Grey hair - with pics

[TableDesk]

OK so I'm looking some advice.

Attached is a pic of my hair 3 weeks post root colouring at the hairdressers which cost £60. Obviously I would love to be able to manage the upkeep of this by having a full time stylist and disposable income at my finger tips, but I don't

I am a young (ish) looking 38 Yr old. I sometimes get ID for over 25 places etc. Most people are surprised that I'm 38 and most would put me at 28 ish without this being a braggy one!

WIBU to bit the bullet to go grey. I'm not talking about just leaving it to go naturally and looking two tone for god knows how long. I'm talking about bleaching it up and dying it a funky grey with the intent to then let it do what it wants?

Am I being silly to even consider this? I'm not sure I could pull off a funky grey...

Has anyone ever done this and pulled it off successfully? I follow some 'Greys' on Instagram but they are properly glam, whereas I am less so

YABU - keep with the brown & 3wk upkeep
YANBU - bleach it up then go silver grey

Thanks

Yes! Bring on the Crone Age!!!

Another odd, odd post by @Rangoon.

Here we are, women with silver grey hair, living our lives, minding our own business, quietly confident in our hair choices.

And someone else feels driven to tell us we all look older and (apparently) all our partners are lying if they say they like our hair?

I just don't get it. Why do you judge women by their appearance: your colleague with 'mumsy' grey hair...did you really just write that?

And surely in 2021 women no longer let men dictate what we wear or do. And yet here you are, feeling the need to warn(?) us that men don't like silver grey hair! So odd.
Well, men didn't like women wearing trousers/getting the vote/having equal pay either so I think we can confidently say their alleged opinion on silver grey hair should bother us not one teeny tiny bit.

My DH loathes my hair when I've grown it out grey for a few months and has told me it looks straggly/ugly/like his grandmother etc. If I say I'm going to grow it out he says 'you know my feelings on that' and I certainly do! I'm 49 and he's 12 years younger so perhaps not ready to have a grey haired wife yet. I wish I had the confidence to tell him to shut it and just grow it out as it's a stunning colour naturally. But I feel horribly unattractive anyway so I don't want to risk looking worse. I feel like a fraud that I don't have the courage of my grey hair feminist convictions! I'm quite pale too and not sure if I'd look like a ghost if I were grey (pic attached so opinions welcome!).

grey rather mumsy hair @Rangoon so much sexism! Do you say that men with grey hair look 'dadsy'?

[quote Justilou1]Here is a link to Sali Hughes Guardian article about why she’s ditched the dye. She’s about the same age, and she’s looking FABULOUS!!!
www.instagram.com/p/CPVkB8vHFU4/?utm_medium=copy_link[/quote]
She hasn't ditched the dye though. The brown with some silvery bits peeking through was her natural hair colour (I thought it looked great!), the grey is dye. I don't think it does a huge amount for her plus she's just given herself a whole lot of work in terms of upkeep.

You would look great Fuckinell, it would really make your eyes pop.
As I said before I am deathly pale but look much better with the lighter hair.
I was worried about looking like Alistair Darling because my eyebrows are still mostly black, but I think I dodged the bullet.

Agree @ScribblyBaller - she doesn’t have grey hair saucy, she has a whole load of lowlights and highlights in there by the looks of it.

@Fuckinellitsme lovely pic! I have what I think of as 'Celtic' colouring too: blue eyes and originally very, very dark brown hair.

My hair is silver, and (in my opinion) makes the blue of my eyes really pop. My eyebrows are still quite dark, but I think they add definition.
As our hair greys, our skin tone subtly alters too, so that they compliment each other.
Since I grew out my silver, my hair has become much thicker, shinier and healthy looking.

@Rangoon

I'm not saying she should dye her hair but she has asked for opinions and people will have different opinions. I did say she might not care in the slightest what men think. I'm not saying she should dye her hair because men might like it more. I'm just giving my viewpoint.

Now now, Rangoon. You're not allowed to say ANYTHING on this thread other than women who allow their hair to go 'naturally grey' look wonderful, spectacular, gorgeous, sexy, and so YOUNG ... Because saying anything different telling the truth is just so NASTY and RUDE...

