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To think neighbours having parties in their gardens should have some consideration for neighbours?

241 replies

Bbq1 · 12/06/2021 22:09

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

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Quaggars · 12/06/2021 23:14

It wouldn't bother me as I like hearing people and music gathering outside after all the lockdown lol
BUT I'd only like it if it was wrapping up about 10 - 11pm, anything later and especially after midnight is taking the absolute piss!!
Need a little consideration for neighbours

Bbq1 · 12/06/2021 23:18

@BiscoffAnythingIsTheWayForward

New neighbours over the road in an expensive house (backs on to our ex council estate). I thought to myself when they moved in, “wait until those behind them start with the early hours parties!” (Yes I know I shouldn’t be judgey 😬) Last weekend it was the new neighbours that were partying every evening fri-sun, in their garden and until 2am. My youngest is autistic and it didn’t go down well. I think it was mainly their daughter who appears to be in her early 20’s. I was so relieved when I saw her wheeling a small suitcase to her mother’s car yesterday, and away for the weekend 😬🙈😆

I feel the same, just don’t understand how people can be so ignorant!

We had other neighbours today blasting music out so loud, I’m not against people enjoying this lovely weather, but why does the music have to be heard in the next town over?! 🤦🏻‍♀️

See that's what I find so upsetting and infuriating. Young children, children with additional needs like your ds, the elderly, all suffering due to the ignorance of others. The worst thing is that the neighbours just don't care who suffers. We have an elderly neighbour not long out of hospital, very unwell and he has been subjected to this hideous noise all day long. It would be marginally more understandable if they were young but they are well retired. What's wrong with people? I think they are quietening down very, very slightly.
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RestingPandaFace · 12/06/2021 23:21

Scotch down low behind the fence and let a few jets off with the hosepipe, then sneak back in and innocently resume watching TV Wink

Fluffmonkey82 · 12/06/2021 23:21

There appears to be a gathering near me but thankfully it's at the back of the house so can't hear it from where I am but don't know how the people next to it are putting up with it..people just don't care unfortunately, I have decided my next house move is to the moon...

Ideasplease322 · 12/06/2021 23:21

My neighbour currently has about ten blokes in the back garden, guitar out all doing that drunk shouty singing. Awful. Bloody selfish

KatherineOfGaunt · 12/06/2021 23:24

House near us currently having some kind of gathering. They have a screen on that's attached to the shed and everything. I can't see what it's playing though.

Fortunately it's not often they do this, so even though it's after 11pm I'm trying to be forgiving.

KeyboardWorriers · 12/06/2021 23:24

Yanbu. It's so fucking selfish. Fine up to a reasonable time in the evening but then people should have some courtesy.

When we had neighbours like this when DS was young we used to go and play very noisy games in the garden early the following morning. Some enthusiastic DIY /gardening with power tools might also to the trick Grin

Bbq1 · 12/06/2021 23:25

@RestingPandaFace

Scotch down low behind the fence and let a few jets off with the hosepipe, then sneak back in and innocently resume watching TV Wink
🤣Love it, wish I was brave enough to do that!
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Sunbird24 · 12/06/2021 23:27

Yeah, my neighbours have built themselves an outdoor bar with a big tv in it, so between that, the hot tub, the loud music and all the flashy multicolour lights that they leave on overnight it’s like living next to an 18-30 resort. The neighbours the other side are more hacked off with it than I am, as I work away during the week and stay there sometimes to visit my parents as they live nearer there than here, which means I’m not subjected to it every weekend. With the Euros on at the moment they’ve festooned everything with England flags as well.

HareofEasttown · 12/06/2021 23:30

I hear you! Our neighbours have been playing loud music and having lots of friends round since midday.

Fifipop185 · 12/06/2021 23:31

My neighbours up the hill aren't partying, they're having a bonfire. It stinks! We've had to close all our windows when it's really warm and muggy. So selfish!!

