I close the blinds because I always do it on the ‘wrong’ way and have dp fussing like an old lady for ages afterwards so I just have to be out all the time or sat in the bedroom. Bloody wonderful

We argue about the blinds...fun and games hey?!

We don't have enough space for this working from home thing to work. Things have been really quite strained here for quite some time. I'm not sure what the future holds as its all just rumours about when or even if the office is going back to normal.

I’m just going to say it: I hate those fucking blinds! What is the point of blinds you can’t even close?? Why can’t we just have a pair of curtains!

I’ve been wanting to say that since last November, I’m sorry

I probably sound really old fashioned but I think being at home all day really is not good for lots of men. I know my dh prefers to be in the office...then he'd often go for drinks after work...so he'd be out from morning to midnight sometimes. I'd do my own thing, housework, cooking, deal with the kids and look forward to him getting home.

It’s that you can never get the job of ‘chores’ or making meals done, because there are people making mess and having snacks all day long, just chaos.

Slightly different, but I do find it amusing that so many on here are strong advocates for wfh, but as long as their DH/DO aren’t also wfh all the time

@Brown76

It’s that you can never get the job of ‘chores’ or making meals done, because there are people making mess and having snacks all day long, just chaos.

Yeah that's it!

My Gran cleaned out the grate, threw out the ashes, lit the fire, cooked breakfast, washed the dishes, made the beds, cleaned the bathroom, did the washing by hand, cleaned the windows, made lunch, washed the dishes darned socks, stitched up any tears in clothes, made tea, washed the dishes, did the ironing, filled the coal bucket etc etc etc, in a one living room/ kitchen with one sink. if anybody got in the way they got a job.

I think after all these lockdowns and working from home men who work on oil rigs for 3 months at a time and similar etc going to be in popular demand 😂

I'm not a SAHM, but since last March DP and I have both worked from home from the same dining table. I work four days, and on my day 'off' and weekends our toddler is home too.

I am almost never on my own. DP occasionally takes our child out on a Sunday morning (my lie in), but it's not long enough. On my days at home with our child we're stuck in just the living room rather than having the run of downstairs, because he's working and needs quiet (so we go out).

I am seriously tempted to book a weekend away ON MY OWN. I feel like I can't think sometimes, there are too many people around me.

@Fairyliz

I don’t want to scare you, but just wait until your DH retires and is around the bloody house all day with no chance that he will be going back to the office in the future.

It’s driving me mad. I go out everyday but never ever get time on my own in the house. It seems most men become boring stay at home people when they retire.

My answer to that is to go to a local coffee shop with my kindle. As long as I get some time alone, I don’t much care where it is. It was bloody grim during lockdown when everything was closed.

DP has been to the office twice in the last year and once since we had our ds.

It was so much easier. We made a mess and then had it tidied before dp came home. No problem. I chatted, I sang, I laughed. I do sometimes honestly worry a bit that ds will be behind in his language skills because of this situation

A sense definitely makes the heart grow stronger.

DiSTANCE makes the heart grow stronger!!!

The version I've always heard is: Absence makes the heart grow fonder

Gin.

They had gin