To think neighbours having parties in their gardens should have some consideration for neighbours?

[Bbq1]

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

[Bertiebiscuit]

YANBU my vile neighbours fo this all the time and it makes my blood boil. I complain to Environmental Health which achieves nothing so I go to bed really early with earpluds and my own white noise and make a load of noise at the crack of dawn the next morning which makes me feel better

[peppermintpat]

I worry any complaints breed reprisals. I've been there years ago (still on tablets 15 years later) had awful neighbours and had my property and car vandalised during the night. I was a single mum living alone and they knew it. Preyed on the vulnerable.

[Tam20779]

If the noise is going on to an unsociable hour, call the police or your local environmental health. If you can give them evidence of the noise over the phone too, this will help.

[jenkel]

We have a big party in the garden normally once a year, we had one last summer, exactly 30 people ( so we were legal). We did tell our immediate neighbour, it did go on until about midnight but I turned the music down at 10. However, the rest of the year we are quiet, lots of young kids around us so lots of noise in the gardens generally all summer.

[RachaelN]

Sounds like you live near me.. this sounds identical to our neighbours.

[fussyhousewife]

I thought you could keep a diary of all the events and times. You can then go to Noise Abatement at your local Council. Good idea to tape the racket as back up for your complaint. The Council will be forced to tackle.

[MJBmummy]

YANBU I hate my neighbours because they play their music so bloody loud but I feel like I cant complain as it is always during the day and not unsociable hours. However, it actually stops me from sitting in my garden and enjoying all the hard work I have put in over the past few years and I'm embarrassed to have people over because of how the neighbours are. They're a horrible family and I worry about repercussions if I complain, either to them or the council. I live in a detached house but can hear their music with all my windows and doors closed, which can become unbearable during the summer. God knows how their direct neighbours cope! I'd like a dating style app for people who are moving / neighbours are moving and would like to find like-minded quiet neighbours

[Bookloverjay]

Where I live we have motorbikes and quads going up and down up and down. Do they drive past their own homes oh no they can't, won't do that, no they have to annoy others.

Many many moons ago,(1980's) when I was very young and foolish and irresponsible I had a party
(I use the word party very loosely) in my garden with loud music, singing and probably shouting and the police came and threaten to take away the equipment we was using and fine me, as it was my garden.

[Backtomyoldname]

Start diy early the next morning.

Mow the lawn.

Or…… Nuclear option………... Meter cupboards have a common key. Inside there is a main fuse - it’s for the whole house. Sometimes they have a security wire fastening them in.

Wait till its dark. Snip the wire and pull the fuse. Chuck it away/take it/leave it in the grass. Close and lock the meter cupboard door.

Go back to your own house quickly and quietly and put all of tour lights off. They’ll think its a power cut.

It’ll take them a while to find out what’s happened. Replacement fuses aren’t readily available from B&Q etc.

So you might let them ‘find’ it the next morning.

If there are a few houses nearby they won’t know who has done the deed.

[Morgysmum]

It is very selfish of them.
I had similar over the weekend, we had been to the beach, we were up early.
We had a lovely day until it got to night time. Some neighbours were having a party. They aren't next door, but our rear gardens meet in triangle shape. There house is in the next street over.
It wasn't music wich was the problem, but loud voices. We hoped it would go quite at midnight, but to no avail. My sons room is on the back, we only have wooden windows, which don't shut properly.
The annoying bit is, the woman who's party it was, has shouted at other people, making a noise after midnight, to say that her kids are trying to get to sleep. 🤦‍♀️ So I guess one rule for her another for the rest of us. They eventually shut up at 2:15 am. My son ended up in bed with his dad, whilst I took his bed, so he could get some sleep. Then his dad was up for work at 6:45.

[Mamanyt]

One of the first times on Mumsnet that I've been happy to say, "Thank GOODNESS I live in the USA!" Although, after this last election, we seem to be crawling back out of that black hole. At any rate, EVERY town I know of here has noise ordinances, and they kick into effect anywhere from 10PM to midnight, and a call to the local police will shut them down, no questions asked.

[Lilibet2022]

@Morgysmum you must live near me. Our sex pond twat is exactly the same. Loud voices over the music until 2am keeping DD awake (never mind her own kids!). Same CFer had the nerve to tell someone off for keeping everyone awake last year for their DCs milestone birthday!

[Lilibet2022]

@Mamanyt it really is something that needs to be changed in the UK. It's ridiculous.

[MollyMinniesMum]

Has Covid been forgotten in the uk?

