To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

@JovialNickname

If you can afford it and your little one is comfy then why not

Because the planet is dying.

"The complete opposite of the way I am/kind of person I am"

Nope, sounds exactly the same. She pretends her child is "feral" too and constantly up to high jinx in the forests, beaches etc.

The reality is that every single time they go out it's insta. The rest of the time they're doing not a right lot at home.

@riotlady 😭 bloody autocorrect. I meant denim.. which is pretty demon like on children anyway, it’s all stretchy leggings, rompers, jumpsuits here!

I’ve taken a great liking to cycling shorts on her now. Comfortable and look so cute with her chuffed half legs out.

Is this serious? Do you want to give your child anxiety about her appearance??

@PineappleWilson As I’ve said, the clothes she wears for a day out or play date have zero bearing on her life and day to day activities. We live a walk away from woods, streams and the beach, it’s where she is the majority of the time

Weird and sending your toddler the message that what they look like is important. That's not a great message to give them IMO

My DH is an artist. I work in textiles. My kids were 50% secondhand, 40% ethical brand (mostly scandi brands) 10% fast fashion. Because as artists we understand the importance of brand ethics, and because we like clothes that look nice. We don't have photo shoots with our kids. That's so weird to me.

@walkoflifewoohoo No, you don’t know me or anything about my life. It’s not the case at all

@Summertimelostitsshine I'll admit to it!

My dd is 18 months and I tend to dress her in clothes i think "work" for wherever we are going. So today, she's been to play in Grandad's garden and wore earthy toned clothes, but leggings and a t shirt so she could climb all over and play with grandad's dog!
The last time we went to the beach, she wore a pair of denim shorts with a floaty white top and sandals. She looked very "beachy"

She is always allowed to play, climb, get messy and I'm not constantly watching to make sure she doesn't get dirty! She is a normal wild toddler! And like you, I pass on clothes to friends who are having babies or to a local charity who helps families in need.

You're not hurting anyone, so carry on enjoying it!

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@MaudBaileysGreenTurban The clothes are always appropriate and comfortable, she’s my child fgs[/quote]
A 'long white dress' for a toddler on a day out is neither.

Look, OP, I'm sure you love your daughter and you love to see her looking pretty, there's nothing fundamentally wrong with that. I have a ds and when he was little I loved to take pictures of him looking cute and I still think he's the handsomest thing ever.

Difference is I didn't dress him up like a prop in order to get a nice picture of him. My very favourite photo of him is where he's naked except for a nappy, one shoe on and half-covered in blue paint. I can assure you that picture was unplanned!

It is odd to dress your kids up to match their surroundings and then post carefully curated pictures of them on Instagram. We've got so used to this shit that some of us don't think it's weird anymore. But it is.

I wouldn't pounce on you, Summertime. It's up to you what you do. It's just unusual to do that when you consider how hard young children are on clothes and how quickly they outgrow them.

Ok thanks for the feedback folks. Obviously I’m a pretty shit mum and shit person.

@Summertimelostitsshine

Ok thanks for the feedback folks. Obviously I’m a pretty shit mum and shit person.

Your attitude to fashion is shit. Not you as a person.

@Summertimelostitsshine

Ok thanks for the feedback folks. Obviously I’m a pretty shit mum and shit person.

Oh, don't be such an immature little fart, fgs... You sound like a young teenager.

@MsSquiz Thank you 🙏 it’s definitely the same thing that you’re saying x

Are you very young?

[quote MsSquiz]@Summertimelostitsshine I'll admit to it!

My dd is 18 months and I tend to dress her in clothes i think "work" for wherever we are going. So today, she's been to play in Grandad's garden and wore earthy toned clothes, but leggings and a t shirt so she could climb all over and play with grandad's dog!
The last time we went to the beach, she wore a pair of denim shorts with a floaty white top and sandals. She looked very "beachy"

She is always allowed to play, climb, get messy and I'm not constantly watching to make sure she doesn't get dirty! She is a normal wild toddler! And like you, I pass on clothes to friends who are having babies or to a local charity who helps families in need.

You're not hurting anyone, so carry on enjoying it! [/quote]
She is hurting someone. She's contributing directly to fast fashion, which REALLY hurts people.

This has got to be a joke.

@MaudBaileysGreenTurban The long white dress IS very appropriate thank you. We live in a blistering hot country, it’s cool and floaty but covers her enough as she has very pale skin. Vest and shorts like at home wouldn’t be right

Do you think when your daughter is older she will be very unhappy that you put lots of photos of her on Instagram or Facebook? She now has a digital footprint that she has no control over.

I’d have loved to see the vote in this one. Shane it was turned off.

Shame^

I think it probably stems from insecurity does it? Like you are so quick to call yourself a shit mum. Are you afraid that if you don't present a picture perfect life on Instagram or play dates that people will think you are a shit mum?

But to answer your question no. I bought clothes for my kids when they grew out of their old ones not all of the time.

Is this a wind up???

Why do you care so much about aesthetically pleasing curated posts on Instagram?

Why can’t you just take her and have a nice day out without having to curate the experience for social media?