Care label says ‘mother can do it’

[MotherCanDoIt]

Raging but being laughed off by others when I’ve shown it so I’d like opinions please! School uniform care labels says ‘or give it to your mother she knows how to do it’.

I want to raise it in person rather than in an email so will be showing it tomorrow as I only saw it yesterday. I’m hoping it won’t be met with as much laughter as it has on here today.

At least it says "mother" and not "birthing person".

@MotherCanDoIt

I want to raise it in person rather than in an email so will be showing it tomorrow as I only saw it yesterday. I’m hoping it won’t be met with as much laughter as it has on here today.

I for one would be interested to know what the response is.

I would write to the school and manufacturer. There are certain rules which care labels need to adhere to : for example, material/s used and this one doesn't seem to include them . I would also point out the spelling mistakes and question the appropriateness of the "give it to your mum" bit. I would say it in the context of it not being inline with the school's ethos and principles (don't know if you can quote anything from schools website)

I would raise it with the school and if necessary the governors. Whilst it may be witty, it's not appropriate for a school to be endorsing sexist (or other ) stereotypes

I want to raise it in person rather than in an email so will be showing it tomorrow as I only saw it yesterday. I’m hoping it won’t be met with as much laughter as it has on here today.

Not while you're in the room OP.

@HaveringWavering I shall return tomorrow and report back! @accentdusoleil to be fair there’s another label with the material % and the symbols but yes I’ll write to the company separately in addition to speaking with school.

Would everyone be happy with their DPs/DHs shirt saying ‘or just give it to your wife she knows how to do it’?

@MotherCanDoIt

Would everyone be happy with their DPs/DHs shirt saying ‘or just give it to your wife she knows how to do it’?

So tell us who the manufacturer is from your anonymous nickname and Mumsnetters who agree with you, can also contact them

It's a joke, and I'm not even sure it's a sexist joke. It's a play on the fact that family members will still ask the mother how to wash their clothing, despite the instructions being on the label. I'm not sure a label on some school uniform is the most appropriate place for this joke however. Teenagers are unlikely to "get" it.

I can say with certainty that if DH read that label, which he would because as an adult he can wash clothes as well as me, he'd laugh and think "yeah right, cos that wouldn't land me in any shit"

@khakiandcoral

I am terribly sorry for children who lost their parents, but are we supposed to remove any reference to parents, mums and dads, to protect them?

Shall we also remove all reference to siblings for all the children who don't have any or have lost theirs?

Shall we remove the word "parent" from all school communication too?

Well we could, easily. if it didn't need to be there in the first place, it wouldn't be missed, would it?

Would "Give it to your Dad, he knows how to do it" be funny? No? Why not? Because Dads don't do laundry?

Everyday sexism makes gender equality in the world harder to achieve.

There's another thread where posters think we should remove Fathers' Day from school, but maintain Mothers Day, so we are so far from any hope of equality with that attitude. At least this label is funny.

Being proud that mothers should be considered as the main carer and fathers have no role in childcare or school related stuff... it's so backward.

directly because of this boys will grow up with the expectation that they will marry, and their wives will be the ‘mother’
Because of a label?

@JaneJeffer

directly because of this boys will grow up with the expectation that they will marry, and their wives will be the ‘mother’ Because of a label?

Well if their wives have children of course they will be mother....

@JaneJeffer

directly because of this boys will grow up with the expectation that they will marry, and their wives will be the ‘mother’ Because of a label?

I'm more worried about the impact of some of the attitudes expressed by people on this thread than the impact of the label itself.

Some of those people are bringing up children. It's sad to think that their sexist views will be passed on down to the next generation.

I certainly hope that my dd will never end up with a MIL with these attitudes.

Oh dear god, does it say don't give it to your dad? Of course not.

It's a joke and most likely true. Get a grip.

It can be worth it, when companies are as reactionary as this, to stick something on Twitter, Trustpilot, Google Reviews, and any other review site out there...pre-pandemic, one of the organisations I worked for was red-hot on equal opps; it was surprising how expensive such attitudes could end up being, on occasion....

You must spend your life permanently offended. Relax, you'll be happier..

Bit weird

don't know why it doesnt say "Your ma or pa will know how to do it - but try it yourself."

My DC would have xxxxed out ma since I am hopeless at washing and never got back from work in time to do it. Their pa was peerless.

I certainly hope that my dd will never end up with a MIL with these attitudes.

Did you manage to type that without hoiking your bosom. Most of us are seeing the funny side, not bringing our boys up to be sexist pigs. That's really quite a leap.

This is a silly joke amongst mates with "that" sort of humour, not sure why they thought it was a good idea to print out for the masses.

@crosstalk

don't know why it doesnt say "Your ma or pa will know how to do it - but try it yourself."

My DC would have xxxxed out ma since I am hopeless at washing and never got back from work in time to do it. Their pa was peerless.

(because that wouldn’t be funny)

@TSSDNCOP

I certainly hope that my dd will never end up with a MIL with these attitudes.

Did you manage to type that without hoiking your bosom. Most of us are seeing the funny side, not bringing our boys up to be sexist pigs. That's really quite a leap.

I'm not sure that it is, tbh. If you're happy to accept that kind of casual sexism and find it funny, then I suspect that your sons will be part of the problem. Hopefully dd will be switched on enough to recognise the sexist twats and avoid them.

It's funny