[Walkers6834]

My twat nieghbours on Friday night, had a big party 7 kids screaming and shouting, all the windows open in the bungalow.also at least 8 adults rule of six they don't follow the rules.It was either mr twats birthday or a balcony warming party, yes they have a sun terrace on a bungalow. They have 2 arsehole kids 5 and 8, all the m8s come, down every night 5 -7:30 between 4 or 5 of them screaming shouting, no respect for us or the neighbours. Mr and Mrs twat needs to have constant stream of friends over, so they feel important. Bbq every Sunday new m8s only ones that can come over.they have a side gate, so sleek people in, it's a dead giveaway. I so wanted to report the noise. I get my own back by blasting bagpipe music or heavy rock for 2hrs on a weekend. They pissoff they can't take it lol. Anyone have neighbours like these?

[SallyWD]

This is really selfish. If it was a one off then fine but it sounds like a frequent thing. We actually have a house full of students behind us who love to have parties in their garden but as soon as it gets to 9pm they turn the music off and go inside. It's because they know they live in a residential street with lots of families and small children.

[pam290358]

We are at the end of a road with a side road, so our back garden backs on to all the gardens up the side road. Three parties in the last week, all going on to the early hours. My partner has a heart condition so needs a lot of rest and my mum is 91 and has dementia. I have asked them to keep the noise down (loud music until 3am. Shrieking and screaming and loud singing until all hours) but to no avail. Finally called police on 101. Good enough they sent round officers who told them to keep it down but an hour after they left, the noise was back up to intolerable levels again. At my wits end so I sympathise.

[CauliflowerBalti]

Our neighbours are quite young and have parties most weekends when it’s warm. Their taste in music is absolutely shocking. I didn’t know it was possible to actually buy the albums that Spanish resorts play in the swim in bar at the pool. Maybe they’re trying to replicate that holiday feeling... Anyway. I am tolerant of party noise in the round, but their specific taste in music absolutely makes my ears bled. They’re moving soon and am hopeful that the new neighbours - also a young couple - have better taste in music or fewer friends to entertain.

My biggest bugbear is next door but one having a bonfire most evenings. She burns chicken and garden waste so it’s thick black plumes of smoke and it’s horrible to be out in it. Thinking about it, maybe the euro shite music is aimed at her.

[Merryweather80]

Air horn set off in the bedroom next to theirs if a terrace or outside if not.

I'm completely sick of neighbour. Parties day and night through lockdown. Coke fueled weejenders that don't stop at all. You hear music, shreiking, laughing day and night.
Police don't care and environmental health are a joke.
I lost it one weekend and yelled out if the window to shut up. There's elderly, disabled, babies and children all inconvenienced by it. I of course was given abuse but I did hear clapping from two sets of neighbours.

The air horn as close as you can get to the location you think they are sleeping in- early and regularly the following day works a treat when all the other avenues have been exhausted.

[bluebellsis]

Here is an idea. Lower some Pre filled water balloons over the fence for the kids to have some fun with. It's a nice gesture right? Except when the guests get wet they will probably go home?

[Whatafustercluck]

Yanbu op. We like our parties/ gatherings in the summer and had a football party at 2pm yesterday. Music was off by 6pm and most of the noise during the afternoon had been my two dc and their cousins dive bombing into the paddling pool. We do have a garden bar, it's down the other end of the garden away from houses and music gets turned low or off at 10pm when we have guests over (not every week by any means). It's never obnoxiously loud to begin with. We've checked with our closest neighbours to ensure this doesn't cause any problems and they're fine.

[merlincat21]

Don,t worry folks rain is coming this week which will send them packing indoors. I had it last weekend both days sat and sun pm. Radio full belt, screaming shouting adult party on Sat followed by radio full pelt and a girls paddling pool party on sun with screaming shouting about 20 plus kids all pm. Are other neighbours have kids but nothing like this nobody minds a bit of noise my kids used to do the same but there are limits it was so loud you could here it across the street.

[Snoozer11]

@Lolly34h

Me neighbours had a party I was prewarned and was hopeful that they would be a bit quieter around the 11 o'clock mark. I have a toddler and sleep on the back of our house. I dared to knock the door when the karaoke started at 10.30 pm to be met with a torrent of abuse. And was told the next day it was selfish to ask them to be a bit quieter. This is a school teacher too breaking the Covid rule by having more than 30 in the garden

Did you count them?

[merlincat21]

We also had swearing and references to Spastic sung along to a party song, totally inappropriate give we have neighbours 3 doors up with a disabled child.

[AnnieSnap]

It sounds horrendous. We had it with some neighbours who have thankfully, moved. Have you tried going around, having a chat and asking if they could keep it down a bit and move it inside from e.g. 11pm? Of course it will still be awful, but maybe not quite as bad.