Kids abandoned downstairs

[Heartofstrings]

I feel really so rough. Husband is away taking exams.
Bloated- so so sore
Abdo pain
Back ache
Fatigue
Muscle aches

I just can't be arsed. I've never been Bloated I'm my life until this week and now it's almost constant. A couple of weeks ago I was tested for thyroid issues as my periods are messed up and the tiredness and aching.

The kids pop up to say hi every so often and I've just chucked cereal at them. Please tell me this is ok? I have no local family

How long until he gets home?

He will be quite late tonight. Maybe just before the kids bed time.
I'm gonna message a couple of friends. They are usually busy though

The thing is, your DH is sitting an exam and you are telling him (and strangers on the internet) about symptoms which could be something or nothing.

All he (or anyone here) can say is: if you are worried, call 111. They will tell you one way or the other. No need for further pondering.

Any chance you've got Covid?

Bloated- Hepatomegaly?
Abdo pain - ditto
Back ache - kidney pain?
Fatigue - definite symptom
Muscle aches - definite symptom

Glad they are with you. Too young to be left.

You need to ring 111. They might reassure you but if not someone will have to help with the children if you are seriously poorly.

Hope you feel better soon.

I also think you need to phone 111 and try to get seen.

Maybe I’m wrong but my first impression is that it sounds like you’re blowing thing out of proportion and worrying needlessly - particularly jumping to conclusions about cancer etc. Call 111 for advice if you’re worried. I think allowing the children free rein downstairs was poor judgement, they’re far too young to be left alone without supervision for prolonged periods of time.

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Well

If you’re questioning whether to seek professional advice or medical attention because it’s not very convenient then possibly you aren’t as bad as you first made out and it’s something that can wait.

I had been slightly ill, fever and pain, for a few days. It was Friday and my GP closes at noon. I told my teenage son that if I weren't better by Monday I would call and get an appointment. Two hours later I was in an ambulance heading for the hospital (where I stayed for three weeks) with a kidney infection that would have killed me within 24 hours. My son had gotten worried and called his older sister who told him to ignore me and call and ambulance.
Don't ignore. Get medical help.

@GeorgiaGirl52 yes, kidney infections are awful and can be very dangerous.

Im not sure that the OP Is in immediate danger, from what she’s described, and I did say she could call 111 for advice. If she’s not bothered enough to just pick up the phone at least then maybe it’s a bug and age just needs rest.

Call 111. The curled up and sickness makes me think of gallstones.

I'm thinking Op needs to seek professional help, it could be anything, appendix, twisted ovaries or cyst, something clearly isn't right.

OP, I’m not going to try and diagnose you over the internet as that is just borderline reckless but just wanted to say I hope your feel better soon and don’t worry unduly about the kids. As long as they are safe and next to you a day or two of cereal and tv is fine. Take it easy and hope you get to the bottom of it soon.

The feeling of helplessness and dread can be a sign of something serious in itself, presuming you don't have that usually. It would be kidneys, sepsis or Covid but it does sound like you need to speak to a doctor.
Call one of those friends and beg them to take the kids for the afternoon. Then call the 111 and tell them what you've told us.
When that dread kicks in, you can feel like it's easier to do nothing but it's a sign.

Aa long you are in the same house, I dont see a problem. They know here you are if they need you. In our house kids were always awake and occupying themselves downstairs early doors.

I have endometriosis, adenomyosis and ME and 4.5 year old twins who are both autistic. The bad days are absolutely brutal but I physically can’t leave them in a room unattended. I agree you need to be seen - you could have a ruptured cyst, ovarian torsion, ectopic pregnancy, appendicitis etc etc... at the very least you need some decent pain relief.

Do you know your neighbours? Could you ask them to go to the chemist for you? Paramol over the counter is about as good as you can get.

I’d call a doctor, if the pain is so bad you have to be in bed it must be intense. Hope you feel better soon.

if the symptoms of anything are serious enough that you can't look after children then yes, you at very least need the GP

I think you need to get someone to mind your DCs. I used to go and lie down upstairs before a nightshift for an hour leaving DC (aged 6& 4) in front of TV downstairs. But I could and would have been able to act quickly in an emergency. It spunds like you are properly incapacitated.

I'm doing ok. I'm sat down with the kids. Some backache and the pressure in my stomach is incredible but the pain has eased. That's been my experience this week, it comes and goes. I'm exhausted.
Kids are doing good. Playing nicely, in and out of the garden, pottering around. Unfortunately they aren't the telly watching type of children. I'm sat on the sofa now

@Heartofstrings when was the last time you drank water? Force yourself to rehydrate, some of your symptoms may be worse because of a lack of water.
When and what was the last thing you ate? If you can't bear food, drink some milk at least xxx

Everyone else has spoken about supervision but just wish to say that bloating is not something to ignore as a woman. Please do speak to a GP about your symptoms particularly mentioning the sense of feeling full/bloated alongside other things

I had a cheese and ham sandwich at around 10am. Some water sounds like a good idea.

It was dairy free but not gluten free. I'm not hungry. But I can probably force some water down. I feel pretty full

Call 111 and see what they say. If they advise an OOH appointment try your friends. I would drop what I was doing if I had a friend needing childcare for an emergency OOH appointment.

This has got to be joke?

You too ill to Gove a shit that your kids 3.5 year old is not even in the house and out of your site but your on MN?

ok

Hope you are feeling better soon and it’s definitely the right decision to have them with you. When mine were that age, they were playing in the enclosed garden while I sat in the adjoining living room talking to a friend and watching them play. It went quite for a few seconds and that’s when I discovered my three year old had managed to climb up, open the back gate and go to the park opposite our house with her sister. Thankfully they were fine, but they can get into mischief fast.