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vaccinelover · 2021-06-19T10:41:04+00:00

I think my social life just totally sucks clearly. Everyone I know is literally booked up for at least a month every weekend ( if not longer ). Is that how everyone's life is ? Or just the people I know ? Lighthearted post.

Zari29 · 19/06/2021 13:29

I am fully booked up, but that depends on whose asking and what's the plan .

LadyMargaretBeauforte · 19/06/2021 13:29

@PassionfruitOrangeGuava i agree. People make time for those they want to see. Being busy and making someone wait mths for yr time, no money, now tired etc are, all excuses and insulting the the intelligence to boot. I can almost visualise the OP saying "eh" when i read their post, when she had that convo with her friend. Don't think OP could quite believe it herself so came here to check she wasn't going mad and is this a thing now! Its always been a thing but you do not realise until it happens to you .

Personally , i see now i had been used by my friend and have learnt from that. It was yrs ago, i am wiser now. All i wanted was a cup of coffee and a catch up after my Dad died, that's all. 1 hr of her time. Did not think i was asking for much , having made myself so avail for her over the yrs when i had changed plans to support her. I see now a real friend would not have left me waiting a poss 8 months. That is what i mean about people who say are so booked up . It is a flimsy excuse , up there with the dog ate my homework and i forgot i have to go to dentist. It's a delaying tactic really. Its insulting to the intelligence . We know its not true!

People should be more honest and say i am busy but not as busy as i am making out i am ..i am with the people i want to see doing what suits me ....and then somedays i am doing nothing... and none of it involves you!

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 13:29

@BlueBoob

Thing is, the people who prefer a spontaneous way would equally make the effort to plan something in with friends with full diaries if they wanted to see them. If I ask someone to coffee a month from now and get a ‘ah I dunno what I’m doing let’s see nearer the time’ in response I’m not going to keep that date open for them in case they decide to see me, it’s still free and something else will get booked in.

Yes this it what I meant.

I think somewhere in the middle is best.

But if someone said, can you go for a coffee at 10 am on the 4th of September with me, I'm free until 1pm when I'm going for lunch. But I'll need to leave at 12 pm. I would probably say no, I'm away that weekend. Just because that kind of ridiculous planning / time slot given, would not make me want to be around them. Wow thanks, you've given me 2 hours between all your busy appointments in two months time.

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KimchiLaLa · 19/06/2021 13:29

Some people also claim to be busy when they're not, in my opinion. For example, a friend of mine claims to be busy and when you ask her what she's up to, "watching TV with my mum". That's not busy, IMO, but in her world it is.

Bloodybridget · 19/06/2021 13:30

I have very few plans apart from a couple of short breaks, and a week away in November. Oh, and my niece's wedding in September. That's partly because of the pandemic (travel restrictions) and partly because of medical treatment which makes things quite uncertain. In normal times I would be more booked up, but certainly not every weekend.

JustMeAndWheatley · 19/06/2021 13:30

Very envious. I have literally no weekend plans at all going forward. All my friends are ultra cautious and don’t want to do anything.

Faint possibility of having bellringing on Sundays after July 19th if the easing of restrictions goes ahead.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 19/06/2021 13:31

@Passthesauce

As few as possible.

We have 4DC and the weeks are so busy that we need the weekends to recover.

I spend my life surrounded by other people telling me how incredibly busy they are. In most cases, it's a choice and I can never understand why people take on so much.

@Passthesauce

that's what we usually do, keep weekends empty as much as we can to take it easy or get stuff done!
(as I said July is extreme for us, December is even worse)
or at least have one day free and only plan for the other - that way we can either actually rest or have the freedom to be spontaneous.

CynsterBitch · 19/06/2021 13:33

As a couple we are booked up till late september (as in if someone wanted both of us to come to something) i’m less busy than DH though so only booked up till mid august. That doesn’t mean booked up all weekend every weekend though, i couldn’t bear being that busy, so i make sure i have me time planned in as well, where i will just say i’m busy and just chill on ny own (i can be quite anti social)

RampantIvy · 19/06/2021 13:35

Unusually we are busy over the next few weeks - collect DD from university, holiday, wedding anniversary, a birthday, then

nothing.

Peppapigforlife · 19/06/2021 13:36

I never ever make plans with people. I'd rather just enjoy life as it comes along. The only thing I book in advance now is festivals and this summer I'm going to a wedding but that's rare. When I lived in Barcelona my brother messaged me around march to tell me he was booking to come and see me. I said oh okay what day are you coming? He said a date in August. I was like okay tell me again in August.

DinosApple · 19/06/2021 13:37

We keep weekends free generally. Maybe it's a lockdown hangover, but I can't think of anywhere I'd rather be than in my garden.

I'm booked two weekends in September. Nights out are generally Fridays.
DD has a birthday sleepover in August. DD2 and DH are completely free.

Apart from in an hour when we've booked a slot to take some crap to the tip. And I booked that this morning .

