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DS 21 sharing a room with us on holiday

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locko55 · 10/06/2021 17:42

Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

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intheenddoesitreallymatter · 10/06/2021 21:08

@NerrSnerr

There's other places to have sex than the bedroom

He's 21! He's going to know that they're shagging in the bathroom!

Personally this wouldn't have been for me but I have always liked my own space.

I'm howling at this. I can just imagine the poor lad on his phone in the corner as Mum and Dad disappear into the bathroom for ten minutes in heaven!

It's absolutely fine OP, if he's OK and you're OK what does it matter what other people think?

Could you upgrade to a suite if you feel uncomfortable?

CarnationCat · 10/06/2021 21:09

It's not weird at all. I used to do this with my mum and dad. Even when I was 24 I think. They would have the double and I would have the single.

You're just sleeping there. I hope Grin . Unless you're having sex in the room or wanting to have sex, I don't see this as an issue at all.

Topseyt · 10/06/2021 21:14

I am rather surprised that a 21 year old young man wanting to share a room with his parents, but horses for courses I suppose.

I was about 21 when I last went on holiday with my parents. I was taking my younger sister's place as she had asked to drop out.

I had my own room in the hotel. I just couldn't have shared with them, and they wanted their own space too. We still had a lovely time.

My 3 DDs are aged 26, 22 and 19. I can't remember the last time we shared a hotel room with any of them. Mind you, if we are all going away together (rare now) then we need at least two rooms anyway or we are all on top of each other.

Userg1234 · 10/06/2021 21:14

Wow he's not pulling this holiday then!

intheenddoesitreallymatter · 10/06/2021 21:15

I'm stunned at some of these responses.

If my Mum has ever offered a holiday I've jumped at the chance. She's brilliant and we have a great time - I would have given the same answer in my early twenties.

I think it's lovely he still wants to go, it's a testament to your relationship OP.

DeflatedGinDrinker · 10/06/2021 21:19

Yea it's weird.

MasterBeth · 10/06/2021 21:19

@Runmybathforme

No way, no sex on holiday ? Unthinkable. Why isn’t he paying for his own room ?
Because he’s 21? We still pay for our 23,21 and 18 yo to come with us, if they want to come. They have far less money than us!
Pieceofpurplesky · 10/06/2021 21:23

I still go on holiday with my parents and have shared a room. I'm 52! DS was in there too and he was 13 at the time.

I don't see an issue at all.

Bitofachinwag · 10/06/2021 21:25

It's fine. What's weird about it? Is it because you're related? Would you not share with friends either?

ConstanceGracy · 10/06/2021 21:27

Don’t see the issue, ds shares with us if we go away together . Doesn’t bother him so why should it bother us ?

PaleGreenAndBrightOrange · 10/06/2021 21:27

YANBU.

Holidays are expensive.

lalafafa · 10/06/2021 21:28

Weird he still wants to go on holiday with you at his age, on his own.

Cactuslove · 10/06/2021 21:28

Why do so many find this strange. Me and my brother have camped with parents in caravan at this age... I still go now with my two kids.

KeepingTrack · 10/06/2021 21:31

@lalafafa

Weird he still wants to go on holiday with you at his age, on his own.
Why? I love going away on hols with my parents. It’s a special time we have together sharing something.

Why is it weird to enjoy it? It doesn’t mean that I dint go away on my own too (just like when I was in my 20s)

Bitofachinwag · 10/06/2021 21:31

@Userg1234

Wow he's not pulling this holiday then!
So do you think it's ok to have sex with and sleep next to a total stranger then? But not share a bedroom with your own parents ( sleeping only!)
KeepingTrack · 10/06/2021 21:34

Also is it the only reason why you go away on hols? A ONS?

denverRegina · 10/06/2021 21:36

It's not weird ffs.

ramblingmum · 10/06/2021 21:47

I just had to share this www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p0578xs7/live-from-the-bbc-series-2-5-ivo-graham
He describes what can go wrong when sharing a room with your parents as an adult

Coldwine75 · 10/06/2021 21:51

Thats v weird, im amazed he is ok with it..........

DietrichandDiMaggio · 10/06/2021 22:31

[quote PegasusReturns]@DietrichandDiMaggio if I was travelling without DH then I might share a room with an adult friend but would prefer not. If traveling with DH there is absolutely no chance of us sharing with an adult sibling or friend.[/quote]
I wasn't really thinking about you, your husband and a friend sharing, which I agree would be odd (though I think that is quite different to someone that you are both parents of); it's more whether people are unwilling to share with any other adult apart from their husband/partner.

Also just wondering if people would share a room just with their adult child, but not when both parents are there for some reason.

Coldwine75 · 10/06/2021 22:33

Im amazed the 21 year old doesnt want their own room and space, that is weirder !

turtlesanddragons · 10/06/2021 22:35

Don't think it's a big deal at all tbh. it's only a place to sleep on a night

Coldwine75 · 10/06/2021 22:36

No its not, is a whole week and not just sleeping in a room, but relaxing with a drink, being intimate etc

WettyHainthrop · 10/06/2021 22:40

😂😂😂 he puts up with a lot for a free holiday, doesn’t he? This is an…unusual arrangement.

I bet he doesn’t pay rent either, does he OP?

Is he your only child?

3CCC · 10/06/2021 22:41

When I was 21 I went in holiday with my parents. And shared a room with them. And did when we went to a family wedding when I was 25

The price difference a single and a triple room was massive

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