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How many weekends in advance are people booked up ?

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 11:41

I think my social life just totally sucks clearly. Everyone I know is literally booked up for at least a month every weekend ( if not longer ). Is that how everyone's life is ? Or just the people I know ?

Lighthearted post.

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pepsicolagirl · 19/06/2021 11:45

I have zero social life but I work 2 out of 4 weekends so it wouldn't take much for me to get booked up I guess

ShirleyPhallus · 19/06/2021 11:46

Booked up until November now ☹️

I was really enthusiastic about plans and now I don’t want to do so much! Think I’ll cancel some stuff

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 11:47

@ShirleyPhallus

Booked up until November now ☹️

I was really enthusiastic about plans and now I don’t want to do so much! Think I’ll cancel some stuff

That is crazy !! You're busy every Saturday and Sunday until NOVEMBER ??

So if I was your friend and asked if you wanted to hang out next Saturday, you'd say no. And if I then asked you when are you next free, you would say ' Not until November? '.

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BlueBoob · 19/06/2021 11:48

I have plans every weekend until end of august with different friends and family.

Made a lot of plans once we knew it was allowed!

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 11:49

@BlueBoob is that every weekend, the ENTIRE 48 hour weekend ? Including Friday evening ?

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myfuckingfreezer · 19/06/2021 11:49

I think the people who are that booked up maybe have kids' social lives factored in a parties etc

I'm a single 30yo and not booked up in advance! My friends and I just make plans as and when really!

cupsofcoffee · 19/06/2021 11:50

I don't tend to plan anything in advance unless it's something like a family birthday.

I couldn't bare to be booked up for weeks or months - having no free weekends until November would be like my worst nightmare Grin

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/06/2021 11:50

Like a pp it doesn’t take much for me to booked up. Kids are here every other weekend (and most weekdays but just for purpose of this) so child related things only have a chance of one weekend in two, and child free things only have the other weekends (whereas others can sometimes be flexible in coordination with their partner).

Then kids have Saturday morning hobbies, we want to visit family a fair bit due to not having seen them for a while, and suddenly the time is gone!

Gizlotsmum · 19/06/2021 11:51

I typically have 2 free weekends a month between now and January but some of those are filling up and others are morning or afternoon things

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 19/06/2021 11:53

July got booked up very quickly in April/May but that's because we have 4 birthdays plus arranged a belated party for DD who had 2 birthdays in lockdown.

June was/iss sort of booked up (half term, Father's Day, football).

but we don't have solid plans for August apart from my birthday, waiting for 2 friends to reply about visiting.

so pretty much the same as most summers apart from not going on holiday but doing day trips instead.

I hate being fully booked up and prefer plans to be more spontaneous (say days or just a few weeks in advance) if possible.

Pedalpushers · 19/06/2021 11:53

I'm rarely booked up for the whole weekend unless I'm going away somewhere, but looking at my calendar I've got 2 free weekends left until September.

JewelGarden · 19/06/2021 11:53

Some of my friends are always busy all weekend but they come from big Catholic families so are always busy with christenings/communions/confirmations/weddings and so on on top of the usual normal stuff people do at weekends.

I never know what I'm doing at the weekend! Usually I wake up on Saturday morning and 4 year old and I discuss what we want to do that day. Today we are having a lazy day and I feel a bit guilty but I am 35 weeks pregnant and energy is low.

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 11:54

Thanks for the insights. I'm finding it a little frustrating that everyone is always booked up. Nothing can ever be just ad hoc. You can't just ask someone on a Monday what they're up to on a Saturday and do something. Ah well. It's life I guess !

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PumpkinPie2016 · 19/06/2021 11:56

I have had periods like that particularly pre covid when DS had parties etc.

It's not like that all of the time though.

To be honest, I prefer not to be booked up and try to leave most weekends free for us to decide what, if anything, we want to do.

I work full time in a demanding job so some weekends, I just want to relax. DS is at school and he seems to quite enjoy chilling at home too.

Elisandra · 19/06/2021 11:56

I have nothing booked in at all.

Bayleaf25 · 19/06/2021 11:58

We’re pretty booked up until end August now. It’s not really that many weekends when you factor holiday (two weekends), two weekends camping, one weekend staying with friends, other plans with local various friends and family etc.

nixso29 · 19/06/2021 11:58

Booked the next 2 weekends and thats it!

jendifer · 19/06/2021 11:59

October is the next weekend with nothing on, but I have some where I’m/we’re busy on the Friday or the Saturday but not all day.

We are getting married though so some of it is wedding stuff, holidays etc.

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 11:59

@Elisandra

I have nothing booked in at all.
Lol you're like me then.

I have one thing that I want to do in about 5 weeks time and my friend who I asked to do something with two weeks ago is trying to force me to postpone that thing I really wanted to do in 5 weeks. How cheeky as fuck is that ? So you make me wait for 7 weeks during which I'm free because you're ' oh so busy ', but the ONE thing I need to do and can only do then, you ask me to postpone? Crazy !

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anothernamereally · 19/06/2021 12:02

I'm booked up now until September but often just 1 day of the weekend

ADialgaAteMyDog · 19/06/2021 12:02

Not booked up at all. Definitely not how I'd choose to live, I like a bit of spontaneity. Does make me feel like a Billy no mates when trying to arrange to see a local friend who may be able to fit me in in September!

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 12:03

@ADialgaAteMyDog

Not booked up at all. Definitely not how I'd choose to live, I like a bit of spontaneity. Does make me feel like a Billy no mates when trying to arrange to see a local friend who may be able to fit me in in September!
Ditto. Sometimes I say I'm busy even when I'm not with these types of friends. As you need to book them 6 months in advance, yet they assume you're available when their other plans fall through.. no thanks.
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ADialgaAteMyDog · 19/06/2021 12:04

I do think it's a shame for kids when we might pop to a playground one afternoon and no one is free to just come on down because they're so busy.

BlueBoob · 19/06/2021 12:04

4 of them are weekends away Friday to Monday, either Airbnb with friends or visits to family.

Others are Friday/Saturday bbq plans, or meals out, a zoo day, an overnight trip to a city.

But if I'd arranged a night out with friends on Saturday I wouldn't plan to do anything social the Friday night, because I can't hack 2 nights out in a row, I'd want to just chill on the Friday.

And again if I had plans on Saturday I would want to commit to an extra social thing on the Sunday because I'd want a day to chill out, working every weekday.

bloodyhell19 · 19/06/2021 12:05

Pre-Covid I did shift work so my weekends were nearly all booked up at least 6-8 weeks in advance. I'm currently waiting for our first baby to arrive and I'm not making any plans at all with anyone for the foreseeable (probably selfishly) but I don't want any pressure while I'm trying to get to grips with parenthood. (That doesn't include ad hoc visiting from close family though)