Kids abandoned downstairs

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I feel really so rough. Husband is away taking exams.
Bloated- so so sore
Abdo pain
Back ache
Fatigue
Muscle aches

I just can't be arsed. I've never been Bloated I'm my life until this week and now it's almost constant. A couple of weeks ago I was tested for thyroid issues as my periods are messed up and the tiredness and aching.

The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them. Please tell me this is ok? I have no local family

People can be very unkind on here sometimes.

I've had to call my dp home from work before when I was feeling so rough (have a 2 year old). I was so bloated my stomach felt huge and rock hard. The pain was nothing like I had felt before and I spent over an hour hunched over the bed and rocking. Turned out it was gallstones, just a thought? The attacks when they come are horrendous!
Hope you feel better soon x

Appendicitis?? Isit right sided abdominal pain. I'd take some tabs get downstairs put disney life on get ipads out and a heat bag and drinks bottles ready. I'd also say plx don't touch mummy as uts poorly. Currently been lazy myself laid on sofa watching vamparina whilst my 6 year old is eating cherries and a plum.

You’re on mumsnet... you’re fine!

Intrigued by an exam on a Sunday though....

FWIW I'm currently lying in the bath, scrolling mumsnet mindlessly, whilst my 3yo and 4yo are downstairs watching TV. I'm not even poorly 🤷‍♀️

I hope you've managed to conserve enough energy to get them some tea and get them into bed if your husband's not home til late, and I hope it's just a nasty bug and that you feel better soon x

3 and 4 is far to young to be letting themselves outside when you are in bed oblivious to what they are doing. 😠 Honestly where's the common sense?

Could you bring them into the bedroom with you? I had gastric flu when one of mine was 18 months and we both just stayed upstairs. Not ideal but like you I had no one to call on. Not everyone has an extended family. I hope you feel better soon.

@LordOfTheOnionRings

So you can post on mumsnet but not look after your kids? hmmmm okay.

Don’t be so bloody horrible

I'd better not be having a baby!!! My periods are almost non existent these days. I'm pretty sure it's not a baby though.

I'm ok now. Just a hard tummy.

I think when you have a 12 month age gap there is a certain need for a child to be self sufficient. They can make scrambled eggs on toast with minimal support, run themselves a bath, wash themselves, dress themselves. They can make a sandwich. Chop things like mushrooms and peppers for dinner. They can both wipe their own bums.

Dh and I had this conversation when covid was new. We reckoned They would be able to survive for a couple of days if dh and I were incapacitated.

Dh is doing a "part time" degree. Lectures are two weekends a month.

Mostly left sided abdo pain. Some under my ribs where my stomach is tight. There's no organs on the left so I'm not about to die. This is after several months of dull pelvis ache though which has been irritating

They are up with me now but i wasn't oblivious. I could hear exactly what they were doing through the open window

I think your liver is on the left actually. I don't think any child that age should need to be self sufficient.

Liver is on the right, partially under the ribs

Yes they can do those things with supervision, I certainly hope you are not leaving a 3 year old alone to run a bath. Letting what are realistically 2 pre schoolers to let themselves in and out the house while you are in bed is neglect. They are preschoolers not 7 year olds.

Now I think you are paying our legs a little. Surely you can't expect many people to think it is normal or advisable for kids that age to be cooking themselves albeit simple meals etc?

Why dont you go and see the GP tomorrow. Its best to get checked over.

They can make scrambled eggs on toast with minimal support, run themselves a bath, wash themselves, dress themselves. They can make a sandwich. Chop things like mushrooms and peppers for dinner.surely they're not allowed to be chopping veg, cooking eggs and running baths unsupervised? It only takes one accident.

My friend had similar symptoms and it was an ovarian cyst. She was told it was “stress” until it burst and she needed emergency surgery, I would be pushing for un ultrasound OP so you have some idea what is going on.
Endometriosis sounds possible too ?

Take some lansoprazole and a glass of milk

Sure they are cooking food. Very funny

A 4.5 child makes scrambled eggs and toast? Are you kidding, OP?

I don't wanna panic you....but you're not in labour are you? Hope you're feeling better soon, looking after young children when you're I'll is awful, do you have anyone who could come and sit with you whilst your husband gets home?

They can make scrambled egg on toast? Blimey I thought my kids were advanced at that age 🤣

I'm not a troll. They can do those things but i never let them do it unsupervised. During lockdown over the summer we did most cooking together and they just kind of learnt.

Glad to hear you’ve got them with you now. They should at least be on the same floor as you and mostly with you as much as possible for any great length of time - young children just don’t have the wherewithal to properly keep themselves safe, no matter how self sufficient they might be in some respects. And I say that as a parent whose overall style was quite close to benign neglect.

I hope you feel better soon!