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Original poster

To ban DH from taking kids out

135 replies

fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:03

Because it messes naps up.

Naps at 6 and 7 o clock in the evening meaning kids up until 10 and up half the night and I’m shattered.

He doesn’t mean any harm just doesn’t understand how it impacts on me.

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Pikachusbutt · 02/07/2021 21:04

Mah, he just gets up to deal with them in the night.

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:06

PMSL.

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warmandtoasty2day · 02/07/2021 21:07

they're his dc too so you can't 'ban him' but he can look after them when they are up at all hours. Just put your ear plugs in. He'll soon learn.
How old are they ?

DrSbaitso · 02/07/2021 21:08

@fat13

PMSL.
Why is that funny?

What does he do while you're trying to get the kids to sleep or back to sleep? Why is it your problem alone?

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:09

He never wakes up so they’d be crying all night! Poor kids!

I’m not seriously suggesting I ban him but it is a bit annoying as I get no evening!

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warmandtoasty2day · 02/07/2021 21:09

pmsl ? So he won't get up then ? sounds a great dad, not.

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:09

Just a very deep sleeper.

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DrSbaitso · 02/07/2021 21:11

@fat13

Just a very deep sleeper.
Kick him awake.

What's he doing while you're trying to get them down until 10.30pm?

What does he say when you ask him not to do things that cause them to nap too late?

TastyMeatPuppet · 02/07/2021 21:11

He doesn't understand?

What's it like parenting together with no common language?

Seriously, get him told. If he's big enough to have them he's big enough to understand cause and effect.

DrSbaitso · 02/07/2021 21:11

@fat13

He never wakes up so they’d be crying all night! Poor kids!

I’m not seriously suggesting I ban him but it is a bit annoying as I get no evening!

What's he doing in the evening?
Shelovesamystery · 02/07/2021 21:11

Need more context here. Generally children that still nap would be going to bed around 7pm so why are they only napping at that time rather than going to bed?

StepawayfromtheBiscuittin · 02/07/2021 21:12

You need to wake him if he doesn't do it naturally.

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:12

Well yeah dr but either way it’s a disturbed night for me which is rather avoid tbh.

To be fair to him he’s soothing one now but it still means I’m listening to crying kids all evening when they should be in bed!

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:12

*I’d

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mn2022 · 02/07/2021 21:12

@Shelovesamystery

Need more context here. Generally children that still nap would be going to bed around 7pm so why are they only napping at that time rather than going to bed?
This.

I'm confused.

Either your child is at an age where they are napping and so should be in bed at 7pm ish, or they're old enough to stay up later and then don't need a nap

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:14

@Shelovesamystery

Need more context here. Generally children that still nap would be going to bed around 7pm so why are they only napping at that time rather than going to bed?
That’s the context!

That DH is going out in the car/pushchair, kids fall asleep, kids then won’t sleep at night.

Which is why I want to ban this as it’s driving me bananas!

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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:14

I don’t really understand why it’s confusing that a child who falls asleep at 6 won’t be ready for bed at 8!

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PeonyTime · 02/07/2021 21:14

If they are tired at 6/7pm why dont you feed the quickly if required, and put to bed?
Then boot DH out of bed when they wake at 5am the next day.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/07/2021 21:15

How old are your DC and why are they going out in the car/stroller at 6/7pm?

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 02/07/2021 21:15

Eh?
Carry them to bed if they fall asleep.

If mine falls asleep at 6-7pm it's because it's bedtime.
Carry them to bed - job done.

mn2022 · 02/07/2021 21:16

How old are they?

I'm getting more confused

Maggiesfarm · 02/07/2021 21:16

You could keep the children up later, there's no point in making them go to bed if they are not tired. Mine always enjoyed playing with toys and being with us downstairs, there were no hard and fast rules about when they 'should' be in bed.

mn2022 · 02/07/2021 21:17

@fat13

I don’t really understand why it’s confusing that a child who falls asleep at 6 won’t be ready for bed at 8!
I think if lots of us are getting confused, then you haven't explained it well enough
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fat13 · 02/07/2021 21:20

Tired but not quite ready for bed.

Depends, dh just likes taking them out. But it messes with the evening a bit!

mn it’s hard saying this without saying rude but it’s not rocket science. You know how some kids always nod off in the car/pram? Dh is taking the out in the car/pram. Then they sleep and won’t go to bed at night.

I consider myself fairly average intelligence and I don’t think it’s a complex code or anything.

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Shelovesamystery · 02/07/2021 21:20

Still confused. I don't really understand what's happening. 99% of the time we make sure to have the dc's home by bedtime. On the odd occasion that we are late and they fall asleep in the car etc we just carry them straight into bed. No pyjamas/teeth brushing isn't ideal but it won't hurt once in a while.

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