I adore being at home.

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 13:37

@Peppapigforlife

I never ever make plans with people. I'd rather just enjoy life as it comes along. The only thing I book in advance now is festivals and this summer I'm going to a wedding but that's rare. When I lived in Barcelona my brother messaged me around march to tell me he was booking to come and see me. I said oh okay what day are you coming? He said a date in August. I was like okay tell me again in August.

Love this. Can you be my friend?

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MargosKaftan · 19/06/2021 13:42

We have something in for at least one if us every weekend until the school summer holidays.

Most weekends have something in Saturday and Sunday. They arent full days events, but does mean we cant say, find a week we could go for lunch with PIL until end of July as at least one of us would not be back from morning plan/have to leave over lunchtime to get to afternoon plan.

A lot of these are things that should have happened already / rescheduled events from earlier in the year.

LadyMargaretBeauforte · 19/06/2021 13:42

Op, tell your friend later tonight that you need someone to accompany you to Camelot Head Quarters tomorrow , to arrange yr BACS transfer for £10 million squids . Is she free to accompany you and sorry for the short notice!!

U2HasTheEdge · 19/06/2021 14:02

Erm, I have family here tonight. I have a meal planned for next Friday evening and a loose plan of going to the pub to see a band.

That is it.

GlamourSpider · 19/06/2021 14:04

Til end August at the mo ... mainly reschedules from last year or peeps wanting to meet up for the first time in ages.

notacooldad · 19/06/2021 14:08

If my friends told me they have no free time to see me at all, until NOVEMBER- I would not consider them my friends
My friends are included in these plans.
Also not every minute is 'booked' up
The gigs are in the evening - but not every Saturday and Sunday
Bike rides last a couple of hours and I go out early morning. Meals out are usually evenings with Dh and friends and family so there is plenty of scope to relax or do something spontaneous.
The only thing non negotiable are the weekends away with Dh.
I also see friends in the week. We go walking, swimming cinema and out for coffee and to the gym. I do make lots of time available to friends.
If a disaster happened to one of my friends I would drop nearly everything to support.

Ozanj · 19/06/2021 14:13

@notacooldad

If my friends told me they have no free time to see me at all, until NOVEMBER- I would not consider them my friends My friends are included in these plans. Also not every minute is 'booked' up The gigs are in the evening - but not every Saturday and Sunday Bike rides last a couple of hours and I go out early morning. Meals out are usually evenings with Dh and friends and family so there is plenty of scope to relax or do something spontaneous. The only thing non negotiable are the weekends away with Dh. I also see friends in the week. We go walking, swimming cinema and out for coffee and to the gym. I do make lots of time available to friends. If a disaster happened to one of my friends I would drop nearly everything to support.

Then you aren’t booked up until November.

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 14:16

@notacooldad

If my friends told me they have no free time to see me at all, until NOVEMBER- I would not consider them my friends My friends are included in these plans. Also not every minute is 'booked' up The gigs are in the evening - but not every Saturday and Sunday Bike rides last a couple of hours and I go out early morning. Meals out are usually evenings with Dh and friends and family so there is plenty of scope to relax or do something spontaneous. The only thing non negotiable are the weekends away with Dh. I also see friends in the week. We go walking, swimming cinema and out for coffee and to the gym. I do make lots of time available to friends. If a disaster happened to one of my friends I would drop nearly everything to support.

Yeah if you're including your friend who asks when you are next free, then it's not the same.

The example I gave, is if a friend asked you when you're next free and you said to them- not until the 1st of November. NO ONE would do that to a friend.

UNLESS they're moving to another country !

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notacooldad · 19/06/2021 14:18

Then you aren’t booked up until November

To be fair @Ozanj I never said I was. I said I was busy this summer.
I've been dragged into someone else's quote.

speakout · 19/06/2021 14:18

I have no social events planned at all- just the way I like it!

notacooldad · 19/06/2021 14:20

The example I gave, is if a friend asked you when you're next free and you said to them- not until the 1st of November. NO ONE would do that to a friend
Clearly time to make new friends.
I dont mean that flippantly and it sounds easier said than done but I would be looking at expanding your social group and not rely on a friend for social time if that was the response you got.

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 14:20

@notacooldad

The example I gave, is if a friend asked you when you're next free and you said to them- not until the 1st of November. NO ONE would do that to a friend Clearly time to make new friends. I dont mean that flippantly and it sounds easier said than done but I would be looking at expanding your social group and not rely on a friend for social time if that was the response you got.

This didn't happen to me! It was an example !

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Thewinterofdiscontent · 19/06/2021 14:21

Nope. I ‘ve got the next three weeks booked on one day with birthdays. Two weekends in September. Zilch in August.

No way am I filling my weekends with “plans”.

And it costs a bomb going out all the time.

notacooldad · 19/06/2021 14:21

This didn't happen to me! It was an example !
Ok then.