DS 21 sharing a room with us on holiday

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Me, DH and DS 21 are going on holiday for a week next month, we have always shared a triple room on holiday, the room has 3 single beds in it. I just wondered recently whether this is not appropriate given that DS is an adult now. DH likes to book a triple room as it is cheaper. DS has never said anything against being in a triple room with us but maybe he doesn't want to complicate matters and just puts up with it.

Not a big deal IMO. If everyone is happy with it why waste money with an extra room?

That’s very odd and very mean

Just weird !

I shared rooms with my DD and her then boyfriend when I backpacked with them for a while. We also shared rooms with complete strangers! Everyone did it.

My parents did it with me at 21. A double room - I hated every single bloody minute.

I think it's fine. I'd prefer my own room but so long as no sex is taking place, I can't see the problem.

Very odd and uncomfortable for all of you 🥴

@BIoodyStupidJohnson

At 21 I’d rather have performed an unanaesthetised appendectomy on myself with a coat hanger than go on holiday with my parents but each to their own.

Just brilliant!! 🤣

I’ve shared rooms with my son aged 17, twin beds, because we wouldn’t have been able to afford separate rooms in the hotel we stayed in.

However a couple and a son? No I wouldn’t. I think it might be awkward 3s a crowd for the rest of the holiday too! And if it’s a couple then I’d think the son would need some time just to himself - an escape hatch.

It's really not weird - I imagine everyone saying that has young kids and think 21 sounds ancient/completely grown up. My kids are 19 and 20, we love their company, and we would do this for a night or two to save costs, you don't exactly spend tons of time in your hotel room.

@Cherries590

That’s very odd and very mean

I feel like I'm shouting into the void here but how the hell is this mean? The OP's husband is, it seems, paying for his adult 21 year old son to go on holidays with them. This alone is a privelege, but now he is accused of being mean for not forking out many hundreds of pounds extra for an additional room. Holidays at any age are a nice thing, a luxury you might say and no parent is obliged to provide them. Parents of adult children have zero obligation to pay for them to go on holidays and as for those posters in their 30s and 40s having parents paying for your holidays with them, I'm embarrassed for you.

If everyone is happy with that arrangement then I don’t see a problem,

I haven't read all the replies but I think you should just ask your son and do what he says he is happy with.

Did this with our daughter in her 30s when we did a fly drive in America. No problem

@sixthtimelucky

It's really not weird - I imagine everyone saying that has young kids and think 21 sounds ancient/completely grown up. My kids are 19 and 20, we love their company, and we would do this for a night or two to save costs, you don't exactly spend tons of time in your hotel room.

I love my parents' company too, but I wouldn't want to share a room with either of them overnight unless it was an emergency.

Last time we went on holiday, I shared a room with ds's then 17&13, and neither of them had a problem with it. Ds1 is now 19 and I'm pretty sure would still share if it was that or no holiday (although to be fair would be more likely to want to go away with his gf than me and his dbro!)
So long as your son is ok with it - and is comfortable saying if he isn't - then go for it.
That said, I didn't like sharing with my own parents as a teen, although happily shared with my dm when we went away in my 20's, so to each their own.

@Lucyk1

Geezo...im nearly 40 and just booked a Disneyland trip away with my mum and kid son and we are all in the same room. Better cancel now 🤔😂

It's not odd... Its only what you're used to.... Loads of family's go camping together, loads of families like their parents and don't mind it... Ask him!

Omg what happens if your Mom pulls and what's to have sex? Surely you were also planning on lots of sex too as it's a holiday? You all need separate rooms or to organise two rooms and a sex rota with Mom so DS has a safe place 🤣🤣

Not weird at all as long as you’re all comfortable with it. Maybe talk over your concerns with ds, to check he’s really alright with it.
We go away sometimes with my dad and without dh. We’re more than happy to share a family room - me and dd (7) in double bed, with my dad (72) and ds (14) in the single beds. Works brilliantly and we love the cosiness of all being together.
Have fun!!

Single supplements are expensive, if DS is ok with your usual arrangement then carry on it’s no ones business but yours.

If that’s what your budget allows it’s better than not going at all !

The OP's husband is, it seems, paying for his adult 21 year old son to go on holidays with them
Mean because DH is depriving OP of the holiday sex she deserves as a sexual woman by insisting on not paying for an extra room? Mean because DH is depriving DS of horny stranger sex in the bed DH is paying for? Mean of OP to insist they all share this depriving DH of holiday sex? Mean of DS to not turn it down, this cockblocking his own dad? Who knows 😁

I worked with a woman who slept in the same bed as her 35 year old son when she visited him and when on holiday together 😮

It is family. No big deal. And if he is okd enough, he can pay

Why not just ask him if he’s comforted with it? He’s an adult surely he can make up his mind d.

I had family short breaks where the entire family shared the house and everyone kind of slept wherever we could fit a bed. We are a family. Nothing weird going on. No one upset about it. Life is not all about sex and as long we didn't have to change in front of each it was fine. Find it strange that people think that once kids turn eighteen things like that are forbiden