TeaAndBrie · 12/06/2021 23:31

I’m currently enduring this right now! Park life is currently playing but we have had all of the party classics. It’s been since this afternoon. It keeps getting louder not quieter! There’s obviously someone there a little conscientious as it keeps getting turned down but soon goes up again.

Fluffmonkey82 · 12/06/2021 23:32

@Sunbird24

Yeah, my neighbours have built themselves an outdoor bar with a big tv in it, so between that, the hot tub, the loud music and all the flashy multicolour lights that they leave on overnight it’s like living next to an 18-30 resort. The neighbours the other side are more hacked off with it than I am, as I work away during the week and stay there sometimes to visit my parents as they live nearer there than here, which means I’m not subjected to it every weekend. With the Euros on at the moment they’ve festooned everything with England flags as well.
That sounds like hell...
Sunbird24 · 12/06/2021 23:40

@Fluffmonkey82 it’s not great. And we’re on the very edge of a rural village, so lovely field views from the back garden. I’d love to be able to sit out and enjoy the peace & quiet and birds singing but I can’t, because it’s usually either their kids screeching and crying, loud music, or both.
If I want to sell my house I’ll be doing viewings on weekdays only, or selling it in winter…

Ideasplease322 · 12/06/2021 23:41

I am hoping it quietens down at midnight

TeaAndBrie · 12/06/2021 23:43

We’ve just had bohemian rhapsody and now on Angels…🤦‍♀️

Houseofvelour · 12/06/2021 23:50

I am currently lying in bed listening to a house down the road having a party. The guests are literally screaming, shouting and singing at the top of their lungs and have been for nearly 2 hours.
I have 2 toddlers who struggle to sleep as it is so I'm livid.

I called 101 but they said that noise complaint is a council issue and they can't do anything.

Sunbird24 · 13/06/2021 00:00

@Houseofvelour I did once have the police out for a v loud party going on near me, but they only came because there were drunk people smashing bottles and screaming & swearing at each other in the street. If they’d stayed in the host’s garden they wouldn’t have done anything.
My neighbours have had a quick shag and are now just talking loudly. I may have some noisy stuff to do in the morning.

TeaAndBrie · 13/06/2021 00:00

I can’t believe that they can’t do anything, what are you supposed to do?! I’m fuming for you!

Percypigg · 13/06/2021 00:03

I'm about to bellow out of the window at my effing neighbours. It's too much now. Music, screaming etc

romany4 · 13/06/2021 00:05

My neighbour is the same.
Loud music, all her mates with kids round. The kids are screaming and jumping in the inflatable pool while the parents all sit around getting pissed and ignoring the bedlam.
When the screeching gets too loud, the music just gets turned up.
It's starting at lunchtime and finally finishing around 10pm. I didn't mind one Saturday but it's been 3 in a row now.
She's a fucking selfish cow though. Doesn't give a shit about her neighbours as long as she's all right

Womencanlift · 13/06/2021 00:06

I usually hate the tit for tat behaviour between neighbours. But since this sounds like a regular thing, I would be getting a chat going with all the other parents nearby and agree a joint attack - paddling pool and shrieking children from 8am tomorrow. Throw in some lawnmower and power tools too for good measure

Arrowheart · 13/06/2021 07:11

You have got to fight fire with fire. Get a bit of classical music on this morning and blast it out, or songs from the musicals. They will be trying to sleep. Fuck em. They need to see what selfish feels like.

Shoxfordian · 13/06/2021 07:16

Why don’t you report it yourself if it’s bothering you instead of hoping someone else does?

notanothertakeaway · 13/06/2021 07:37

@Sunbird24

Yeah, my neighbours have built themselves an outdoor bar with a big tv in it, so between that, the hot tub, the loud music and all the flashy multicolour lights that they leave on overnight it’s like living next to an 18-30 resort. The neighbours the other side are more hacked off with it than I am, as I work away during the week and stay there sometimes to visit my parents as they live nearer there than here, which means I’m not subjected to it every weekend. With the Euros on at the moment they’ve festooned everything with England flags as well.
That sounds awful