This is a great thread! Lots of varied replies, which I love to read.
I think people have jumped on you a bit over Riesling, which is a bit unfair without doing an AIBU wine tasting event where we taste your Riesling and judge it based on how sweet it was or wasn't, and the strength of our migraine. Damn these Covid regs or I'd be right on that and we'd all have a fantastic time!
She was rude. She may have felt miffed - but not for a truly valid reason where she needed to make it so obvious. Perhaps she missed the fact that her wine was consumed rapidly, perhaps quite a lot of wine was consumed by this stage (where's my invite? I'd love to come to yours!) and forgot her manners, perhaps she's not a very nice person. You didn't make any major error at all by the sounds of it - it sounds like you were proactive in organising this get together and were an attentive and generous host. The finer details of what wine from who with what and all of that can just vary from person to person, but there was no major breach of etiquette here from you, of that I am sure - you have explained over and over that you didn't just offer Riesling.
But it has brought out some great stories of cheeky fuckers, and I have some of these in my middle-outer circle. We had a girly get together drinks one night at my friends house, who has to watch her money. Another friend who also has to watch her money turned up with half a bottle of red, saw Prosecco open already, drank that, and took her half bottle home!
Same cheeky fucker friend once texted me to ask if I fancied a BBQ on the weekend - at MY house. She had a joint of lamb that "needed eating" (read - had been in her freezer for the past year and a half). This would involve us cooking it on the BBQ, providing all the salad and side stuff and all the alcohol (because she brought the meat), leaving us with a pile of dishes, and no doubt bringing the remains of "her" lamb home with her afterwards, because that's how she rolls.
We politely declined. She has form for this kind of thing and all kinds of other amazingly hilarious stories including throwing credit cards at people across the table at "can we split the bill into 16 different amounts" type cringeworthy situations and storming off from one of my birthday get togethers because it didn't involve going back to my house and drinking the place dry after the fireworks (bonfire night and a Sunday night so I'd made it clear that it was just a quick drink and a lets go to the fireworks thing, which everyone else was happy with).
I wonder if she behaved the way she did because a certain amount of wine was consumed - you sound like a generous host. (I have a friend who if she drinks more than a couple of glasses has form for telling random people to fuck off).
Perhaps she's not that nice.
I hope she had the beer-fears the next day. But you tried, so good for you and please don't worry. And don't listen to some of the Hyacinths on here.