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To think neighbours having parties in their gardens should have some consideration for neighbours?

241 replies

Bbq1 · 12/06/2021 22:09

Couple next door but one are in their sixties and in the last few weeks have had "gatherings" in their garden that have gone on until at least 2am. The houses are semi detatched so gardens have shared fences and the houses also back onto other gardens. Before anyone leaps on me, I am all for people having fun but not at the expense of everyone around them. They back onto a house with young children and are direct neighbours to a family with a young child. Today, they started a really noisy party in their gardens at 2pm that appears to have about 30plus people present so despite the babble of noise, singing, shouting etc I thought "Fair enough, it's afternoon, no problem"... It's STILL going on 10 hours later. They are singing and laughing at the absolute tops of their voices, chanting football songs etc. I have had to shut my windows on a warm night and turn the TV up really loud to drown them out. My ds has shut his windows but they can still be heard up there despite that. Ds heard a young child crying no doubt disturbed by the noise. The absolute selfishness of it just gets to me so much. I just want them to give a little bit of thought especially to elderly neighbours /those with children /neighbours in general and maybe have the kindness and intelligence to quieten down now. Aibu?

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spanielstail · 13/06/2021 07:51

I genuinely can't believe anyone can possibly think that this behaviour is ok. It's appalling to be so rude and inconsiderate.

When did people stop having A) manners and thought for any other human and B) any sort of class - what it it with the screaming.

skodadoda · 13/06/2021 08:09

@spanielstail

I genuinely can't believe anyone can possibly think that this behaviour is ok. It's appalling to be so rude and inconsiderate.

When did people stop having A) manners and thought for any other human and B) any sort of class - what it it with the screaming.

This!
ICanSmellSummerComing · 13/06/2021 08:13

I am incredibly sensitive to garden noise esp music, eg someone starts blasting out shite music and one doesn't know when it will end!

So actually parties, one offs I don't mind, I quite like the hum of happy chatter!
However once it becomes regular and repetitive, then it becomes a nuisance, if they are nice enough why not ask for them to at least turn music off by 11?

ICanSmellSummerComing · 13/06/2021 08:14

Sun bird!!

So selfish!!

Have either of you complained to them, joining forces with the other neighbours is very useful.

ICanSmellSummerComing · 13/06/2021 08:19

Re tit for tat, unfortunately these people simply do not understand the impact on others until it does happen to them.

Tea and bri.. I wish my neighbours blasted out something I know, at least there is a chance you may like one of the songs.
We get weird unrecognisable wailing. Angry

It's only one person I'm sure so why can't they wear bloody head phones.

something2say · 13/06/2021 08:20

I live on a street where people regularly talk really loudly in the street, and their dog barks INCESSANTLY at teatime, and their toddler screams at the top of his lungs. They genuinely don't seem to care. The grandmother tries to shush him when she visits, but the parents don't appear to. I cannot wait to no longer live here.

Summersnake · 13/06/2021 08:22

I’m sick of it too.
We have 3 houses behind and one either side ,all making noise ,music shouting ,parties all evening and untill the middle of the night ,it’s constant,
As is the sawing ,banging ,god knows what noises of them improving their gardens ,chopping down trees ect
Party noise at night ,garden noise in the day
No point me having a garden as I can never sit and enjoy it

tttigress · 13/06/2021 08:23

This sort of antisocial behaviour is one of the biggest issues for many communities.

It is surprising councils don't take it more seriously.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 13/06/2021 08:26

Meh, it's been a shit year. I wouldn't care. DS and I can sleep through an earthquake though!

Littlelegs2 · 13/06/2021 08:37

It would not bother me. I like to hear people enjoying themselves. Ok it would be a bit much if it was every weekend. But not enough to complain. I don't think they are selfish. It's not every day and the people who want to relax quietly have the other 5 + days to do that .

Muchasgracias · 13/06/2021 08:42

YANBU and I hope for your sake they are not football fans. If they are the partying might intensify in coming weeks

Sunbird24 · 13/06/2021 08:42

I couldn’t get in any retaliation as they’ve already started up with the music again. He’s also loudly teaching the kids Engerland chants.

Sunbird24 · 13/06/2021 08:46

@Littlelegs2 it is every bloody weekend through the summer for a lot of people, and some of us work away during the week so that’s the only time we can have in our gardens!

PegasusReturns · 13/06/2021 08:46

It’s not ideal but I couldn’t get too stressed about the occasional party - presumably things have been pretty quiet since beginning of 2019.

Hotcuppatea · 13/06/2021 08:49

Whenever we have people in our garden (BBQ or party) it's music off and everyone shhh at 11pm. Any later is anti-social.

Toty · 13/06/2021 08:51

This is why I love winter.
Summer makes me hate people Grin

SleepyPartyTime · 13/06/2021 08:54

YANBU. A one off for a special event then fair enough but constantly is really ridiculous and unfair on neighbours.

anon12345678901 · 13/06/2021 08:58

@spanielstail

I genuinely can't believe anyone can possibly think that this behaviour is ok. It's appalling to be so rude and inconsiderate.

When did people stop having A) manners and thought for any other human and B) any sort of class - what it it with the screaming.

Because people can be really selfish. Literally no consideration for others around them.
sixthtimelucky · 13/06/2021 09:00

I think a noisy, late garden party in the warm weather is fair enough every now and again, however annoying for neighbours. Generally people don't mean to be loud on the whole, the third glass of wine tends to up the volume by 11!! However, if it's more than once or twice a month, I'd be in despair.

Roselilly36 · 13/06/2021 09:06

@Sunbird24 OMG, lucky with our neighbours, they just have a noisy but very lovely dog, counting our blessings!

Brefugee · 13/06/2021 09:30

Ah. They're over 60, the monsters. And yet early morning child noise in gardens is just your lovely kids enjoying themselves.

Go round, ask them to keep it down after 11pm.

user1471538283 · 13/06/2021 09:31

EVERYONE had had a shit year! Because they've had a shit year does not mean they can party and upset everyone. Everyone else's quiet doesn't affect them so why should it be ok that their noise does.

What I learnt from my ex neighbours is that they know they are noisy and upsetting and they dont care. They also accused me of being rude when I finally snapped. They also hate other peoples noise! They would huff and complain if their neighbour mowed his grass at midday! So ... I'm sure you have suitably annoying music to play on a loop right now!

Jellybabiesforbreakfast · 13/06/2021 09:42

I'm assuming you've asked them to keep it down?

Agree with the peppa pig/classical music on loudspeaker from 7am.

Kids can be annoying. I only have one so at least no squabbling or shrieking at each other. But I hear next doors' two girls narking and screaming and sometimes it does make me wince. But they seldom play out for long, are always in bed by 8pm and their mum is always telling them to keep it down, so I don't mind them too much. Noise after 11pm in residential areas is just unacceptable.

Whyhello · 13/06/2021 09:48

Pretty sure it’s illegal to make noise after 11pm so you could call the police.

DinkyDaisy · 13/06/2021 10:02

Went on a caravan holiday recently. Ignorant arses next door had parties with friends and extended family from other caravans every night.
They really couldn't give a toss about anyone else.
To be honest, hard to complain as were quite intimidating.
I did eventually report to the park ranger but rather too late really.
How can people be so selfish?

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