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Unknown babysitter because DH wants to go out

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Rosieposie79 · 16/06/2021 11:23

I am not sure if I am being over cautious or whether other mums would think this okay.
I have to go out to a work event this eve - a very rare evening thing that has been in calender for months.
DH decided yesterday that weather was perfect for him to do his sport tonight. We don't have any local family or regular babysitter and without consulting me he has asked neighbours' daughter (in early 20s) to babysit our children (3 & 5). I am sure this girl is lovely but we hardly know her, she has never met our kids and to my knowledge has very little experience of young children. She would need to put them to bed because children would be home from afterschool club just before we both need to leave at 6pm.
Not only do I feel uncomfortable dumping young children with a stranger for bedtime when they would usually expect stories and cuddles with us. But there are also all the activities of bath time when I just feel it needs someone with a bit more experience to do this safely.
I just feel DH is being unreasonable and there will be lots of other opportunities to do his sport. He should just stay and look after kids as agreed.
He is having a big old sulk and thinks I am being overprotective.

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 18/06/2021 13:05

Much more sensible! And that gives time for your children to get to know her a bit, and then you've a handy babysitter for the future!

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NatSab · 18/06/2021 13:38

I'd be fuming! He knew about your event for ages. I would never in a million years let a stranger look after my child.

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NewlyGranny · 18/06/2021 14:34

Well done all round! Glad your DH saw sense in the end.

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