Sitting sobbing at work

[sleepismyhobby]

A bit of background I'm a agency nurse and go around different nursing homes and hospital wards .
I'm working in a place I've never been before and I heard sniggering going on between the Care staff. This male carer came in and said have I ever heard of Austin powers as I look like him!
I told him he was really rude he's now went back to his unit . I'm sat in the nurses office sobbing , I've been having real self esteem issues lately due to putting on some weight during look down. And to be told I look like a character with bad teeth was the final straw ( I look nothing like him )

@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger

I think he was joking, pull yourself together and go check on your residents.

Just because he was 'joking' doesn't mean it wasn't an intentionally unkind thing to say. How was she meant to take it 'Oh that's so witty, if a trifle inaccurate!' Jokes/banter is the excuse all bullies hide behind.

If he talks about colleagues in this way, I dread to think how he speaks about the residents.
for you OP.

@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger

I think he was joking, pull yourself together and go check on your residents.

Your user name indicates you found some of the pretty lame responses to an otherwise interesting thread last week funny. You clearly don't have much of sense of humour. Here's a helpful hint - if someone laughs it was a joke . If they cry, it wasn't.

What a disgusting, vile little person, god knows how he treats the people in his care if he's the sort to so blatently bully a colleague he's never met before. Report the scumbag. Big hugs OP you do an incredibly hard and underapreciated job.

you should report them. People like this shouldn't be looking after venerable people

This, 💯

Bullies like power, and making other people feel weak. If he does this to a stranger who never has to see him again, imagine what he does to vulnerable residents 😡

This. Unbelievable that this has to be pointed out to adults. Ffs I despair.

Quote function not working again. Ffs. Ignore me

@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger

I think he was joking, pull yourself together and go check on your residents.

Where was the joke? Because I missed it. It's this kind of attitude that is driving nurses and healthcare workers away from their professions. No one should have to tolerate bullying. Even if it is disguised as 'a joke' or that loathsome word 'banter'. You should be ashamed of your posts to this woman when she was in distress.

As you say you won't be going back to that placement, you have nothing to lose by entering a formal report of workplace bullying. That should give him a shock.

I'm sorry for what happened to you OP. It's so sad when there are nasty people in that profession... poor residents

What an absolute prick

What a shit. How dare he. I was going to ask whether he looks like Dr evil so that you can tell him he looks like that, but that would just be stooping to his level.
Much better to be all Michelle Obama about it and 'Go High'- you can waltz out of that care home while he is stuck there with his horrible sense of humour and pathetic colleagues.

You do know that if you are agency you can refuse to go back there? Hell you could even walk out.

What . A. Prick. Obviously an emotionally underdeveloped man. Bad enough this kind of bullying is common in teenage boys that have yet to enter the workplace, but for a grown man to say this to professional colleague is unbelievable .

Absolutely report him. Let him know how unfunny he is.

OK, I'm a nurse of 30 plus years. In hospitals this sort of thing happens all the time and always has. However, that doesn't make it right, and if you do report it, it is now more likely to be taken seriously. Targeting agency staff is deplorable. If your agency doesn't approach management, make sure you do,including the others giggling etc. Hope your next shift is a good one💐

@Bluesheep8

People like this shouldn't be looking after venerable people.

This would be my concern. And should form part of your complaint. I'm so sorry that someone doing such a vital and important job has to deal with bullying like this

My concern also. If he is bullying you what is he doing/saying to residents for the lolz? Ffs mouthbreathes like this should not be in this kind of job but they are so low paid - it's a fucking scandal.

Shift is nearly over @sleepismyhobby.

I hope you did get round to making a complaint.

Before you feel upset about it though, just remember this person is clearly an unkind moron with nothing better to do in their life than upset others. No intelligent person would say something like this. Losers don’t deserve your tears or headspace. X

And he's a 'carer'?? What a bellend. Report the twat and then never think of him again.

Agree, extremely rude.

You do not have to put up with this.

Kick up a fuss and state you will not return there.

What is he like with residents.

Rude pig.

The great thing about it is that being agency you have to make it til the morning and never go back! Report him.
Some staff are awful to agency nurses, I have seen blatant racism on many occasions. Utterly ridiculous when you can imagine how short they would be if you weren't there to save the day!

@LobotomisedIceSkatingFan

Well, given that the absolute foundation of a joke is that it's funny, it wasn't a joke. And anyone who bases their comedy arsenal on an Austin Powers reference is the very tiresome sort of person who still does 'bits' from 'Little Britain', 'The Office' and those Budweiser ads of 20 years ago. We don't have to worry about those sort of people. They've got problems enough. Worth pointing out, too, that the only person who thinks you're overreacting has a username which alludes to the hilarious subthread (I think the OP was along the lines of 'Tell me your deepest darkest secret') about the volume of people fucking 'Dave from work'. Definitely don't need to worry about what whey think.

Oh yes that thread where people were telling really sad and awful secrets and some people thought it was funny to harp on about shagging Dave from work and took it way beyond when it was ever even slightly amusing. Those people were totally insensitive as is @IAmDaveTheSerialShagger, I can’t believe they’re keeping it going with their username.

OP, that guy was a total wanker and his words mean nothing. Pity him for the twat he is. for you, get yourself some in real life.

First of all @sleepismyhobby I hope you’re about to have a lovely sleep and that you’re feeling supported and reassured that this incident was horrible and all about him and not you.
But for those people worried about this man and how he is for residents, I doubt he will bully them. The OP is a nurse and his superior and he is probably threatened by women more powerful than him and attempting to bring her down a peg or two as he feels insecure about his own level. So it’s doesn’t necessarily add up that he’s a bully so he will bully vulnerable people. He’s jealous as he isn’t an intelligent professional.

If he abuses a colleague like that, how the hell does he treat the vulnerable patients in his care? That’s a red flag to me.

Some carers are in the job because they are nasty bullies. Just look at the court cases in recent years where dementia patients have been abused, laughed at etc. I remember one where a group of young women carers put their residents comfort dolls in washing machines and told them to watch and another where there was hidden camera of them shouting ‘shut up you old bat’ and finding it hysterical
Op make sure you’re happy with the way him and his fellow carers operate it could be symptomatic of something much worse. Remember you’re a nursing professional, there to do a job. Don’t let nasty pathetic bullies knock you down.!

Absolutely no one has the right to be so rude. I would report him to the manager because he clearly has poor people skills and doesn’t have a filter ! I would be concerned for the residents wellbeing. I hope your shift was ok .Have a good rest now 💐