To think neighbours having parties in their gardens should have some consideration for neighbours?

[Bbq1]

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

@copperpotsalot

People have been imprisoned in their homes for over a year. Let them have a couple of parties.

Good for them!

And some of us still are, because those people can’t turn the volume on their music down to a non-nightclub level.

Surely the point is that they're not 20 year old students but fully formed adults who should have learned some consideration by now.

nah, the point is if it's noisy you have to complain. Go through the steps. I only mentioned that because so often it's "can my DC play out noisily at 7.30am" and everyone says "oh sure, it's lovely to hear children play" but it isn't, for everyone.

Not sure if has been mentioned already but keep a log and contact the local Environmental Health Officer. They have the powers to take action and are legally bound to do so if offences have been committed.

I would also speak to neighbours to find out out if they agree with you.

Good luck OP there is nothing worse than excess noise from idiotic and inconsiderate so called neighbours.

My neighbours are very loud and always having people ove, r they all sit in garden for hours drinking almost every weekend and in the week as well. where as l am the opposite He moans like hell if any of the other neighbours do the same. l am just so glad l start work really early and finish early before they get back so can enjoy some quiet time.

Interesting thread. My DD is planning her 21st in my garden/house on a Friday in July. Less than 30 people. We are newly moved in so I don't want to piss of my neighbours, two of whom have kids under 10, which is why she is not having it on her actual birthday as that will be a school night. I will give them advance notice.

I was planning on telling her to come inside at 12 midnight. What do people think - should it be 11pm? They do get a bit loud when they've been drinking but not obnoxious playing music loud or singing football chants!

@Bouledeneige. I would be absolutely fine with a noisy party next door (even if it kept my DC awake) if I was given advance notice and in particular told when it would finish. It's the not knowing and the noise going on and on which makes it really awful. And notice to the neighbours means it's unlikely to be a regular occurrence.

@Bouleneige - I think as long as you let your neighbours know that is absolutely fine. It is nice that you have taken into account that your neighbours have school aged children and so you have moved the party to the weekend. I would say maybe ask them to come inside about 11.30 pm.

I don't think anyone minds occasional late night, slightly noisy gatherings, celebrating birthdays etc it is when it goes on night after night. IMO that is very inconsiderate to other neighbours and their right to enjoy their homes and gardens and also get a decent nights sleep.

Morning after one of their parties, ring their doorbell at 6am and tell them how much you enjoyed their choice of music 😁

@Bouledeneige I would be absolutely fine with a party next door if I was given advance notice, also adding a quick "if it gets too loud just knock on and we'll turn it down / ask them to keep it quiet" Most people complaining on here will have similar entitled neighbours to mine who think that they are above extending the basic level of courtesy to their neighbours. I hope your daughter has a lovely 21st birthday

I was planning on telling her to come inside at 12 midnight. What do people think - should it be 11pm? They do get a bit loud when they've been drinking but not obnoxious playing music loud or singing football chants!

That would be really considerate, another thing people don't realise is just how disruptive it is when they start leaving. They shout in the street, taxis slam their doors, drunken goodbyes and screams are very loud in the small hours.

A couple of PPs have mentioned the regulations about building work. Even more relevantly, the law says you can't use a vacuum cleaner or washing machine late at night/into the early hours. If they can have rules for inside, why can't they do it for outside? Maybe if we all wrote to our MPs, whether it's a direct problem for us or not, we could get it on the statute books? In the meantime you need to be insistent with your council.

My dad used to pay the neighbours back with extremely loud noise early in the morning after a party. He'd carry it on long enough to wake them, stop long enough for them to get back to sleep and then start again. They didn't like hammering and music every half hour from 4am funnily enough. He once used the metal bin lid (1970s) and a hammer when they'd really pissed him off.

Imprisoned? Don't be ridiculous.

@Bbq1

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

Oh. I feel you. I live on a private gated road. Which has 8 houses and a dead end. Once a month or so I’d sit outside with my children so we could play if it was sunny. Our gardens back onto water. So it can be very very cold.

