How many weekends in advance are people booked up ?

[vaccinelover]

I think my social life just totally sucks clearly. Everyone I know is literally booked up for at least a month every weekend ( if not longer ). Is that how everyone's life is ? Or just the people I know ?

Lighthearted post.

@vaccinelover

Thanks for the insights. I'm finding it a little frustrating that everyone is always booked up. Nothing can ever be just ad hoc. You can't just ask someone on a Monday what they're up to on a Saturday and do something. Ah well. It's life I guess !

@vaccinelover

so get that!!
what you want is my style if I can choose!
the best is when you can make plans the day before or on the day even, because they we all know we meet up because we fancy it rather than out of obligation to keep to a plan (especially if weather plays a big part in being able to do stuff).

Between my own three relationships, plus the people I'm in relationships with's other relationships, and their other relationships, etc, plus all the kids we have between us, (even if you just go to my partners and their partners and not their partners partners you're already at 12 adults and 14 kids) we plan diaries a minimum of three months ahead...

And people think polyamory is all orgies and free love...

For at least five weeks currently, and every week that goes by something else is booked in!

I love it, I find people’s weekends do get booked up very quickly so if you definitely want to see someone or do something you have to arrange it at least a month or two in advance or the chances of you both being free are tiny. People are relishing being able to go places and see people after lockdowns, but it’s the same in normal times too. I like having things in the diary to look forward to :)

@whycantwegoonasthree

Between my own three relationships, plus the people I'm in relationships with's other relationships, and their other relationships, etc, plus all the kids we have between us, (even if you just go to my partners and their partners and not their partners partners you're already at 12 adults and 14 kids) we plan diaries a minimum of three months ahead...

And people think polyamory is all orgies and free love...

Every poly person I’ve ever met has needed a shared google calendar with their partners and metas, it sounds like a logistical nightmare 😩

When do these super busy people actually relax? I like plans to an extent but having a full weekend every week plus work sounds like hell

That was meant to be a 😂

Not been making plans in advance and just deciding close to the weekend if we see friends etc based on the weather, cases etc. Easier though to do so as no holidays planned etc so we can be as hoc.

@Womencanlift

When do these super busy people actually relax? I like plans to an extent but having a full weekend every week plus work sounds like hell

I relax at night after work and after my child goes to bed. But the things I have booked in for the weekend are relaxing to me. Seeing friends, going for meals, they’re all fun and relaxing. I love downtime alone but get plenty of that each evening.

I find the thought of being booked up for months horrifying!

I tend to just think about the next weekend or two, apart from things like family birthdays etc.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba yes you're so right ! I don't like planning too far in advance as things come up that can take priority and I hate letting people down. I also don't like to force myself to do things I don't feel like doing, so it's hard for me to commit.
It means I spend a lot of weekends not having plans and asking people to do stuff, when they're already booked up because they plan everything in advance. So I feel let down, like Billy no mates.

So it's not really working out for me ! I need friends like me ! But I literally know maybe just one or two people who are like me.

I have 8 weekends off between now and August bank holiday (I'm working that weekend). All but 1 of them has at least 1 day booked for something.

Billy no mates here, nothing booked, not even for my big birthday in the autumn. 😁🎂

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Not been making plans in advance and just deciding close to the weekend if we see friends etc based on the weather, cases etc. Easier though to do so as no holidays planned etc so we can be as hoc.

This is what I want. But pretty much everyone I know is booked for months in advance !

@PyjamaFan

I find the thought of being booked up for months horrifying!

I tend to just think about the next weekend or two, apart from things like family birthdays etc.

Definitely think it’s a personality thing. The idea of each weekend being ad hoc and just seeing how I feel sounds like actual hell to me. It’s much more enjoyable having things to look forward to and I’m able to see different friends fairly regularly by booking things in, rather than just waiting until I fancy it and seeing if they’re free as usually people aren’t.

I’m a Filofax user though, and I can tell you whether I’m free or not on say November 4th and book something in and know I’ll be available for it. It’s one of my pet peeves when people are invited to something and say ‘ohh I don’t know what I’m doing, I’ll see nearer the time’ unless it’s because of work issues.

We have only 2 weekends that ARE planned between now and autumn. It would stress me out so much having that kind of over scheduling. Weekends are my chill time and I love just being able to agree what we do on a whim.

Yes zing!
Sounds lovely, informal and chilled!

4-6 weeks maybe ?

@Wombats12

Billy no mates here, nothing booked, not even for my big birthday in the autumn. 😁🎂

Hahah I don't like planning for my birthday in advance either. I also hate committing to people's birthdays 3 months in advance.

I work every other weekend but have zero plans usually. Next weekend I do have plans for the entire weekend (Friday to Sunday) and I am overexcited!
Usually I like to decide what I’m doing on the day so I’m rubbish if friends or family do want to make plans.

I tend not to book too far in advance if I can help it.
But it does depend on when you ask me. I have had points where I'd have something every weekend for the next three months, and other times where I have nothing.

@PassionfruitOrangeGuava I do the same meet friends, meals etc. but it’s the planned aspect to me that is not relaxing. Having to constantly check calendars sounds like a nightmare

I suppose I’m lucky that my friends feel the same and our social life is much more spontaneous as we leave space for last minute plans

I have four young kids and I only make plans for the next weekend.

I couldn't stand to have my life planned out for the next few months. When do people chill? Even having one of the kids mates is normally even only arranged a week or two before

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba @ADialgaAteMyDog

We should be friends ! I could probably call you now and we could meet up for dinner later if you both fancy it.

I can guarantee if I ask anyone I know if they're free for dinner later, it's gona be a NO.

[quote vaccinelover]@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba yes you're so right ! I don't like planning too far in advance as things come up that can take priority and I hate letting people down. I also don't like to force myself to do things I don't feel like doing, so it's hard for me to commit.
It means I spend a lot of weekends not having plans and asking people to do stuff, when they're already booked up because they plan everything in advance. So I feel let down, like Billy no mates.

So it's not really working out for me ! I need friends like me ! But I literally know maybe just one or two people who are like me. [/quote]

I don't think you're wrong, people just deal with their social lives differently.

I like to plan things and know what I'm doing, I'm not very good at being spontaneous.

But I have friends who just decide on the spur of the moment to do things and don't like planning.

It's just different ways of doing things.

Middle of October for weekends but I have days free during the school summer holidays. We’ve missed lots of holidays abroad so have booked lots of UK weekends and we have 6 family birthdays in that time including big birthdays for me & DH and our son is turning 2.
We have quite a large circle of friends and fairly big families.