Short school skirts

[Kteeb1]

AIBU to think the reason given to me for girls not wearing skirts at school is worrying? So just been called by the school. Apparently all parents have been because girls skirts are very short and it's against school policy. I can only assume the little tyke (13) is rolling her school skirt up because it's not short when she leaves the house and ill sort it when she gets in, but I am concerned with what the female teacher said to me. The reason why the girls skirts shouldn't be short is because male teachers and other boys may feel uncomfortable. Also out of school grounds the girls might be attacked. And young girls must learn to protect their dignity. I have no problem with a uniform and following it, but if male teachers are uncomfortable in seeing a 13 year old with a short skirt, should they really be teaching? And why are we saying what a person wears means they may be attacked. I did ask if any girls had been attacked and I didn't get an answer. I just think it's a really bad message that girls have to change what they wear for those reasons.

@ProfPickles

I'm female and work in a school and the girls in short skirts make me feel uncomfortable.

They're so short I see one of their bums every single day and these are children. I don't want to see the bums of children and girls wearing skirts so short that if you walk behind them up the stairs you can see up.

I feel like the boys uniforms present them as smart preparing for the work place (one argument made for a smart uniform) and the girls does them a disservice because mini skirts so short you can see bum cheeks every day isn't good enough. The women working there wouldn't be allowed to wear them so why are our girls seen as less important?

I'm always a bit confused when people stick up for girls wearing tiny skirts, it just seems like an obvious way girls are sexualised from a young age

I dont think OP is sticking up for girls wearing short skirts. But it isnt good enough to say the reason they shouldn't is it makes male teachers and male students uncomfortable as that is then a sexual reason underlying that isnt it, and it does feed into the whole men not being responsible for their actions. Perfectly ok though to say people shouldn't have to see other people's private areas and uniforms should be kept to by all

not sure its right to troll someone who seemed to post an honest thing, when everyones saying that men will look anyway. its disgusting if they do anything more. for all we know hes 18 anyway and talking about a 17yo. we dont just want people with the same opinion or afraid to speak.

but yes it would be good to either live in a perfect world where noone looks at anyone, or face the reality and maybe make trousers the norm for all genders.

@onoyine

but yes it would be good to either live in a perfect world where noone looks at anyone, or face the reality and maybe make trousers the norm for all genders.

Or skirts? I wouldn't have wanted to wear trousers to school, nor would DD. And they look weird with the blazers.

These girls are children whether they like it or not. We are not helping these young girls in any way by failing to address the situation. If a skirt is so short you can't walk up.the stairs without flashing to people then it needs addressing. If you can't bend down to pick up a pencil without flashing yourself then it needs addressing. If you can't sit in a chair without flashing than again it should be addressed. So who does it? Male.teachers should be able to say it's not appropriate (I do agree that victim-blaming etc is not acceptable) without being labelled as pervs and they should be able to express the fact they are uncomfortable with it. I hate it and I'm female, I don't want to see backside cheeks thanks. The minute a man says he's uncomfortable we question if he should teach!! Where I work we have had nothing but problems with the younger women applying for jobs. They think they can dress and do as they wish with no consequence because if anyone says anything about work dress code or behaviour we have mum or dad calling telling us we can't tell their precious daughters off. I've never seen anything like it. Essentially we can't say something unacceptable because we are teaching kids that it's someone's elses fault

This - I agree. Dropped my child off at school today and the 6th form girls looked like they were off to a club. We are not teaching them what is appropriate for an office. And like others have said I really would not want my daughter’s arse cheeks to be on show so really it is up to us parents to take some responsibility and parent our kids.

I think the point is that notices to parents would be better to say short skirts are not appropriate for school, not specifically that they are distracting to male teachers and pupils. That way the focus is on wearing situationally appropriate clothing not on being responsible for regulating men's behaviour

Nicely put