DS 21 sharing a room with us on holiday

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Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

I wouldn’t be taking my 21 year old kid on holiday with me if I couldn’t afford to pay for them to have their own room.

I don’t think there is anything “inappropriate” about it. But it does seem a bit mean spirited. Unless you absolutely cannot afford for him to have a separate room I’d have thought that would have made for a better experience all round.

The only time my wonderful parents have seen me anything other than fully dressed was when i was in hospital giving birth and I needed some help...how does this work? I just cannot imagine it! What if ds wanted to bring someone back to the room or well anything really? If it works for you all well thats fine but it wouldnt work for me. I love my own children and I have a 30 something and a nearly teen but I value my privacy too much to share with anyone other than dh and its not about sex its just about feeling relaxed and comfortable for me and with your set up I couldnt relax lounging in my pyjamas with my coffee in bed or reading my book into the night.

No way, no sex on holiday ? Unthinkable. Why isn’t he paying for his own room ?

It wouldn't of bothered me for a night or 2 at 21, however, I left home at18, my sisters at 17, so the idea of a holiday with parents wouldn't of entered my head. I don't think it's wrong if son is happy. Personally, I was on a girls holiday in Ibiza at 19.

@MrsKoala

When I was 21 I went to New York with my Dad for my birthday present and we shared a twin room. It was just a base and was only for 3 nights.

Years later I took my Dad to Brussels for 2 nights for a birthday treat. We booked a twin but when we arrived it was a double and they had nothing else. We just shrugged and got on with it. We both wore pjs and were sleeping off all the sight seeing - I don't recall our bodies ever touching once.

It's fine if everyones fine with it.

For my sister’s graduation, my parents got a family room for us. I was 18 and stayed on the pull out bed in their room. Not an issue and I got a free breakfast because the hotel staff believed I was 14.

DSis and I shared a bed the night after my hen do. We were 24 and 27 and, like you and your Dad @MrsKoala, none of our body parts even slightly touched the other’s.

I had my own room in a hotel age 12. However, I also went campervanning, all one room, to about age 15.

If it works for all of you, then nothing wrong with it. If DS was uncomfortable, surely he would make an excuse or arrange something else rather than go. I'd have bunked in with my parents when there were budget constraints as would my DC with me. Not everyone can afford the expense of extra rooms.

Annnnd they say romance is dead

What is wrong with this? I went on holiday with my parents well into my 20s. I shared with my mother as they did not sleep together - it was not embarrassing or weird at all. Yes, I would have preferred my own bed, but they were good enough to pay for my holiday so I got on with it.

not an issue.. i last went on holiday abroad with my parents when i was 20 and it was a room with a double bed and a single.. so we shared, nothing weird about it.

The people who think its inappropriate need their heads checking.

I feel there is more to this story

Just to shock you all... I've shared a bed with my 21 year old son...funnily enough after coming out my vagina he and I have no desire to go back in.

Choice was bunk up together or miss an amazing opportunity.

I really don't see the problem.

It's not that weird for an odd night but I would expect to have sex at least a couple of times on a week long holiday. At 21 I definitely would not have wanted to share with parents. I wouldnt really have wanted to go on holiday with them at all. If sharing a triple was suggested I'd have booked and paid for my own room to avoid it.

Not that weird.

This is totally fine, not weird at all. If those saying it is, you are the weird ones what the hell is going thru your minds !!!!

I was in my own hotel room by 14/15, I’d feel super awkward in with my parents late teens twenties

@Golden2021

If you can't afford separate, then you can't. But if you can and this is just habit, then I think you need to change and allow for the fact he's grown up. What if he wants to bring someone back?

Well, presumably he has to restrain himself from shaking a stranger for a week (or go back to theirs )

I couldnt relax lounging in my pyjamas with my coffee in bed or reading my book into the night

Haha, behave!!!

@NoIDontWatchLoveIsland

It's not that weird for an odd night but I would expect to have sex at least a couple of times on a week long holiday. At 21 I definitely would not have wanted to share with parents. I wouldnt really have wanted to go on holiday with them at all. If sharing a triple was suggested I'd have booked and paid for my own room to avoid it.

I think that is terribly sad. Sex is not everything. Parents are wonderful, especially if they take you on holiday for nothing!

Hmm I wager a tight controlling DH whose preoccupation with saving money over-rides his wife and DS's comfort.

11 year old me would be against this, let alone 21 year old me

I don't get anyone saying this is weird?
They are a family.
I shared many times with my parents right up to the age of about 30.
To me it was a free holiday.

Can I ask those who are against it why?
Apart from wanting to have sex.
Just genuinely interested as to why it’s so bad?