DS 21 sharing a room with us on holiday

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Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

Very strange but each to their own

I see nothing wrong with that at all. Its not ideal but who wants to spend the extra money. I think if it made him uncomfortable he would either day something to you or not go.

I don't see a problem.
If ds doesn't like it, he can book and pay for his own room.
It's perfectly appropriate, unless you plan on shagging while he's asleep.

Those people horrified at sharing a room with their adult child, would you also refuse to share a room with an adult friend or sibling?

@TatianaBis

Hmm I wager a tight controlling DH whose preoccupation with saving money over-rides his wife and DS's comfort.

This is what I assumed as well

@DietrichandDiMaggio if I was travelling without DH then I might share a room with an adult friend but would prefer not. If traveling with DH there is absolutely no chance of us sharing with an adult sibling or friend.

@DietrichandDiMaggio

Those people horrified at sharing a room with their adult child, would you also refuse to share a room with an adult friend or sibling?

It's not sharing a room with another adult that's a problem, it's sharing a room with your husband and another adult that doesn't appeal.

@fallfallfall ski chalets that are booked by families still have separate rooms. You’re not all sleeping in bunks in a dormitory

I think it's perfectly fine to share a bedroom if everyone happy with it. Not a big deal really.
Bound to get people on here say it's inappropriate but just do what works for you.

It's not inappropriate if everyone is happy with the arrangement. Though personally at 21 I would have rather had my own space.

@Movinghouseatlast

God, no. I shared a room with my mum until I was 18. It was horrendous, I hated it.

Can't you afford another room at all? Or is your husband just being a skinflint.

Or you know, maybe the ADULT son could pay for his own damn room. Why is it the older male's responsibility to pay for everything. Why are you assuming he is being tight?

I’ve took my adult son on holiday a few times and we shared a room with 2 Double beds
Could probably do it for maybe 1 night with DH and my son but not for any longer so maybe as a night at an airport hotel but

It wouldn't have bothered me at 21 if I wasn't contributing towards the accommodation. If I wanted my own space, I'd pay for it at that age.

Hmmm our ds is 19 and we had a wedding to go to (we’re in the states) and we shared - a double bed for him and a double door us. If the whole darn wedding trip weren’t so expensive we probably would have gotten ds his own room but it would have added another $500 to our trip already costing 3K (airfare, food, lodging, present, etc.) we couldn’t afford the extra $500.

• bed not door!

I'd get a 1 bed if possible ie sofa in lounge, though you are still sharing a bathroom but that probably happens at home anyway.

We get suites now for a bit more space and not having to watch tv on the bed.

I have shared with my dad on a few weekend breaks but not both of them since our camping as kids years. I don't think I'd find it weird, I'd definitely not assume they'd want sex (they are 70) Judy we'd probably sleep better with separate rooms. But if we had to (only spare room at a wedding) we'd cope.

@fallfallfall ski chalets aren’t just one big room you know! It’s like booking a house or a villa - but on the slopes!

@PegasusReturns my trio certainly were mature enough to share a room as were dh and I. We camped in the same tent regularly. And even recently shared hotel accommodations for cost reasons.

Though I'd not ever do if if my partner was there too. Or share with his parents (maybe his mum only) . Share with sibling but not sibling and their wife. Siblings wife on own maybe.

@GreyhoundG1rl

Mustn’t have fun parents then Eh? How fun would your parents have to be to make you want to be in their company 24/7, to bedtime and beyond?!

I’m going away with my daughter in July and we will have fun. I’m going away with my son and daughter, her husband, my husband and my dad next week. We will all have fun, although we won’t be sharing a room. Before the pandemic I went to NY with my son and my daughter and we shared a suite. We had a lot of fun. I’m sorry your parents aren’t fun, must be tough.

@BIoodyStupidJohnson

At 21 I’d rather have performed an unanaesthetised appendectomy on myself with a coat hanger than go on holiday with my parents but each to their own.

Absolutely brilliantly put, and I'm with you all the way on that!

Round here yurt holidays are all the rage, they have them with 5 double beds in all facing each other in a circle for 10 people/5 couples. Lots of families and groups of friends share all in together. When we last hired one there was a family with 2 grandparents, 2 grown up kids and spouses and their small children.

Eh? How fun would your parents have to be to make you want to be in their company 24/7, to bedtime and beyond?!

Why do you have to be in their company constantly? You can separate off in the day for different things and then one could stay out a bit later than the other, or even go out separately in the evening - I assume you each have a key to the room?

Ds (about 23) and I had a three day break to Berlin. Twin beds. On arrival it was one super king. No other options. He took it in good part! Some of you people need to get over yourselves- whole families sleep in one room in some parts of the world! Not saying that sounds like much of a holiday tho.

Your 21 year old actually wants to go on holiday with you?
Now that's weird