DH thinks this is disgusting

[ScottsThots]

Feel free to absolutely let me have it but me out please.
We live in a house with a downstairs toilet/bathroom which is the absolute bane of my existence 🙄
I'm 33 weeks pregnant so I feel like I need to have a wee basically every half hour these days. I've been managing going downstairs every night when I wake up for the past few months but I've reached the end of my tether. I just can't do it anymore 😭😭 My back aches, my bump is in the way, I'm exhausted and nauseated and I'm just ready to have baby already 😑
I need multiple trips to the toilet and I just can handle going downstairs that many times in one night.

So yes I have bought myself a little travel potty with a lid which I use. 🙈🙈🙈
It's out on the landing so not in our bedroom and I empty it and clean it first thing in the morning I swear!

It's made such a difference to me but DH thinks it's absolutely disgusting.
I know he has every right to think that but what would you do in my shoes 😅 AIBU?

I also nearly tripped on the stairs a few times because I'm half asleep going down them.
We're currently house hunting and definitely won't be making the same mistake going for downstairs loo.

Safety and wellbeing first and foremost

Much better for her than to be sleeping next to a potty full of stinking stale piss.
It’s on the landing. What exactly is the terrible health impact you think that will have? And how stale can it be after a few hours? Because I’m pretty sure the OP empties the potty daily. It’s not a stagnant wee pond.

We went camping in a very basic 1970s tiny caravan when we had a toddler and several other children. Basically a shed on wheels.
No shower/toilet in it. Children slept in tent outside. We slept in caravan with toddler. Toilets were at the other end of the pitch black campsite.

I got up about three times in the night (not pregnant, but have had 5 children and wee a lot). I used the toddler potty rather than open the door, wake the toddler, head out with torch on 400m journey.

DH was perfectly ok about it.

He thinks a travel potty is gross?

I have bad news for him about childbirth. And babies. And small children.

There's nothing gross about it. You're a heavily pregnant woman who needs to pee.

He needs to grow the fuck up.

Op I lived in a cottage with very steep stairs & a downstairs bathroom. I used a portable camping toilet at the end of my pregnancies. It was a life saver.

When the baby arrives, OP, I highly encourage you to get your DH to do skin to skin without a nappy. It’s best for bonding.

How about waking him up every time to help you downstairs?

It's a bit of wee, for heaven's sake! Not disgusting at all as long as you are the one emptying and washing the potty (which you are) and you have it in a place it won't get kicked over (which you do).

Have you a spare room he can sleep in until after the birth - and by that I mean as long after as you need the "facility".

The alternative is that you risk falling down the stairs and injuring yourself and/or baby.

@cauliflowersqueeze

I think I may have peed a little laughing at your comment 😂

I say this as someone with diagnosed OCD and a germ obsession- no it's definitely not disgusting! You're presumably just peeing- keep a bottle of hand sanitizer upstairs to clean your hands afterwards and it's fine!

Jeez, he's lived a very sheltered life if he thinks peeing in a potty is disgusting.
Out of interest does he avoid the gents when he's out?

YANBU.
it's a good solution and not disgusting.
he needs to hush

Bless you ! It sounds uncomfortable but I really don’t get what’s disgusting about it ? I would find it weird if my husband was saying that. Good luck with the new baby. X

I agree with others: you’re not disgusting, your husband is, and please get a commode to be safe and comfortable.

According to one recent MN thread you need a kettle in your bedroom to piss in, like the ones they use in hotels :)

Please update us on how your sensitive husband deals with nappy changes when the time comes.

Good luck and best wishes to you, hopefully he'll grow up.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4258263-AIBU-to-not-wee-in-the-hotel-kettle

there you go problem solved :)

@Blueemeraldagain

It is a little unhygienic…. How do you wash your hands? Contrary to popular belief urine is not sterile.

However I think the benefits outweigh the risks in this situation.

I assume the OP doesn't piss on her hands You wash your hands after using a toilet because of the aerosolisation of toilet water when you flush/contaminated surfaces etc Urinating doesn't automatically contaminate your hands.

Though in reality - your phone/door knob is likely to be significantly more germ ridden than your toilet and I doubt you wash your hands every time you touch your mobile do you?

Being pregnant I remember was an uncomfortable experience, however I definitely would NOT use a potty but it is your choice if you want to.

Wait until you shit yourself in labour then he will think you are disgusting 😂, sod what he thinks your needs are greater than his opinions and it’s not forever. Your reason is valid. Pee away dear pee away.

Yes it gross BUT needs must .Could you get one of those porta potty camping toilet things there sometimes on face book market place for next to nothing .

On the practical side how are you going to manage to piss in a potty when you get bigger bad aim and piss on carpet will be a bit grim .

Use a policeman's helmet - he can't argue with the Law! Seriously though, I had to use a jug for night-time wees at the end of my last pregnancy and my husband had no problem emptying and cleaning it out when I was rushed in to hospital early one morning because ... you know ... he's a grown up.

I’m afraid I do think it’s a little grim but it’s better than potentially falling down stairs half asleep.
Could you not get a commode to save you crouching, as you get bigger you might not be able to balance?

Oh come off it, it's a two minute trip to the loo.

Ah, you've timed it? That's good of you.

It's not 'a two minute trip' up and down stairs when you're 33 weeks pregnant. She's not skipping around like a new-born gazelle otherwise she wouldn't be thinking of ways NOT to have to make the trip several times a night.