To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

Ta-ra chuck

OK, have it your way.

I just think it's a shame to live life for the 'likes'.

@regularbutnamechangedd and she is donating the clothes to charity or passing them on to friends as well as using second hand clothes for her daughter.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@sadperson16 I give the majority of her clothes and toys to a local charity and don’t have a huge amount myself or spend a huge amount. I spend practically zero on myself or have a nice car and so on. I don’t have to justify what I spend my money on, as don’t others, who may have nice holidays and nights out[/quote]
I don’t have to justify what I spend my money on, as don’t others, who may have nice holidays and nights out

Sorry, is that not literally the entire point of this thread?

From your thread title and OP this sounds unreasonable.
But it sounds like that is a bit misrepresentative. If you mean you like to buy stuff with particular occasions (and photos) in mind, but that after these occasions the clothes go back into general circulation- I don't think that is weird or unusual

Ugh, what's it like having no personality at all beyond your baby's clothes?

You do you. But it does seem wasteful and also not a great message to be sending a kid that they need a new outfit every time they go out. No harm done when they're tiny but a pretty awful message to be sending a teenager.

I’m not very young, but obviously coming across that way. Didn’t expect some very personal comments. I adore my daughter and don’t use her as a prop or any such thing, the idea of that is really upsetting to me. I’m not wasteful with clothes, she’s in old clothes the majority of the time and needs new clothes buying anyway on a regular basis as she’s growing so quickly. I just enjoy kids clothes and buying things for her, I’m the same with books for her and spend a fortune when I really shouldn’t and have had to cut back. It’s something I just enjoy and if I thought was damaging her in any way, I would stop immediately.
I appreciate differences in opinion but not personal, nasty comments

@Smallbutnottinykitten I do do that, all the time

@LuxOlente

Ugh, what's it like having no personality at all beyond your baby's clothes?

@LuxOlente what's it like being so rude to someone you don't know because you can hide behind a screen?!

That's definitely more "ugh" than buying your child some clothes!

[quote MsSquiz]@regularbutnamechangedd and she is donating the clothes to charity or passing them on to friends as well as using second hand clothes for her daughter.
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Passing them on makes no difference if you're consuming loads in the first place.

@LuxOlente Nice.

@epponneee Thanks, that’s what I meant

No problem with it if it makes you happy and you can afford it.

Make the most of it now because in a few years they’ll be telling you what they want to wear and wouldn’t be seen dead in what you chose!

It’s not that you’re buying clothes for her - every baby and toddler needs clothes replacing regularly.

It’s that your picking clothes for how they’re going to look at a particular place on Instagram and dressing your daughter in “aesthetically pleasing” clothes that match your Instagram vision of a day out.

That’s giving your daughter messages that I really feel uncomfortable with. And I say that as the mother of two grown up daughters who have run the whole Insta thing and thank god are coming out the other side and recognise how dangerous it is for youngsters.

@regularbutnamechangedd where do you think second or third hand clothes start from in the first place?

People purchase clothes, when their child outgrows them they are passed on to others who can use them. Sometimes this can be done to 4 or 5th hand items depending on wear

@regularbutnamechangedd But it’s not loads is it, for a growing 3 year old

@Watermelon221 Oh yeah, it def won’t be for much longer

I think you mixed your messages by asking about clothes and wanting then Instagram worthy at the same time.

I have a friend who is similar to you. Her son is always dressed 'for the picture' even in appropriate clothes. The problem comes when he is fed up and stroppy because he spends more time doing the pictures than playing. Everything he does spontaneously he has to recreate for the camera (usually half a dozen times until it's right), or he can't go off and play until they have done the pictures. She's spent so much time saying 'hang on just one more, do that again, in a minute' that she's missed so much of his childhood except the bits she sees through the lens.

Clothes don't matter, interaction does.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@regularbutnamechangedd But it’s not loads is it, for a growing 3 year old[/quote]
I have a 3yo, she has three dresses, three pairs of pyjamas (she loves pyjamas), two pairs of trousers and about five tops. Two cardies. That's literally it.

@Watermelon221

No problem with it if it makes you happy and you can afford it.

Make the most of it now because in a few years they’ll be telling you what they want to wear and wouldn’t be seen dead in what you chose!

That attitude won’t be socially accept much longer. We all need to cut consumption for environmental reasons.

OTOH, OP made it sound much more extreme than it is by not initially explaining how infrequent her play dates are.

@Smallbutnottinykitten I totally agree and wouldn’t want her to know/think that, which is why it’s only really when she’s small.
I don’t do it intentionally on a regular basis, but notice sometimes how a certain thing will look, colour wise etc and the photo looks great, not necessarily for Instagram always, just for us to have.
Perhaps it is really unhealthy and something I need to stop. Really not sure why my mind goes that way at times.

Wildly unreasonable but it doesn’t harm anyone. If you enjoy it, then fair enough

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@Smallbutnottinykitten I totally agree and wouldn’t want her to know/think that, which is why it’s only really when she’s small.
I don’t do it intentionally on a regular basis, but notice sometimes how a certain thing will look, colour wise etc and the photo looks great, not necessarily for Instagram always, just for us to have.
Perhaps it is really unhealthy and something I need to stop. Really not sure why my mind goes that way at times.[/quote]
The strongest messages we ingrain are those that start when we are small.

I adore my daughter and don’t use her as a prop or any such thing

I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc

I might for example put her in a long, white dress if we’re going to old type buildings, so we can get some stunning photos.

You might come across as a bit less desperate if you actually read your own words OP...

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