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AIBU - Saturday Night England Match??

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CityMumma78 · 30/06/2021 23:50

Hey everyone, please help me…
This Saturday we are due to go out with my parents to celebrate their special wedding anniversary. We are going out to a low key basic chain restaurant with our kids and my brother and his kids and we have two tables booked for 7pm. This arrangement has been in place for 1 week and we all live local so no special guests travelling from miles around to attend. Last week when we were arranging the evening we didn’t even consider the Euro fixtures but because England won last night and are playing on Saturday night we REALLY want to watch the game! I asked my parents if they could change the booking by half an hour which would allow us enough time for a leisurely dinner and taking into account the drive home this would enable us to watch the 2nd half. I have checked at the restaurant and there is plenty of availability to make a slightly earlier booking but when I spoke to my parents last night they have refused, point blank refused to change the booking by half an hour from 7pm to 6.30!! There is no reason other than they don’t want to. I haven’t asked them to rearrange the date I just want to bring it forward by 30 minutes but I have been made to feel guilty for even asking and I’m so angry they they can’t be more flexible to allow us to watch just part of the England game in the quarter finals. My husband doesn’t even want to go now.
Am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Original poster
CityMumma78 · 03/07/2021 09:07

Good morning everyone,
Well I have read all your wonderful comments and can confirm we will be going out for the meal as arranged, be happy and engaging and not mention the ‘f’ word! We won’t rush the evening and just come home and enjoy the recorded game.
Again I have to say I’m surprised at the vitriol, rudeness and aggression in some peoples comments… I should be cut out of their will, I’m victim focussed, I’m pathetic and I’m drip feeding information! I mean how much of my life history is required when writing a post on AIBU??
For the record I am very anti drama and would hate to fall out with friends or family and believe in compromise!
Wishing you all a lovely weekend & come on England xx

OP posts:
paniniswapx3 · 03/07/2021 09:15

You've been given an unnecessarily hard time here Op - as I said in an earlier post, I don't think you were being unreasonable at all.

Anyway, hope you have a lovely evening & yes, Come on England!

NoSquirrels · 03/07/2021 09:30

@CityMumma78

Good morning everyone, Well I have read all your wonderful comments and can confirm we will be going out for the meal as arranged, be happy and engaging and not mention the ‘f’ word! We won’t rush the evening and just come home and enjoy the recorded game. Again I have to say I’m surprised at the vitriol, rudeness and aggression in some peoples comments… I should be cut out of their will, I’m victim focussed, I’m pathetic and I’m drip feeding information! I mean how much of my life history is required when writing a post on AIBU?? For the record I am very anti drama and would hate to fall out with friends or family and believe in compromise! Wishing you all a lovely weekend & come on England xx
You did hugely drip-feed, though. If you think something is worth mentioning later in the thread (e.g. that you parents are always a bit shitty) then you need to say it in the opening post. It’s hardly your life history. But your behaviour towards and frustration with your parents is relevant, isn’t it?

Anyway, glad you’re going and will make the evening fun.

PhilSwagielka · 03/07/2021 09:59

@bendmeoverbackwards

How sad that family relationships play second fiddle to a football game.

I note that lack of pride to be English/British shown by some people seems to have been forgotten about now the football’s on. Where are all these people who hate England??

Hating the government is not the same as hating the football team. I can't stand Johnson but I want the team to do well.

Shouldn't you be glad that people are enjoying England's prowess in the football?

opinionminion · 03/07/2021 10:19

CityMumma78
There is a Dadsnet Smile
Its under 'In the Club'

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 03/07/2021 12:48

Have a good dinner out OP and hope your parents enjoy their anniversary.

WalkingOnTheCracks · 03/07/2021 14:31

As a parent, and knowing that the game is important to the OP, I'd've got in first. I'd've called to say, "Oh, it's the England game that night. Do you want to move the dinner to Sunday?"

Would that be unreasonable?

RolloTomassi · 03/07/2021 14:34

@Nutrafin

YANBU I'm not really seeing the big deal to be honest. No disrespect but it is only 30 minutes xx am I missing something? See that's how I would have thought most families would be, but apparently not!

Totally agree. Parents are being mean!

Blackcat333 · 03/07/2021 16:32

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

Yabvu

You want to rush through their special anniversary dinner, and go straight home after 2 hours, to watch football? That’s so rubbish of you I don’t know where to start. These are your parents ffs

It’s also quite reasonable not to want to start at 6.30, which is not a very grown up time. All done and dusted and out of the way by 8.30, eh, OP? Not very special for their anniversary.

I agree with this. There will be plenty of football matches in the future, perhaps the next one if they win this one? 🤣

You are lucky to have both parents/any parent!/parents that want to spend time with you even though a shitty game of football that will mean fook all in a week, is of higher importance to you than them.

Tell I will come and have dinner, you watch the match! 😁 😂

a1poshpaws · 03/07/2021 16:32

" we are due to go out with my parents to celebrate their special wedding anniversary."

