To think neighbours having parties in their gardens should have some consideration for neighbours?

[Bbq1]

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

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Why would I want to join in with a bunch of self centred idiots anyway ?

Get the hosepipe out

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Having problems quoting but agreeing with Syrianhamster

It is not that it bugs people or we are joy sponges. You need to live next door to people who play loud, soul shaking music so you cant watch tv, enjoy anything or even think. So loud that it can be heard throughout your house and across the street in those neighbours houses. For 10 hours a day every single day. Then you get respite until 2am and the other neighbours starts. I lived and worked through the first lockdown on 2 to 3 hours sleep a night.

We mostly live close together so we should be more considerate not less.

@SinkGirl

Any chance you live in Dorset? I was being regaled by loud football singing last night around this time and wanted to punch someone

No, in the North. It's a country wide problem it seems

@Bbq1 I've always said I put up with noise if I'm given prior warning, AND invited!!! If they know its going to be loud and inescapable it's only manners to invite the neighbours xx

Far too many people just seem totally selfish now.

I have neighbours who play music in their garden as soon as the weather is even vaguely warm. Ok they have crap taste but why do they play the same records over and over and over? At the moment it's Cotton Eye Joe which I detest, Sweet Caroline which is ok but not played over and over and Shotgun by George Ezra which I am not keen on and, again, certainly do not want to hear over and over.

Their house is not that close to mine and yet I can hear their music indoors with the doors and windows closed and my tv on.

They often have their grandchildren there and they screech and scream non stop for hours.

I don't expect children to play quietly all the time but surely after a few hours of constant screeching, screaming and shouting they should be telling them to quieten down a bit?

Yesterday they were screaming and shouting from 11am until gone 6pm. They do not seem able to just talk, they have to shout everything. This is children of about 7 to 12.

One boy was shouting "you're trying to kill me" and a girl was shouting back "no I'm not". They just repeated this over and over at the tops of their voices.

I had to go inside in the end. I suffer from really bad migraines and I could feel one starting with their racket.

Our next door neighbours also talk at the tops of their voices and their children screech and scream for hours on end (7 and 12). The mum constantly shouts the childrens' names plus the dogs' names. So it's "George, get down, George come here, Mandy stop that, Craig put your sun hat on, Luna stop barking, Mitzy go inside, George get a drink" on and on and on all bloody day.

I don't expect complete silence but it would be lovely to be able to sit in my garden and hear the birds and not music and shouting

I’ve said it before on threads like this but there should be a series of fines. Starting at say £50 and increasing with each subsequent violation. If someone knew their party was likely going to cost them in fines then they wouldn’t bother.

There are fines for things like littering so why we can’t apply the same principle to noise pollution I don’t know.

This happened to us last summer when lockdown was lifted slightly. It’s the music that really gets me but they were still shouting at 2/3 am. Happened several times including midweek as the perpetrator worked in hospitality which was closed at the time. Unfortunately we were still getting up at 6 for work. It was awful so you have my sympathy.

Our neighbours had a party going on a Thursday night about a month ago. It went on all night, the music. Horrific when you are up at 6am.

They also had friends visiting for a whole week a few weeks ago. They were up til 2am most of those nights, being really loud. DH had to chap their door and asked them to tone it down as it's a school night etc.

Do not leave it to others to report it. Report it yourself OP. You've explained that talking to them will not achieve results.

As for retaliatory noise, if you prefer that, if you have a car, just go out early and have to sound your horn to stop an invisible cat getting run over.

Summer seems to make people selfish idiots. My neighbourhood had fireworks at 11pm last night, which set off every dog in the vicinity and woke everyone up. Idiots, you have my sympathy.

@sonofabiscuit I'm glad the police pointed out how crap their parenting was. I wish they'd do the same to these. One of the officers that was contacted when a hoarde of them were in the road ingeniously asked "can't you just go have a word with their parents?". Tried that politely. Ended up ringing you lot.

I agree, get reporting. Do it as soon as it starts. Get the times and dates. Don't hesitate, and don't expect others in your street to act on your behalf. I have had to report my neighbours on several occasions, they are a bloody nuisance.

I have found putting up the bass of your stereo works wonders, so you need to go with heavy metal. Usually Five Finger Death Punch does the trick. I have had to play retaliation music in the past.

My neighbours were still going at 4am when I took the dog out for a wee, music still blaring, smoke smells, etc. They too turned their shed into a bar last year, and have had regular parties since. I had hoped the parties would stop when he went to prison, but no, she has the parties anyway.

I've been doing some retaliation Rammstein this morning. I do wonder if the OP and I live on either side of the same people. I am not a miserable bitch and have no objection to people enjoying their gardens but it is very damaging to your mental health to live in noise...there are laws to protect you from it at work!

@RestingPandaFace

Scotch down low behind the fence and let a few jets off with the hosepipe, then sneak back in and innocently resume watching TV

You get timers for that job, then you can stay watching the TV innocently!

Can I add to that - people in restaurants.

Last night DH and I had a rare outing to our favourite Italian restaurant. It's not cheap, but we ended up rushing a bit to get out of there because of the noise from two adjacent tables. I don't just mean people having fun - they were screaming, cackling, making stupid noises. One woman sounded EXACTLY like Siobhan Sharp from 2012 and W1A, and she was talking non-stop at the top of her voice. We left when a guy started doing the noise David Brent made when he did his dance. I know it's the very definition of a first world problem, but feel quite let down as we'd been looking forward to it for a long time.

Just checked, 2pm sounds like a good time to use my very noisy lawn mower out!

People have been imprisoned in their homes for over a year. Let them have a couple of parties.

Good for them!

Nobody is complaining about parties per se. It's just that it's entirely possible to have an awesome time without pissing off everyone else around you.

In these situations the angle grinder is your best friend.

@Whyhello

Pretty sure it’s illegal to make noise after 11pm so you could call the police.

The police don't deal with noise issues as a rule, if you dial 101 they tell you to report it to the council. However, when we called once to say the neighbours were reacting aggressively to being asked to turn the music down they did come out. Maybe that's the key – tell the police you're too scared to go round because they'll be abusive. 🤷‍♀️