To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

What is very clear to me from this thread is that lots of people don't know what sustainable fashion is, or how they can participate in it. It isn't as simple as giving all your old clothes away or chucking them in a clothes recycling bin.

It starts with the consumption.

Nobody is perfect, I still get my kids wellies from Asda, but understanding it and doing your bit as best you can for your circumstances is the most important thing.

Nobody is going to bash somebody over the head for only buying their kids clothes from ASDA and Primark if that's what they can afford. But if you can afford brands like Zara then you could almost certainly afford to buy a more sustainable brand. You might only get one top instead of two, but you can always wash it.

@KnobJockey it's not about the money. The OP can spend her money on whatever she wants, really.

But the idea that one must have new clothes for every other occasion is environmentally devastating. Fast fashion is helping to kill the planet, not to mention the appalling conditions that the workers who make these cute, cheap outfits have to deal with.

Just stop buying shit you don't need, ffs.

@JellyNellie

Lots of people will jump on and tell you your weird but I've 4 children 3girls 1boy they all get new clothes for days out,own clothes days at school and they all match in colour together I also put me &DH in the same colour clothing as DC so we match for photos ect

Sorry but I'm doing a full body cringe at this. Like, don't you all have distinct personalities and taste?

I want 10/1 on ‘pony’ @C8H10N4O2

Well done 👏

No-one cares

[quote MaudBaileysGreenTurban]@KnobJockey it's not about the money. The OP can spend her money on whatever she wants, really.

But the idea that one must have new clothes for every other occasion is environmentally devastating. Fast fashion is helping to kill the planet, not to mention the appalling conditions that the workers who make these cute, cheap outfits have to deal with.

Just stop buying shit you don't need, ffs.[/quote]
This is what I said but in a nutshell I like this version more

OP you're not saying much about the environmental impact and slave labour I notice, wonder what you think about that?

@RickiTarr No, she didn’t choose the dress as in I said we’re going to look at old buildings..I didn’t say that and didn’t actually think of that until the day. We went shopping for some of her summer bits ages ago and she liked that dress, yes, because it’s a long white dress with flowers on it, she’s 3, of course she liked it, just like she likes her tutu and wellies and baby hat that she tries to squeeze on her head, she often wears stuff like this around the house, but generally isn’t there yet with noticing what she wears or having a strong opinion in what she wants to wear, but she will pretty soon I’d imagine

Honestly to answer your question, I don't think it's weird. I think it's consumerist and wrong, though.

@maudbaileysgreenturban but most people on this thread are jumping on the op for the fact that she is coordinating her outfit with a place, not the fact that she's not living sustainably. Plus, is she's not living sustainably, that's her choice! Why not go on to style and beauty and shout at then for their choices? There are about 300 posts here slating her for it.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@Biancadelrioisback Is there something wrong with me if I sometimes think that way? I’m asking genuinely.[/quote]
It's just very shallow. How things look shouldn't be so important that you end up spending money on fashion items for a simple trip to a castle or something.
If you have the money to spend, spend it on actual experiences, develop thought and feelings over aesthetics, or at least spend it at small independently owned shops rather the buying new, unessential pieces in fast fashion shops.

I love a good pair of Primark joggers for DS, but they wash well and fit him so he wears them until they have holes in or are too small, even then I often cut them into shorts. So I'm not against buying things in high street shops, but generally they are essentials and basics, with nicer items being bought at more one off type shops

@PussGirl

There was a girl in DS's nursery that always wore beautifully clean white socks & she'd run about & get filthy like all the rest.

My friend asked her mum which washing powder she used to get them that clean...

Brand new socks every day

This is definitely something I'll be doing come September ! Hate old white socks

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@RickiTarr No, she didn’t choose the dress as in I said we’re going to look at old buildings..I didn’t say that and didn’t actually think of that until the day. We went shopping for some of her summer bits ages ago and she liked that dress, yes, because it’s a long white dress with flowers on it, she’s 3, of course she liked it, just like she likes her tutu and wellies and baby hat that she tries to squeeze on her head, she often wears stuff like this around the house, but generally isn’t there yet with noticing what she wears or having a strong opinion in what she wants to wear, but she will pretty soon I’d imagine[/quote]
So she chooses her clothes at the shops, but doesn't actually care or even notice what she wears on a daily basis?
That is unusual.

OP, I think what you're (deliberately?) missing, is that we all dress our children in appropriate clothing for the outing/occasion. When DTwins go the beach, they have their shorts and t-shirts on, matching hats, they don't "match the beach" but they look lovely. When they come to a nice restaurant with us, they are in their best, and they look super. I'll probably take a picture because it's a nice occasion. It most likely won't go on social media.

The difference here, is if I were to think, ah, DTwins will be coming with us to The Ivy. Now. That's emerald green, gold, foliage, opulent. So to get the right pictures, they'll both need new outfits to complement that. Then proceeding to go out especially to purchase a new top and trousers for him, a new dress for her, so they specifically look coordinated to a restaurant decor. Believe me, we don't all secretly do this and are too coy to admit it.

OP you're dressing your 3 year old based on what will look good on your Instagram. Can't you hear how vapid that sounds?

@knobjockey Lots of people have mentioned the un-sustainability aspect.

And as for 'it's her choice' yeah well it's a choice we're all going to be suffering for in years to come (OP I am not blaming you solely for the environmental shitshow about to befall us all btw)

We all need to take responsibility for our over-consumption - you, me, the OP and everyone on this thread.

This thread is just a good example of it.

I'm weird aren't I.
I'd say you're wanting smoke blown up your backside. I don't anyone on the planet gives a hoot or takes the slightest bit of notice in what a child is wearing. I guarantee Aggie and Maggie won't be talking on the street corner about you have a different outfit each day for the next 5 for your baby.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@RickiTarr No, she didn’t choose the dress as in I said we’re going to look at old buildings..I didn’t say that and didn’t actually think of that until the day. We went shopping for some of her summer bits ages ago and she liked that dress, yes, because it’s a long white dress with flowers on it, she’s 3, of course she liked it, just like she likes her tutu and wellies and baby hat that she tries to squeeze on her head, she often wears stuff like this around the house, but generally isn’t there yet with noticing what she wears or having a strong opinion in what she wants to wear, but she will pretty soon I’d imagine[/quote]
So nobody actually coordinated the dress with “old type buildings” for “stunning pictures” then? It was a happy accident? Why don’t you do more of that? It will make it easier to concentrate on the moment.

What ARE “old type buildings” anyway?

Before my child turned 3 (for some reason now she wants to dress in jeans and sandals and tops) I would dress her so nicely and thought out and she would pick most outfits too! If she got dirty so be it. But I loved it.

I would never go "oh stand there and pose" but I'd take pics of her in action or walking but they always came out looking so staged and my friends would say "wow she poses so nicely for you" but she wasn't posing! I was taking pics of her walking and she chose her own outfits! So no matter what people will always assume they know what's gone on.

If it makes you happy so be it OP!

It’s like being thrown to a pack of wolves, they all dive in.

It’s just that you’re saying unusual things and contradicting yourself a lot.

You knew what you started, when you posted this lol

OP, I'm just confused now. As per your title, do you buy your DD new clothes for playdates and day trip? Do you do this specifically to match the surroundings and themes?

Your last posts sound more like you buy her clothes and then match what she already has to where she's going? I just don't understand anymore...

It’s like being thrown to a pack of wolves, they all dive in.

Not thrown, no.

@vodkaredbullgirl I actually really didn’t, but wish I hadn’t as I feel like a right dick