So football, basically, is more important to you than your parents' enjoyment. And you have a big selfish baby for a husband.

I'd have been very hurt in your parents' place with you asking to change the time - they were being obviously shuffled into as short a time slot as you could manage so that you could watch the second half.

What on earth is wrong, as other posters suggested, with simply recording the game?

ILoveYou3000 · 03/07/2021 17:55

@a1poshpaws

" we are due to go out with my parents to celebrate their special wedding anniversary."

So football, basically, is more important to you than your parents' enjoyment. And you have a big selfish baby for a husband.

I'd have been very hurt in your parents' place with you asking to change the time - they were being obviously shuffled into as short a time slot as you could manage so that you could watch the second half.

What on earth is wrong, as other posters suggested, with simply recording the game?

You'd have been very upset at being asked to change being out from 7:00-9:00 to 6:30-8:30? Why?
Tzimi · 03/07/2021 18:38

Oh for goodness sake, they're your parents & they won't be around forever. Who cares about a load of over-paid blokes kicking a football around? Make the most of your parents while they're around.

Nutrafin · 03/07/2021 19:11

You'd have been very upset at being asked to change being out from 7:00-9:00 to 6:30-8:30? Why?
I think we've established in this thread that, to a lot of mumsnetters, the social imperative that its rude to try and alter plans (even in a trivial way) is more important that their family's happiness.

I don't understand it myself, but obviously its akin to a religious belief for many.

ILoveYou3000 · 03/07/2021 19:24

@Nutrafin

You'd have been very upset at being asked to change being out from 7:00-9:00 to 6:30-8:30? Why? I think we've established in this thread that, to a lot of mumsnetters, the social imperative that its rude to try and alter plans (even in a trivial way) is more important that their family's happiness.

I don't understand it myself, but obviously its akin to a religious belief for many.

They'd be horrified with my sister then, she's rescheduled with me by a whole 24 hours as her friend texted her with tickets for an event the night we were supposed to be going for dinner to celebrate a birthday 😱

I am genuinely quite baffled at some of these replies but never mind I'm sure OP is tucking into her starter as we type. Hopefully she has a good night and enjoys watching the match once she's home.

Nohomemadecandles · 03/07/2021 20:29

@Tzimi

Oh for goodness sake, they're your parents & they won't be around forever. Who cares about a load of over-paid blokes kicking a football around? Make the most of your parents while they're around.
They'd definitely still be around at half six!
scubadive · 03/07/2021 20:30

My goodness, I wouldn't entertain the idea of missing the match, especially if you have boys interested in football.

Any reasonable people would have rearranged for lunch or Friday evening or Sunday lunch, anything other than Saturday night, it's a huge game and not the same recorded and how would you not hear the results, won't it also be too late for your children after the meal.

As for not moving by half an hour, my response would have been then we're not coming, I'm sorry but your parents sound awful. Why would they not want you to watch the match with your children?

Sloaneslone · 03/07/2021 21:12

If you don't like football, you aren't going to arrange your plans around it. Or even know when it is.

Op, who wanted to watch didn't even realise it was on when she agreed.

So why would her parents?

CHISistoast · 03/07/2021 21:14

OP you still out? How was it? I'm not making comment about the football...

Nutrafin · 03/07/2021 21:24

If you don't like football, you aren't going to arrange your plans around it. Or even know when it is.

Op, who wanted to watch didn't even realise it was on when she agreed.

So why would her parents?
Because she told her parents and asked if they'd mind moving to a timeslot 30 minutes earlier Confused

Nutrafin · 03/07/2021 21:29

SPOILER ALERT for the OP

(although if she's trying to avoid the score I'd assume she isnt checking the thread)

Looks like this will be England's biggest ever win at the Euros Shock

paniniswapx3 · 03/07/2021 21:40

I know @Nutrafin - I actually thought about the Op when watching the match and feeling sorry that she was missing it Blush

Tzimi · 03/07/2021 22:26

@paniniswapx3

I know *@Nutrafin* - I actually thought about the Op when watching the match and feeling sorry that she was missing it Blush
She wasn't missing anything, she was having a great meal with her parents! Since when is that missing out??
Nutrafin · 03/07/2021 22:33

She wasn't missing anything, she was having a great meal with her parents! Since when is that missing out??
Is this a troll post? She missed England's biggest ever win in the Euros because her parents were unwilling to be slightly flexible.

ILoveYou3000 · 03/07/2021 22:36

She wasn't missing anything, she was having a great meal with her parents! Since when is that missing out??

How do you know it was a great meal? And yes she did miss out. OP is a football fan and missed an excellent game.

She could also have still had a 'great meal' with her parents from 6:30-8:30 instead of 7-9 and been able to watch the second half.

BastardMonkfish · 03/07/2021 22:57

@Nutrafin

She wasn't missing anything, she was having a great meal with her parents! Since when is that missing out?? Is this a troll post? She missed England's biggest ever win in the Euros because her parents were unwilling to be slightly flexible.

It's not like it's the final of the World Cup or anything, I'm sure she'll survive.