He's a shit partner (and father).
- out spending money when you as a couple/household have had to borrow money from your mum to get by.
- hangs out with vulgar, sexist, disrespectful strip club crawling "lads" and presumably thinks it's ok to, at the very least, go into strip clubs as an attached man with a child (and not even a stag do, not that that makes it much better imo).
Now he's been challenged on those two bits of shit partner material behaviour he's thrown all his toys out of the pram, left the relationship, and by proxy his child's home .... Really shit partner.
If he doesn't mean it, he's an absolute c*nt who'll distress you really badly (and your children are bound to sense your distress, and yes not parenting his child while not in the home) to do what he wants, even when he's in the wrong. And thinks you'll take him back no matter what he does.
If he means it, I'm very sorry, but I'll just call a spade a spade. ... He dies not care really care about you, your relationship, your family together, his child etc. .... He is nowhere, not in the same universe - as invested or committed or attached as you are.
Either way, I'll tell you what he strikes me as .... He thinks (like his mates( women are shit on his shoe, he thinks they're lucky to have him, he thinks they are to be put in their box, will take what they're given and be grateful, won't ever tell.him what he can and can't do, and he's the the boss end of story.
You're being given a big foot in the face lesson in that right now, whether you get back together or not.
He and his mates are on the sane page on that by the sounds of it. Birds of a feather, flock together (and reinforce each other).
Blokes like this rarely rarely change, I think you're into an absolute loser with him, no matter what happens.
I'm sure if you're honest with yourself a out everything to date, this has not come out of nowhere, you know what he's like.