To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

Well maybe it’s weird, but I do it too. I like things to be coordinating etc and I’m enjoying it before my lot reaches the preteen years and I’m not in charge of dressing them anymore.

@RickiTarr Yeah, I think I’m just trying to explain myself, but feel like I have to defend myself, I don’t know

I’m lost. Try again. Why did you decide to ask Mumsnet if YWBU to buy a new outfit for each play date?

All about the 'gram 🙄

What?

X post. Don’t you know what happens in AIBU? Posters tell each other what they really think here.

With the greatest respect though. You have thrown your self to the pack of wolves. No one is going to throw bouquets at someone trying to show off. Its not how the real world works. I'm sure you get enough likes on Instagram with out needing us to give you a pat on the back.

As long as the kid is comfortable, why not buying things that look good?

People pretending that they just throw any random thing in their shopping baskets are weird, and not genuine.

If you can be arsed to match colours to surrounding, who cares. It makes no difference to your child if they are wearing a purple dress - looking odd on beach photos - or a neutral or red or whatever you like.

Some people boast about buying horrible polyester fancy dress outfits just for playdates, not much weirder.

Let alone the amount of people who pretend that a toddler or child cannot possibly wear trousers as they are so uncomfortable

Seriously if you’ve had enough, just hide the thread. People are going to assume you’ve posted in a certain spirit and come with your armour on. You don’t have to keep answering if you’re regretting it all.

It’s a bit of an odd thing to do, yes but since she isn’t just wearing them once I wouldn’t say it’s so bad. It’s ultimately your money and your choice so no judgement from me at all.

I definitely make sure my DC look smarter than usual when we go to baby/toddler groups, they always look cool but I make sure they have their best clothes on. I think it’s just a pride thing.

Christ 🤣

No one is going to throw bouquets at someone trying to show off. Its not how the real world works.

it's not how MN work, where posters tend to be allergic to social media (oh the irony), but also weddings, birthday parties...

Agree or not, pretty sure all the people posting on public instagram belong to the real world too, they are not all computer generated are they.

Hahah no way!
But I’m shocked by how many people are really taking offence over what a random internet stranger on MN chooses to dress her child in

@kindaclassy

As long as the kid is comfortable, why not buying things that look good?

People pretending that they just throw any random thing in their shopping baskets are weird, and not genuine.

If you can be arsed to match colours to surrounding, who cares. It makes no difference to your child if they are wearing a purple dress - looking odd on beach photos - or a neutral or red or whatever you like.

Some people boast about buying horrible polyester fancy dress outfits just for playdates, not much weirder.

Let alone the amount of people who pretend that a toddler or child cannot possibly wear trousers as they are so uncomfortable

People pretending that they just throw any random thing in their shopping baskets are weird, and not genuine. Nobody's claimed any such thing, I don't think you've quite understood.

The most shocking thing on the thread was the tale about the little girl with brand new socks daily, TBH. That’s pop diva territory.

I think lots more do this than they’ll admit.

No - they definitely don't.

@kindaclassy

No one is going to throw bouquets at someone trying to show off. Its not how the real world works.

it's not how MN work, where posters tend to be allergic to social media (oh the irony), but also weddings, birthday parties...

Agree or not, pretty sure all the people posting on public instagram belong to the real world too, they are not all computer generated are they.

I think PP means putting it in a thread title doesn’t she, when she says “showing off”?

It’s not the shopping that is inviting opinion, it’s the AIBU thread.

Yes that's weird. You should consider getting a life. Who's got time or money to run out and buy new outfits for every play date. Not even sure what you are colour coordinating her to go with but that's ridiculous.

Brave posting on here.

Totally up to you what you do. I think its cute xx

See, most people on this thread are thinking in terms of what it was like having a toddler in normal times.

When my dcs were toddler stage, they had play dates at least once a week, often 2-3 times a week we'd meet up with friends with similar aged dcs at their houses and they went somewhere with other dcs similar aged daily. So no, I wouldn't put them in a new outfit, unless it was a birthday party or a special occasion like a Halloween meet up.

But with a covid baby, at only having meet ups with other families with similar aged dcs once or twice a month, then a new or nice outfit isn't so odd. People aren't seeing your dcs day to day in the same way. And I'm guessing wider family and friends haven't been able to see you as much as they would, so sharing photos becomes more important.

Try not to buy more clothes than your dc needs, but theres nothing wrong with putting them in a nicer outfit when having a meet up when this is a special occasion for you. Hopefully life will get a bit more normal and this will become less "special" and more "everyday" event.

BTW- I've read this book recently www.amazon.co.uk/Everythings-Perfect-Nicole-Kennedy/dp/1800240120 you might like it...

[quote MyMabel]@Morgan12

With that comment I’d much rather a friend who takes photos of Costa cups and her daughters outfits than have one that spouts meaningful garbage at people you don’t know and have no idea how their life is.

I physically cringed at how sour your comment is. Get a life.[/quote]
Physically cringed? Ffs

The OP pained a picture of her 'insta hun' life. I commented its pathetic because it really truly is.

#bekind #makingmemories #spicedpumkinlatte

I will admit I have a baby clothes addiction

I buy mainly second hand on vinted & eBay and also resell after. (Whatever DD hasn't ruined) I have at least 2 new things arrive every week & spend hours a day looking.

I have just spent over double the price for some bloomers that you can't buy anymore on ebay

However I don't post on Instagram and our photos are awful as Dd doesn't stay still ever!

I say fill ya boots your not exactly hurting anyone!

@Morgan12

God if only we could all be as alternative and cool as you

#imnotmainstream 🥴

Posters are just being disingenuous.

Apparently it's not weird to have a photo shoot with a professional and wear specific clothes for that.

It's not weird to have outfits for special events or what they think deserves a new outfit.

But if the OP takes her own photo it's an outrage?

I don't even know if people buy outfits for playdates, I wouldn't even notice 😂, but the nastiness against the OP is just stupid.