Whilst there are many women who look fine with their hair grey, and are indeed attractive (as I said earlier in the thread,) people are deluded if they think it makes them look younger. In most cases it will age them.

The irony from a few posters is staggering too. On the one hand they say 'I don't give a shit if it makes me look older!' Then in the next breath they say 'everyone says I look 10 years younger with grey hair.' Make your mind up!

@Blossomtoes

Looking wonderful AnnieSnap and AVeryGreyLady. It’s nice to see the thread’s back on track after that burst of nasty posts different opinions that some people on here didn't like.

Fixed that for you.

People really do need to quit this silly attitude that if someone isn't blowing smoke up peoples arses, and is actually giving a different (and not positive) opinion, that they are being NASTY, and vitriolic. FFS, people are allowed to give alternative views you know, without being called all sorts of nasty names, and being mocked, as people have done with rangoon.

@BearOfEasttown repeatedly calling people 'deluded' and saying their hair makes them look old (when you clearly view that as a negative) isn't just a difference of opinion, it's rude and personal.

[quote TheVampiresWife]@BearOfEasttown repeatedly calling people 'deluded' and saying their hair makes them look old (when you clearly view that as a negative) isn't just a difference of opinion, it's rude and personal.[/quote]
No it's not rude and personal, it's my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with the majority on here, that doesn't make me wrong. It's an OPINION. And my opinion is that grey hair is ageing. It will NOT make people look younger. And if anyone thinks that - then yeah they are deluded.

It's like gaining 2 stone and thinking it makes you look thinner.

Anyways, I can see I am fighting a losing battle, by having the temerity to have a viewpoint that goes against the majority on this thread. So I am off now, and am hiding the thread.

@BearOfEasttown

You made negative comments about individual posters' pictures of themselves, pictures accompanied by posts saying they felt good about themselves. That is a nasty thing to do. And weird, to be honest.

Now you say you're hiding the thread as people have confronted you about being nasty. Not so bold when you're the one being criticised, are you? So odd.

@BearOfEasttown you seem very agitated by what some women choose to do with their hair.

...agitated, and ever so slightly bitter...

Jeez - it’s only grey hair @BearOfEasttown, simmer down

I think BearofEasttown has some hang ups of her own. She says she’s expressing an opinion yet calls people deluded!

I personally think it’s great that women are ditching the dye and doing what makes them feel good. Half the key to looking good is feeling good!

You offered me some advice the other day @BearOfEasttown. It was - I quote:

Oh FFS, calm down, and pull your knickers out of your butt crack!

Perhaps you should take your own advice. You’ve been consistently rude and ageist on this thread. You’ve insulted women sharing their experience and their pictures for no reason other than sheer nastiness.

Now I’ve got that off my chest, you’re gorgeous @Fuckinellitsme and you will be no less gorgeous if your hair is grey. I have to confess to being a contrary bugger and if my bloke didn’t want me to do something it would make me determined to do it! I, too, have pale skin and blue eyes, by the way.

If I post what I posted the other day about @BearOfEasttown I'll get told off again by MNHQ but it still stands

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@Bluesheep8

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Deluded

You weren't just expressing an opinion though, you were rude to an individual poster, you used her name
Of course some people might look older with grey hair, same as with dyed hair, but telling posters that they are deluded when you cant actually see what the look like now or what they looked like before, is just ridiculous.

It’ll be dismembered if she carries on like this. She’s definitely not making many friends.

@Bluesheep8

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Discombobulated?

Rhymes with sickbed

waits for the MNHQ telling off

And grey hair IS ageing. I know people deny it on here, but it really is.

This is apparently a very bad thing to say.

Flat, dyed hair that is too dark for your skin tone is incredibly aging.

But you can make statements like this at any time on MN, with impunity, I've noticed.

I'm 56 - I grew out my dye aged 49-50 & would never dye the grey again. I also had a new shortish funkyish cut around the same time that has been updated & changed a little every few months.

I've had more compliments since having this funky grey hairstyle from men & women of all ages, including total strangers

• who'd've known so many people were (a) blind and (b) deluded...