To want a black and rose gold pram for our baby boy

[Taybz]

I'm 6 months pregnant and we've decided on getting the Egg2 travel system for our baby boy. I've fallen in love with the black diamond and rose gold edition:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-diamond-black/p5399692

I know it's on the girlier side but I think it's absolutely stunning and don't see what the big deal is about not getting such a pram for a baby boy. It's not like I've chosen a pink pram! Dh is completely against it but I know ultimately he'll succumb to my charms 😅 He is worried about what everyone else will think and say though. Family that I have shown think it's mad to get this pram for a boy due to the rose gold and glittery fabric. Is it really that mad??

My 2nd choice and Dh's 1st choice of colour is the Jurassic grey:

www.johnlewis.com/egg2-special-edition-stroller-luxury-travel-system-bundle-jurassic-grey/p5385626

I know rose gold is not to everyone's taste but I personally love it and the pram make me swoon! It's on the pricier side so I don't want us to make the wrong decision.

@Sirzy

I do wonder if sometimes parents are so keen to show that they don’t care about gender stereotypes that they take things too far the other way to show it. Almost like they are making some sort of point about it

Do you mean the ones who deliberately push the opposite gender onto the child as they perceive that as more liberal?

Much prefer the black. Wouldn’t even think of linking rose gold to gender as not a twat.

My first pram was £1k (silver Cross pioneer almost 5 years ago). I love prams(I had three at one point). I love buggies (they are my favourite!) But I've heard the eggs are really heavy. My pioneer was (is, it sits, patiently, waiting for another baby) a tank, and it was a nightmare to navigate with. The frame, plus the carrycot bit takes up the entirety of a boot. So that is my advice, before buying, you need to check it will go in the boot of the car plus a load of shopping or whatever. Have a go in the shop, if you're allowed, with weight in it, at getting it up and down a couple of steps! And it will get scratched and bashed up and the lovely shiny frame will be scuffed. But if you love it, go for it!

I reckon will be a top-notch dad

Not unless he gets a grip on gender stereoptype hooey and stops caring what other people think.

Our pram is blue with a pink sun canopy - because we liked the look of the combination. My husband is very happy pushing it around! We also have a yellow canopy (I originally wanted the yellow and could only get it as a spare) and we used that for a bit too. We’d happily use either of the canopies with either a boy or a girl.

My Son travelled around in a lovely green pram,that cost me £25, !!
I have never met anyone who was bothered about the colour of a pram or pushchair.

My DS's pram is green and rose gold and I've had only compliments about it - no one has said anything about it being girly because I really don't think that it is (I hate blue for boys, pink for girls anyway) and my husband happily pushes him in it (his wedding ring and watch are also rose gold).

I’m not going to get into what I think of the pram, since you haven’t asked for opinions and have still received many! However, I do think any major purchase to be used by both of you needs to be a joint decision. Really it’s no different to a new car, new sofa etc. So sorry as I know you love it but your DH doesn’t so you should chose something else together. If you’re certain it’s definitely the pram that best suits your needs/lifestyle then get it in another colour that he likes.

My friend has the camouflage egg for her baby girl and nobody has said anything

£1500 for a pram?? (wonders off tutting about fools and money..)

wanders , even...though wondering whilst wandering..

To play Devil’s advocate, maybe DH isn’t hating it so much because it’s pink as because it’s a bit bling. I guess it depends how often he’ll be pushing it though. I’m a massive fan of buying something that you absolutely love as you’ll be looking at it every day.

@TheKeatingFive

It isn't a ridiculous amount. That outlook of "you should spend less" could be applied to everything and everyone in life. It's a non issue here.

MN is weird about prams. It comes up every time. For some reason splashing on a pram is frowned upon. Though given the number of 4x4 lovers on here, spending astronomically on a car is absolutely fine.

Rather than being 'weird' I suspect it is because mumsnet by definition has a high percentage of people posting who have recently gone through the baby years and probably wish they had spent the money on something a bit more useful instead. My dcs spent very little time in the pram. They preferred the sling, and once they were bigger we got a McClaren buggy as it was much more convenient. Pram didn't hold its value at all. Sold it in as new condition for about 25% of cost price.

