To think neighbours having parties in their gardens should have some consideration for neighbours?

[Bbq1]

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

We have twentysomethings living next door and they do this. Even older children need to sleep. And so do adults who have to go to work/get children to school/get up for babies.

Ive included parties in my post, I think we have at least 1 party every weekend from one of our neighbours.

Mine started at 11am and I could still hear loud singing at 6 am this morning

@Sunbird.
WTF is Engerland ?

I hope it was a case of being tired ? But really I would prefer local kids to at least get the country they are living in correct.
We are living in England
And on the whole a lot of us speak English.

I'm not saying your views are wrong, I'm saying I don't understand why it's such an issue for some people, I still enjoyed my garden 2 nights ago with a loud party and lots of children next door, I sat with my candles and a gin enjoying the warm night, watching the stars and bellows of shine bright like a diamond.

@TheReluctantPhoenix

I think that the U.K. has weird rules for such a crowded country.

You would not throw litter over your neighbour’s fence, so why unwanted noise?

Paris has a rule of no noise after 8pm, and if you complain, the police will come and enforce it.

With sleep being v important for health, I don’t see why we cannot be stricter here.

I agree. Unfortunately the people who make the rules are not living as normal citizens who work, worry about money and can only afford the cramped living that is the norm in the UK. They are not affected by intrusion because they have land, several places to reside and are above the law anyway. It's mad... Let the common people squabble amongst themselves is the motto. Dignity and respect for individual lives doesn't even come into it - hence it trickles down into everyday life.

Some Scandinavian/ Nordic countries are strict on noise pollution too, no surprise there. They recognise the impact this kind of stress has on people in their own homes. They recognise that people are scared to upset the apple cart within their own communities because the culprits are confident. It's just basic common sense of protecting citizens. Therefore they enforce the law to take the responsibility of conflict away.

@Bbq1
Are your neighbours still at it OP

@sonofabiscuit I'm sorry you all had to put with that. This is a similar situation that we find ourselves in. She's often too busy in her sex pond day drinking with her mates and then gets abusive when a driver who's just had to do an emergency stop for these random unsupervised children in the middle of the road has the audacity to tell her to watch them better. It's a matter of when not if there's an accident with that shitty parenting and she'll blame someone else other than herself.

@notthemum you know the football chant that goes ‘En-ger-land, En-ger-land, nah nah nah nah’ etc… Also lots of shouts of ‘Come on England’. At 8.30am. Kick off is at 2 isn’t it?

@notthemum
I think they mean that is how they pronounce England when doing the chant as it ‘flows’ better

Like IN-GER-LAND

Horrible I know

Time for some early morning strimming or karchering. These are even more irritating than loud music (especially if you have a hangover)

@phatphanny this coming week is the year 10 mock exams. I have several parent friends who's year 10 children have been buried under their study books worrying themselves sick they won't 'pass' including my own these past few weeks because of the disruption they've had to their school schedule. Their results I'm told depends on what exams they'll be placed in for the final gcses next year. One day this week we purposely went out for the day to a local park just so DD could sit & study in peace because the music was blasting that loud since 8am she couldn't concentrate even with headphones in and as I had to call the police the last time I tried talking to the CFer she's not one you can reason with. Its not just people wanting to enjoy their gardens that these CFer neighbours are affecting. Not to mention all those still working from home.

Why not just rock up with a bottle and join them?

Any chance you live in Dorset? I was being regaled by loud football singing last night around this time and wanted to punch someone

I keep reading threads like this and I agree there should be stricter enforceable laws on noise and when parties should end . I bet if you asked people they would be willing to pay a little more in taxes to have a more dedicated noise enforcement team to make sure laws were being obeyed.

@SinkGirl
I’d bet the ‘football fever’ is nationwide and millions of people are being disturbed sadly

No one is expecting neighbours to be silent all the time. I don't think it's unreasonable for people to expect their neighbours to afford them a basic level of courtesy so that they can still function efficiently at work and school the next day whilst the perpetrators sleep their hangovers off all day.

What TheReluctantPhoenix and CreamOrange said. I'm eternally astonished at the level of selfish noise pollution people are allowed to put out in the UK and others are expected to put up with.

As for building work, so many inconsiderate builders blast their music above the noise of the building work so they can 'enjoy' their music at work.

@memberofthewedding

Why not just rock up with a bottle and join them?

Because some people have to get up and go to work.

We had this last year with teenagers in an outdoor pool thing in the house behind us. I was recording video lessons, so had to stay up until 2am to get some peace to record them. The two older ladies who live next door to them were trying to do gentle Tai Chi in the garden to loads of swearing and hollering. The mum used worse language, it was constant.

In the end I stood in the garden and shouted "Can we have a deal or something please? You make a noise for an hour, then the rest of us get an hour's quiet?"

No one shouted back, not even to tell me to fuck off. I thought I was going to be ignored.

The next day, they started at 10am, then at 11 I heard them all whispering 'that's it now until 12...'

Then at 12 it started again... for an hour.

If that hadn't worked I'd have gone for the making a noise first thing option. Everyone else in my street was up for joining in.

We have friends over/go to friends for drinks in the garden often in the Summer but we don't have music blaring especially after a certain time and there is no screaming and shouting.

There are going to be a lot of garden parties today because of the football and weather.

[quote notthemum]@Sunbird.
WTF is Engerland ?

I hope it was a case of being tired ? But really I would prefer local kids to at least get the country they are living in correct.
We are living in England
And on the whole a lot of us speak English. [/quote]
You've never heard that England football song? Really??!!

My former neighbour was like this.

I often found I needed to drill the walls at 7am the following morning.

We know the police pointed out their crap parenting to them and also the children could of been run over or snatched. The so called parents didnt care .

[quote SappysCurry]@Bbq1
Are your neighbours still at it OP[/quote]
Hahaha, brilliant! Nah, all quiet. Funny that isn't it. I am tempted to just stand in my garden and scream. My supermarket delivery arrived just now and was clattering about under their window, I hope it woke them.