The street received a letter to say children aren’t allowed to play outside. Not at all.

All this has done is obliterate the community street. Wr had street parties. BBQs. This one letter with 3 sentences has just ruined our street

It’s so sad when these things happen. I have wonderful memories of playing outside. Won’t be able to do that anymore.

I get upset with children screaming incessantly all fucking day long. Not a lot I can do about it.
If I hear a party late at night I expect it to go on to the wee hours. And as long as it’s not everyday then I am fine.
The children are every single fucking day

@ChardonnaysPetDragon

I was planning on telling her to come inside at 12 midnight. What do people think - should it be 11pm? They do get a bit loud when they've been drinking but not obnoxious playing music loud or singing football chants!

That would be really considerate, another thing people don't realise is just how disruptive it is when they start leaving. They shout in the street, taxis slam their doors, drunken goodbyes and screams are very loud in the small hours.

It is really loud when people leave/come home in the wee hours.

A few weeks ago our neighbour had obviously been on a night out with some friends and came home in a taxi at 1am pissed up and silly. Now in ten years of living here we've never had a problem with them and they are lovely (the other ones are a different matter!) so rather than be annoyed I had a good old giggle at her DH coming out to round her up and get her in the house 'Get in Doris and be quiet for Christ's bloody sake it is 1am!!'

But it would annoy me if it was every weekend or went on for an extended period of time!

Why not just rock up with a bottle and join them?

Because most of us have work in the morning...

If its regularly disturbing you, no matter what time of day, and spoiling your enjoyment of your home, it's a statutory noise nuisance. Every council in the UK has a statutory duty to investigate a report. I'd contact your council, with dates, times etc. The minimum they will usually do is send a letter, which will tell your nervous they have had a complaint, they won't say from who usually. This is often enough to scare people into behaving.

Neighbours not nervous!

Newish neighbours near me have decided to turn their garage into their fitness center, complete with loud peleton style training at volume. Of course it's hot so they have the garage door wide open and peloton lady at a really loud volume. So now all houses around us are treated to 30 minute of version of that super annoying peloton ad. "A one a two a three speed it up now, special shout out to Linda in Leicester! You got this!". Why just why at such a loud volume. Is this performance exercising? Is it hell?

@RuleWithAWoodenFoot

We had this last year with teenagers in an outdoor pool thing in the house behind us. I was recording video lessons, so had to stay up until 2am to get some peace to record them. The two older ladies who live next door to them were trying to do gentle Tai Chi in the garden to loads of swearing and hollering. The mum used worse language, it was constant.

In the end I stood in the garden and shouted "Can we have a deal or something please? You make a noise for an hour, then the rest of us get an hour's quiet?"

No one shouted back, not even to tell me to fuck off. I thought I was going to be ignored.

The next day, they started at 10am, then at 11 I heard them all whispering 'that's it now until 12...'

Then at 12 it started again... for an hour.

If that hadn't worked I'd have gone for the making a noise first thing option. Everyone else in my street was up for joining in.

I find this pretty endearing and a brilliant solution. The hardest part of neighbour noise is not knowing when it will end. What a lovely balance.

Could you arrange to play very loud brass band music - or Welsh voice quoir singing hymns early the following morning. Or perhaps kids having their recorder practice?

Not read all the thread but people who make loads of noise after about 11/12 at night are nasty selfish twunts. Have fun and have parties but not into the early hours. They can move indoors, turn the music off and stop screeching and shouting if they are desperate to carry on.

@Bbq1

They are selfish if not quiet by midnight and if they do it often. Also only Friday and Saturday night.

But it has to go both ways too. There are some people on MN who defend their DCs rights to jump up and down on trampolines shrieking all day, or kicking balls up against neighbouring fences or playing out (loudly) at 7 on a Sunday morning. It’s a two way street. Unfortunately the only way to live in an environment to suit ourselves is to live in a detached house with the nearest neighbour being at least a mile away. Outside the financial reach of most of us. It is inconsiderate OP, but really good neighbours are like gold dust.