When you said the pram was “girlie”, I was expecting something very different to that rose gold one! I think it looks pretty neutral. It’s much nicer than the grey one.

There are no colours that only boys or only girls can have. All the colours are for all of us. So choose the one you like best.

@Whinge

I think it looks fine. Black is a practical colour and I assume the grey would show more stains / look dirty and worn more quickly.

Although as someone who has never bought a pram i'd shocked at just how much they cost. Is it normal to spend £1.5k on a pram?

Ignoring the ridiculous designer pram price, and baby not caring what colour the pram is, I thought the opposite as soon as I saw it.

The main staining on a pram is baby sick/milk, 2nd would be things like sun cream (3rd will be bird poo!), from experience a solid dark colour is the absolute worst colour for a pram. Stains show even after spills are washed down and the pink chassis will scratch and chip quickly.

OP if you want to invest in a pram that will last multiple children and still look ok, this isn't the one. Lots of mums, me included, were sucked in by the marketing and made the same mistakes buying expensive impractical travel systems and barely used them.

I suspect it is because mumsnet by definition has a high percentage of people posting who have recently gone through the baby years and probably wish they had spent the money on something a bit more useful instead.

I don’t see this at all. It seems to be mostly posters who see spending very little on a pram as a badge of honour (for some reason). Rather than regretting big purchases, there are tales about hauling McClarens out of skips.

It is bizarre. Where else are women told that they shouldn’t spend their money on things they can well afford?

Bloody hell!! I'd want real gold trim for that.

You can tell i had my babies in the 80's and had a big silvercross pram and added a toddler seat for when the 2nd one was born

Meh, it's more than I could justify, and not the one I'd pick personally, but aside from your partner not liking it (which is an issue I think as personally I think you both should like the pram), I think people are forgetting the excitement of buying for your first baby.

I remember being so excited choosing a pram - and my thoughts weren't based on value, or resale, I just wanted a pram that I loved. 4 years and 2 children down the line, I roll my eyes at how I went about that (as I ended up with a very pretty tank), but I'm glad I was allowed to be frivilous, even if current me thinks past me was daft.

I mean, first baby, the nursery was beautifully painted and sorted by 6m pregnant. In hindsight it was ready about a year too early, but that's part of the excitement of getting ready for your first baby right?

Perhaps in time, the OP will join the ranks of people selling/stopping using the 'pram of their dreams' and buy a cheap second hand one that fits in the car, does corners etc, but that's her journey. And maybe she will continue to use it.

I think we need to be careful not to sensible the fun out of the OP. She's excited and that's great :-)

Most of us felt the same way about something I expect.

Why are ppl acting so shocked at the price!?? It includes the car seat and isofix base too! That is pretty much the going rate for a travel set imo.

DD’s pram was blue, because I liked it, and strangers always assumed she was a boy. That isn’t something that bothered me but if it is then it could get annoying.

Its beautiful but people will presume its a girl but who cares loads of people get that mixed up.

If you have 2 babies very quickly you will need a double pushchair type thing as baby number 1 will be very young and be walking everywhere or even walking.

So may not be an investment, you will probably switch to a stroller as its so much easier.

Oh and I did get the expensive pram (not that one, a different one) and used it every day for 2.5 years. That thing did more miles than our car. Worth every penny. If we had more DC it would have done even more service.

I would say you and your dh need to come to an agreement on what colour the pram should be. Both would be suitable.

@notthemum

Don't know if any pics were posted, so had to go off and google it. It is gorgeous. When my Dd was born we were really skint so my DSis lent me her pram. It was cream with a brown hood. Weather was unbelievably hot that year so I had a red parasol, baby was in a hand made pink dress with matching booties and a little white mop cap. People still asked if she was a boy or girl though. Idiots will always ask. Honestly go with what you like. Other people's opinions are not important.

I think that is harsh and unfair. Some people will be trying not to offend so will ask what the sex if the baby is so as not to piss off the parent.

Oh my word do people nowadays really spend a grand and a half on a pram😮 I’m out of touch, my babies are adults. I’d probably go for the grey as it’s less gimmicky colour wise. Enjoy this exciting time.