Abiu to be annoyed that child minder gave child (15 months) laxative without permission

[Abracadabra1989]

Picked child up from childminders yesterday and after a brief chat in the morning where I explained that they was impacted and was struggling, they announced on pick up they had given her Luctulose, didn't inform my of how much or what time and didn't even ask my permission or tell me she was going to do so.
Would you be annoyed, am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?
I hate confrontation and was also a little taken a back at the time so didn't say anything.
She has given me some in a syringe to give her at home when she was bunged up a few months ago but I didn't give it her as weren't sure it was for her age and just binned it

I'd be furious. Lactulose is a drug. Would need prescribing if being given by a nurse. Child minder shouldn't be handing it out willy nilly, especially without your consent

I'd be removing my child asap. I'd also be reporting them to the local authority, Ofsted and perhaps the police in all seriousness.

She definitely should not have done that. You need to speak to her about it.

Separately, if your DC is having episodes of constipation, do go the GP. It can end badly if untreated (as I know to my cost)

Need to report to ofsted, I work at a nursery.

That is not acceptable.
I would move my child to someone I could trust.

I'm basing my comment on the assumption that you hadn't given the cm the medication?

Defo not overreacting.... She shouldn't have done that. As a nanny I often give meds without permission every time but that's a different relationship. The parents know it sometimes happens (they're surgeons so can't answer the phone a lot of the time) but I'll always send a text with what and how much as I give medicine - and msot importantly they agreed beforehand that it was OK for me to do this.
A childminder will be registered under ofsted so have different rules and I'm pretty sure they include not giving medicine without parental consent

A bit of extra fruit juice or some prunes. Sure. But a prescribed drug? Insane. You have every right to be furious.

I’m a childminder and would never do that. What an odd thing for her to think is okay to do.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but believe without permission that is assault and battery.

oh wow.. YANBU.

Remove your child immediately, and report the woman to OFSTED.

She should NEVER administer medication to a child in your care without express permission from the parent, nor without it being prescribed.

Omg!

You need to report her. You're definitely NBU!!

Also when my DD had constipation the GP didn't recommend lactulose as he said it wasn't the best thing for small children who were constipated as a first line. He gave us the pediatric version of movicol- I forget the name.

As a PP I was allowed to give Calpol when working as a nanny but never would without phoning mum first. This CM needs reminding of the rules and my child would not be going back.

Report her please!

Also a childminder - this is outrageous! Child care providers just can't go around giving random medication to kids willy nilly!
I'd be having stern words with her about this at the very least, and I'd probably remove my child from the setting/reporting to the inspectorate.

Does your child have a medical condition which causes her to become constipated? Why aren't you treating it?

She should have refused to take her, rather than medicate her and if she's any concerns of neglect, then report you to at least your HV.

I'd be far more than annoyed. I'd be removing my child and reporting the childminder for this inappropriate, and possibly dangerous, act.

@Chiwi The paediatric version of Movicol is…Movicol Paediatric

Lactulose isn't prescription is it? I get your annoyance, but I couldn't get myself worked up over this.

She was trying to make your child more comfortable and probably assumed you'd be fine with it since you accepted some from her previously (since you took it home). If the relationship is otherwise good and you trust her decision making ordinarily, I'd just say you aren't comfortable with her administering medication without asking you.

@geojellyfish

Lactulose isn't prescription is it? I get your annoyance, but I couldn't get myself worked up over this.

She was trying to make your child more comfortable and probably assumed you'd be fine with it since you accepted some from her previously (since you took it home). If the relationship is otherwise good and you trust her decision making ordinarily, I'd just say you aren't comfortable with her administering medication without asking you.

I'm not 100% sure but lots of over the counter medication is fine for adults or older children but must be prescribed for younger ones.

To me personally, it's fine. It's not a controlled drug that requires a prescription.

Right a quick look on the nhs website says do not give it to children under 14 unless recommended by a doctor

@Beautiful3

To me personally, it's fine. It's not a controlled drug that requires a prescription.

You know nothing. Look on the nhs website

I get why you are upset but I couldn’t get worked up about this.

Lactulose is basically sugary water that draws water into the stool so makes it softer and easier to pass. The only reason they say not to give to little kids is because little kids shouldn’t be getting backed up and if they are they should really go to the doctor to check why it’s happening.