To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

I think most people responding might just be here for the deletion message really

Out of idle curiosity to see what it will be.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@sadperson16 I give the majority of her clothes and toys to a local charity and don’t have a huge amount myself or spend a huge amount. I spend practically zero on myself or have a nice car and so on. I don’t have to justify what I spend my money on, as don’t others, who may have nice holidays and nights out[/quote]
You do have to justify spending on fast fashion, because no matter how much of it you pass on you are still contributing to the consumerism that drives the industry. But tbh I wouldn't expect someone thick enough to dress their kid in a 'nice white dress' especially for going to visit 'old buildings' to understand exactly how fast fashion works.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@Bonjourfern Lots from Primark too, nice bits I can pick through. We don’t have Asda where we are[/quote]
More fast fashion here.

@Bluntness100 and I work in IT, never knew I could do this 😂

I’m not sure about the Zara being really expensive, it’s not where I am (not U.K.) yes, more than Primark, where isn’t 🤷🏻‍♀️But is where I’d get nicer clothes, that I think are nice, I realise lots might not like them

Aw I think your getting a rough ride OP 😂

I love spoiling DD and dressing her in nice new clothes, especially if we’re going out with friends or going away for the weekend etc I’m also partial to a mummy daughter colour coordinated outfit and I may occasionally post photos of us twinning to the gram (ducks for cover 🙈)

I have no issue with buying lots of outfits. When we had more money I liked getting new bits for ds, it was a little pleasure of mine that I sadly can’t really indulge at the moment! (Blooming pandemic!!) I have kept everything for baby 2 and will then give things to charity or friends later. I also don’t really have an issue with having cute outfits for photos.

What I do have a real issue with is anyone posting pictures of children on the internet without their consent. I know most people do it, but it makes me really really uncomfortable. I would hate to know that there were mountains of pictures of me from my childhood available for anyone to see for the rest of my life that I had no say in the sharing of and no realistic way of removing. I just hate people making this decision on behalf of their children. Our kids are going to grow up in a world where they will need to make serious decisions about what they do and don’t share online. We are leaving those decisions to our children.

Ha, I know one of these. Her kid is so shy that she rarely speaks or plays with the other kids when we meet up.

Yet she insists on dressing her "sassy" (she's really not) "mini me" up on Instagram worthy outfits and having her do hair flicks etc.

Her posts read like, "So, it's famous person day and of course, my sassy lil mini me would only go as Audrey Hepburn".

Such attention seeking rubbish and pressure on the little one.

Lots of people will jump on and tell you your weird but I've 4 children 3girls 1boy they all get new clothes for days out,own clothes days at school and they all match in colour together I also put me &DH in the same colour clothing as DC so we match for photos ect

@badacorn

It doesn’t sound like you’re doing her any harm. The only thing about this is it sounds like a bad habit financially…

I would strongly disagree.

The OP is giving her daughter the message that what matters is not wearing clothes that are comfortable and appropriate, but looking aesthetically pleasing for Instagram.

I'm sure it's entirely unintentional, but it's there.

I might for example put her in a long, white dress if we’re going to old type buildings, so we can get some stunning photos.

She is not a prop. This is so fucking sad. I hope it is made up.

People who think this is made up have clearly never been on Instagram 🙈

Why would my message get deleted 😟

Okay I’m going to leave it here, it was a genuine question. I’m not a terrible person or shit mum, I just enjoy buying clothes for my girl and know it won’t last long for me to be able to do this. I’m also massively into photography and colour and art. I’m not into dressing her up like a doll or fancy clothing, the thought depresses me

Buy a copy of Halibut Jackson to read to your DC. Keep letting your child re-wear the same old clothes for days out so they can also make the most of the opportunity to climb and play and explore. I'm just imagining what my 2 year old would do if I tried to get her into a long white frock in front of a ruining building....

If you were 'massively into art' you wouldn't buy your kids clothes from unethical retailers.

@walkoflifewoohoo The complete opposite of the way I am/kind of person I am

OP I used to run a mid size independent kids wear company. There was a sort of forum where other similar retailers would gather and we would know which customers were spending hundreds of pounds every single week in every single one of our stores. I'm not implying that you're like that at all, but it never ended well. Sooner or later their credit cards maxed out, we'd never see them again. For most of them, they were all about a new outfit each day for each DC, and getting it all on Instagram. I always used to wonder what happened to these women when the facade they'd built came crashing down.
There's just so much more to life than what your DC wear. Enjoy the precious time you have with her at this stage, no one else will even notice what she's wearing. What happens when she doesn't want to be in your photos anymore? Some influencers who were always begging for free stuff from all the stores treated their kids like props for Instagram. In extreme cases you suspect they only had another baby to keep the content coming. Poor little stunt babies. I know you're not like this, this is more of a cautionary tale about where this sort of thought process can end up..

think of the waste though op, it is not ethical

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@walkoflifewoohoo The complete opposite of the way I am/kind of person I am[/quote]
I think you might be a lot less... artistic... than you think you are

@MyMabel I will hardly ever put her in a demon dress because they look mighty uncomfortable to me.

Demon dresses do sound pretty uncomfortable!! xD

@MaudBaileysGreenTurban The clothes are always appropriate and comfortable, she’s my child fgs

@Summertimelostitsshine not how it comes across I'm afraid, as you can probably tell from the general reaction....

so shallow

it is not good for your mental health op, step away from instagram

@PineappleWilson At home she wears her shorts, t -shirts, jogging pants, pjs etc, not for nice days out. She’s a scruffy, muddy girl the majority of the time. I just line her to look nice at times when our. It makes no difference to her and she’s before long scruffy and muddy in those clothes