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Chairs given away have caused damage, who should pay?

303 replies

FirstNameSurname · 03/06/2021 10:01

Last year I was given a dining table and due to lockdown I brought the cheapest chairs online to make the table usable. I used them all year for homeschooling, meals etc they have been well used. Metal legs are a bit rocky etc so I went shopping now we can and brought replacements.
Chatting to a friend I mentioned mutual friend was helping me take a load to the skip. Friend asked what I was taking and I said the chairs. Friend asked for the chairs. I explained they were a bit grubby and rocky and were the ones I got last year cheap online so didn't think they were worth the trip to hers for her to then need to skip them soon. She said she still wanted them, so I dropped them off to her about 3 weeks ago.

This morning she messages me to say the chairs have cut circles in the lino. I apologised and said that I was sorry I should have just skipped them when I planned to. She has come back saying I should have known and shes not happy. I called her and explained that on my tiled floor it wasn't something I noticed. Shes replied it was the tiles that have caused the plastic ends to push into the leg exposing the metal leg and caused the problem. Just as I said my goodbyes she said "well you'll need to replace the lino before I move out else you'll need to give me the money I loose on my deposit" and hung up. I've text to say she asked for the chairs knowing they were in a poor condition so I can't give her anything to replace the lino. Shes now blocked me.

So who should pay?

OP posts:
TheKeatingFive · 03/06/2021 10:34

She’s got to be kidding.

She rescued them from a skip ffs. Entirely her problem.

Nothingyet · 03/06/2021 10:34

@murbblurb

Ignore. And the silly bitch should know that deposits don't work like that, she'll be charged buttons for the damage.
She be charged for a new floor, is that buttons?
ImprobablePuffin · 03/06/2021 10:34

It was on her to check they were suitable when she asked for them.
Not your problem and you're well rid of this 'friend'

PickAChew · 03/06/2021 10:35

Newsflash. Thin chair legs need to go on protective casters on delicate floors. You friend's lack of foresight isn't your fault.

RainbowCrayons · 03/06/2021 10:35

The fact she blocked you shows she knows she's being daft too. Otherwise she would have left you able to contact her to give her the money. She knows there's no way you're giving it to her.

DeathByWalkies · 03/06/2021 10:36

Ha, not your problem at all

Flowers500 · 03/06/2021 10:36

Whatever she’s smoking, I want some!

shivawn · 03/06/2021 10:36

I would probably just laugh in her face and tell her to cop on. Do you really want to keep her as a friend?

LadyPenelope68 · 03/06/2021 10:37

She’s utterly bonkers, not your problem at all.

BrilliantBetty · 03/06/2021 10:38

She took them knowing they were shit.... otherwise you wouldn't be off to the dump with them?! So stupid. Of course you didn't do anything wrong, since you told her they were bad condition.

She should have used her eyes and seen they were damaged/ likely to cause damage.

BlueberryPunch · 03/06/2021 10:40

Shes now blocked me
Good riddance

Beseigedbykillersquirrels · 03/06/2021 10:41

I am aghast at her cheek!! Didn't she ever move the chairs to clean under them, and spot the marks before they became more seriously damaged?
She has to be the cheekiest fucker we've ever seen on here! She can get bent. If she's blocked you I wonder how she imagined she'll ask you for the money anyway? Or will she unblock you for that? No good deed eh?

Jux · 03/06/2021 10:43

Her responsibility to make the chairs usable in her space. Knowing that they were in shit condition, she should have had a look. It would have been easy to buy some new rubber ends to put on the legs. If she had been paying attention, she would have seen a dent in her lino long before the legs actually cut through and taken action then. That she didn't is her problem not yours.

Do you want to stay friends? How much?

Skysblue · 03/06/2021 10:44

She is mad. You let her have some rubbish that she insisted on having and now she’s upset that it’s rubbish?! Don’t pay anything what a cf.

RonSwansonsChair · 03/06/2021 10:45

She's blocked you, job done! One less thing for you to worry about.
Jeez, some people are ridiculous!

Horehound · 03/06/2021 10:46

Nope! Cheeky bisom

PurpleMustang · 03/06/2021 10:46

She is bat shit. She would of noticed that when she moved that chairs they were 'sticking' to the lino where they were starting to cut in. You tried to put her off numerous times without even considering her type of flooring yet she still wanted them. Keep her number blocked

IEat · 03/06/2021 10:47

What a cheek. It’s down to her you told her you’d rather they be skipped and chose to take them. Be firm when she contacts and say I’m not paying you chose to take the chairs when I was ready to skip them

toocold54 · 03/06/2021 10:48

Not you! Imagine buying chairs from IKEA and trying to get your money back because they damaged your cheap lino.
You were kind to even give her the chairs so she should be thankful! I’d be ending this friendship asap and not feeling bad about it.

HotSauceCommittee · 03/06/2021 10:48

That's not a friend.

NoProblem123 · 03/06/2021 10:49

Best CFer thread I’ve read in ages Grin

Not your problem !!

LookItsMeAgain · 03/06/2021 10:49

You need to say (if she calls you again about the chairs) "They are YOUR chairs. They stopped being MY chairs the moment you took them. I was going to put them in the skip but you took them out. Whatever damage they did or didn't do to your flooring is YOUR problem. While I'm sorry about this problem it's not MY problem to fix, it's YOURS. I don't want us to fall out about this but if you persist in thinking that chairs you took from me are some how still mine and any damage is mine to fix then you will cause us to fall out, and it seems such a silly thing to fall out over".

AutoIncorrect · 03/06/2021 10:50

She’s fucking deluded. Cheeky bitch, if she unblocks you tell her to fuck off.

MimiDaisy11 · 03/06/2021 10:50

Even if you're exaggerating the warnings you gave her and if you had just given her the chairs without saying they were worn it's still her responsibility to check them over to see they're suitable for her flooring etc.

Brainwave89 · 03/06/2021 10:51

You were very generous, and there is no liability for you here legally or morally. Just ignore.