DH thinks this is disgusting

[ScottsThots]

Feel free to absolutely let me have it but me out please.
We live in a house with a downstairs toilet/bathroom which is the absolute bane of my existence 🙄
I'm 33 weeks pregnant so I feel like I need to have a wee basically every half hour these days. I've been managing going downstairs every night when I wake up for the past few months but I've reached the end of my tether. I just can't do it anymore 😭😭 My back aches, my bump is in the way, I'm exhausted and nauseated and I'm just ready to have baby already 😑
I need multiple trips to the toilet and I just can handle going downstairs that many times in one night.

So yes I have bought myself a little travel potty with a lid which I use. 🙈🙈🙈
It's out on the landing so not in our bedroom and I empty it and clean it first thing in the morning I swear!

It's made such a difference to me but DH thinks it's absolutely disgusting.
I know he has every right to think that but what would you do in my shoes 😅 AIBU?

I also nearly tripped on the stairs a few times because I'm half asleep going down them.
We're currently house hunting and definitely won't be making the same mistake going for downstairs loo.

He's not a fan of camping then?

Oh, and btw, having a downstairs loo is bloody brilliant when you are potty training.

He's going to struggle with the following things:
a) labour
b) helping you post labour. I knew many people who had to have husbands help wipe etc for a few days.
b) nappy changing
c) potty training/toddler accidents
d) wet beds

What utter bollocks. I have five children (the first two with a downstairs loo) wouldn’t like this and have no problems with any of the above.

I know, Scotts, right? Who knew? I'm thinking of getting one for the lounge for when there's a good film on.

Waiting for people's heads to explode. Hehe.

I totally understand why you've done that however li am sorry to be the bearer of what may be bad news

My bladder never recovered 🤦🏻‍♀️

And a downstairs toilet for me with 2 young children would be a nightmare

Have you considered either putting a toilet in or moving??

Urine is sterile.. bet you a fiver he’s peed in a bottle at some stage.. or in a bush or somewhere that want the exact right shiny toilet! Relax… pee away in your commode, motherhoods about managing, and loving yourself snd your baby as best you can.. perfectionism can piss off😆

@Mammyloveswine

I think when he had to go through 9 months of pregnancy then his opinion counts...

This!

Urine is sterile..

Urine is not sterile

I can’t believe the smugness of some Mumsnetters who are using this thread to brag to one and all that ‘ they managed the stairs no problem’ when they were pregnant. If the OP could manage then she wouldn’t need to keep a pot upstairs but she’s finding it difficult and needs a solution.
Almost as bad are the ones who are having a meltdown about not washing hands afterwards. I have a cupboard full of anti- bac , wet wipes and assorted gels to sanitise anything and everything and it wouldn’t be difficult to find a way to wipe clean my hands after using a pot so that they were safe. I’m sure that the OP has done this too..

And did you know that your dishcloth probably has more germs in it than your toilet?

If the OP could manage then she wouldn’t need to keep a pot upstairs but she’s finding it difficult and needs a solution. yes but the whole thread is about this particular solution and if OPs dh is unreasonable to find it yucky. Some say “yes”, some say “no”, OP was looking for others opinion, that’s not smug.

If he's got a problem with what is essentially a chamber pot then he's really not equipped for the toddler and preschool years 🤣

In your shoes OP I think I'd sleep on a mattress in the living room and use the loo

But I don't think that what you're doing is disgusting

Ach, an adult going for a wee on a potty isn't the most pleasant thing in the world but your safety trumps everything else - you have an alternative to trudging down the stairs multiple times in the middle of the night so go for it.

The whole business of bringing babies into this world is very messy, this will not be the worst bit, not by a long shot! It's worth it though, enjoy that precious baby when the time comes!

I did exactly the same for the same reasons. Going up the stairs was so exhausting it woke me up and I couldn’t get back to sleep.

When your DH develops a huge lump pressing on his bladder, then he gets to have an opinion and even then, not so much!

How would be feel.If his bladder shrank to a baby size? We only had a downstairs loo when I was pregnant. It was a nightmare.

How on earth do you manage to get up and down from a potty in late pregnancy?

I ended up having an emergency c section and live in a house with only one (upstairs) bathroom and a very steep staircase. There was no way I was hauling myself up and down them several times a day while I was healing, so I dug out a big plastic measuring jug and would wee in it (then empty it out directly in the drain outside the back door.

This is the first time I've ever told anyone 😁

And what about the other end of life? My Mum was very disabled, from being middle aged- had a commode by the bed, I emptied it. Not pleasant, but far better than her falling and breaking yet another bone. Neither of us liked it but we accepted it was necessary.
He should be supporting you all the way!

And thus is why I've insisted on a loo on every floor in all homes!

It’s a bit of wee.

Really not a big deal.

As long as it’s not somewhere he’s going to put his foot in it then what’s the problem?

There are people living their lives every day who can’t access the loo the “typical” way. They may have to wear special underwear or have assistance to use the loo or clean them up, deal with hygiene, periods etc.

People are very quick to judge something as gross or grim but this is the reality for some / many.

Really no need to be so over the top about a bit of wee, your DH is ridiculous.

And what about the other end of life? My Mum was very disabled, from being middle aged- had a commode by the bed, I emptied it. Not pleasant, but far better than her falling and breaking yet another bone. Neither of us liked it but we accepted it was necessary.

I think you are doing disabled people a huge disservice by suggesting these are similar circumstances.

@roobicoobi

And what about the other end of life? My Mum was very disabled, from being middle aged- had a commode by the bed, I emptied it. Not pleasant, but far better than her falling and breaking yet another bone. Neither of us liked it but we accepted it was necessary.

I think you are doing disabled people a huge disservice by suggesting these are similar circumstances.

She’s not talking about ‘disabled people’. She’s talking about her own Mum.

And the circumstances are similar. Neither can easily get to a downstairs loo.

She’s not talking about ‘disabled people’. She’s talking about her own Mum.

Who had a disability. Comparing someone, anyone who is disabled with a pregnant woman is not acceptable.

And the circumstances are similar. Neither can easily get to a downstairs loo.

OP can. She just cba.

For those asking about washing hands afterwards, I do have packs of wet wipes and anti bac handy. Also, the potty is on plastic so not directly on the carpet.

It IS not the most comfortable to squat at this stage in pregnancy, but thankfully lots of PP have shared examples of more comfortable options I will be looking to upgrade to ☺️☺️☺️